female empowerment

209 | You Get To Decide

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
I lost out on opportunities - all because I wanted to be in the perfect will of God. Now, I had no idea that this old conditioning was actually a narrative I had formed about how I did life, how I did business, how I was in relationships, and this narrative seeped into my subconscious and it really penetrated For all of my decision-making.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Have you found yourself unable to commit to a decision for fear that you’ll make the wrong one and might end up displeasing someone or ‘out of God’s will’?

For years I was paralyzed when it came to decision-making because I wanted to be certain that I was making the best decision possible. In the end, I lost out on relationships and opportunities because I thought I needed to find the ‘right answer’.

Today on the podcast I’m sharing a story with you that helped me realize that I am a co-creator in my life.

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 30-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

 
 
 
 

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
For years, I was struggling with analysis paralysis, thinking that I needed to do the Divine Will of God in absolutely every area of my life. It left me feeling overwhelmed, struggling to really come up with decisions that worked for my life, for my business, and even for my relationships. And today on the podcast, I want to talk to you about what that looks like. When you are open to the possibilities for your life.

Kate 0:33
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 0:58
Hello there, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea crisp, I am your host. And I am really excited to be back with you, I took a little bit of a break from recording, went on vacation, it was amazing. And I was prepared in advance which you gotta love when you take the time to do things in advance. So the past few episodes have been pre recorded. And I was ready to go all the way up until now. So I am now back in the studio. But always so excited to be with you. Honestly, this is one of the most fun things I do in my business, I really have to say that it is something I love to do. I have been hosting this podcast for four and a half years, almost five years. And I love taking the time to press record and just sharing some of the thoughts that I have been learning things that are happening in my world that I hope will help you to live bravely in your life and in your business.

So I want to share a story with you today about something that happened while I was on vacation. And honestly, it was something that really helped to reframe a perspective in my life that I didn't even realize needed to shift. And when this happened, I started seeing myself in a whole new light. And when I tell you this story, I would love for you to look at your own life in context of what is happening in your particular situation right now. So whether that is in business, whether that's in relationships, finances, health, in any particular area, you can apply this particular principle to your life. Because so often when we are faced with indecision or face with overwhelm, we can limit ourselves because we're waiting for this like magical moment to happen, or like the, the answer to appear. Right. And for some people, even it's to get God's will for their life. And for me, that was something that I ascribe to for many, many years, as I was in the Christian faith, and I would actually everything, every decision I would make, I would want to know what was God's will for my life. And I would not make decisions. In fact, to my detriment, until I knew that it was like a yes from God. No, I'm not really sure what I was waiting for, to hear to be quite honest with you. And I think I had a little bit of the theology screwed up if I'm, if I'm really honest with you. But there were a lot of times in my life that I put things on hold, I put my life on hold, waiting for an answer to a question that was never going to come. And I was paralyzed. And I did not make those decisions. Or I waited too long.

I lost out on opportunities. All because I wanted to be in the perfect will of God. Now, I had no idea that this old conditioning was actually a narrative I had formed about how I did life, how I did business, how I was in relationships, and this narrative seeped into my subconscious and it really penetrated For all of my decision making, so when it came to making any type of move in business or trying to figure out whether or not I should, you know, launch a course, or put out a new coaching program, or what podcast topics, should I do this week, I was always waiting for the perfect answer the right answer. And I didn't realize that I was actually really just holding myself back. So when I went away, in, back in and the end of March, beginning of April to Florida, I decided that, you know, I really needed to kind of take a break from the overthinking and the overwhelm. And it had been, you know, a really tough season, the pandemic, you know, just kind of coming to an end sort of, and we had been in some lockdowns, and I was just really tired, and I was just over it, I was over it. And I was offered the opportunity to go down to Florida to visit my folks in Panama City Beach, my brother was going to come and watch my dog. And so I decided to take them up on the offer. And with a week, you know, notice I decided to get on a plane and head to Panama City Beach. And when I arrived in Florida, I was exhausted, like, I was so tired, it took me days to actually unwind and relax. And it was the first time in about two years that I had gone anywhere. And so I was really like stressed out thinking about traveling and flying and all of those things. Now, I didn't realize at the time how much that the past few years had impacted me. But as soon as I started traveling, and, you know, got into a new place and a new location and was like, Oh my gosh, things are so different here. That's what I realized how I had really kind of been living in this like fog. And friend, I don't know if you've ever been in a place in your in your life where you're just kind of like coming out of that the slumber. But all of a sudden, when you have this, like huge realization, you're like, oh my gosh, how I've How have I even been living like this, like this is crazy. So I was in a real state of analysis paralysis. And I was feeling all sorts of emotions in my life. And they were coming up fast and furious. Like there was a lot of fear, and shame and worry, and all of these things. And they were just like, you know, bubbling up to the surface bubbling up to the surface. But every day, I made a decision that I was gonna go out to the ocean. So my parents lived right across the street from the ocean. And I was gonna walk in, oh, my gosh, it's like so beautiful. If I could tell you describe to you the most pure white crystally soft sand with beautiful turquoise ocean. And it's like sunsets for days. Like I mean, just an amazing, amazing, amazing view. And I would walk the beach. And as I would walk, you know, every day got a little bit better for me. And I was starting to unwind and relax. But every time I would go on a walk, I would ask God universe this one question, I would say, What do you want to talk about today? And I was really hoping that I was gonna get you know, is a magical answer. As I talked about before, because I always want to do the right thing I want to be in like the will of God, I want to, you know, make sure that I'm always doing what it is that I need to be doing. So anyways, so in particular day, I'm walking. It's actually close to the end of my trip. And I just had the sense like this phrase comes into my mind, you get to decide. And I stopped in my tracks and I thought what do you mean, I get to decide? And like I get to decide what we talk about or what. And what I really felt in my spirit was you get to decide how you want to live your life. And it was like all of a sudden, a light bulb went on. Here I had been wanting answers for so long. And God universe was saying to me, Andrea, you get to decide. And the reason why you haven't got the momentum or the movement in certain areas of your life is because you're waiting for an answer that only you have get to decide.

And I was like, Oh my gosh. And I started to see in every area how I had put this limitation on myself on opportunity, on growth, on relationships, because I was thinking, well, certain things are, you know, what God wants me to do. And I didn't take into consideration that the creator of the universe, universe itself, God would give me the option of creating, designing and deciding what I want for my life. And the reason I wanted to share this with you, because it was so impactful for me. As someone who grew up in the Christian church in the Christian faith, it has been really hard for me to peel back some of those layers as I've done a faith deconstruction. And as I'm working with coaches, and online entrepreneurs, and artists and creatives to help coach them with their mindset, and to help put them on a path towards really living out their full purpose and potential in their life. It is important for me to consistently be doing the work in my own life. And I had started to realize that this was going to limit me and limit what I was capable of doing. And the only reason it was going to limit waves because I was letting it not because I am innately limited. Because I'm not, I am full of possibility. There's possibility Around me there is nothing that I probably couldn't do. I mean, maybe apart from being in the NBA, or the NHL, or something like that, or an Olympian. But I mean, even maybe if I learned something, there's nothing that that we cannot do that when we put our minds to it. And when we know we are skilled to do that particular thing. And we limit ourselves because we think that there needs to be the perfect answer the perfect solution. And we're waiting for this magical moment to happen for us to then say, okay, yeah, this is it. This is exactly what I need to be doing in my life. And, friend, here's the thing, you get to decide. You get to create exactly what you want in your life. And in your business. You get to create exactly what you want. In your finances, in in your health, you get to create exactly what you want in your relationships and in your experiences in life. And yet, we hold ourselves back. Because we feel as though we only have certain options, when really, we have been given the opportunity to create whatever it is that we desire. Now, just because we decide to do it doesn't mean that it's a fait accompli. Okay, there's a little bit more to it than just that. But for some of you right now listening, you haven't even gotten to that point yet. And, hey, there is no judgement here.

Because, as I said previously, I was also in the same place where I was waiting for the perfect answer, the perfect moment, the perfect thing. And really, I think the underlying root for me was the will of God. For you, it could be something completely different. But what I want to encourage you today with is that if there's something that you want, you get to decide if you want to do it or not. You can say yes, and you can say no. So I want to encourage you with that today. Now next week, I want to continue with this conversation. And I'm going to talk to you about a little bit more about expectations. And I want to talk to you about what does that look like when you're setting those expectations in your life. So once you've decided what it is that you want, how do you take that and manifest that in to your life. So I love for you to join me next week. And I'll be chatting about that. But if you need a little extra support over the week, and you would love to join me for a free zoom call, I am hosting the mindset mentor circle every Wednesday at 12pm. Eastern Standard Time. This is a safe space for online coaches and entrepreneurs to just be real, and to have community to receive coaching, and to really release some of these limitations in a space where you can get a rapid transformation. And you don't have to worry about any fear of judgment, you just get to show up and be yourself. And of course, the bonus is it is free. So I'd love for you to join me. There is a link in the show notes for you to join and sign up for the mindset mentor circle. So I just want to say thanks for hanging out with me today if we have not connected I hope that we do. You can find all my links in the show notes afterwards. And I can't wait to be with you again next week. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

Kate 16:09
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208 | How To Use Human Design To Communicate Your Messaging

WITH RACHAEL WEAVER

 
 
 
We hear all the time that gurus are telling you to do this, this, and this, and you can copy what they do verbatim but not get the same result as them. Why? Because your energy isn’t in alignment at that moment, when you’re doing those actions, there’s like a head and heart coherence that needs to happen. where your head is on board, your heart is on board your desires, and you’re actually moving towards something that you truly desire.
— Rachael Weaver
 

About This Episode:

Do you ever feel like your messaging just isn’t landing with your ideal customer?

And you’re wondering if only I could figure out exactly what I want to say. Today on the podcast I’m talking with Rachael Weaver who is a genius when it comes to copy and Human Design. And this is the episode we all need to hear in order for us to truly stand in our authority and market our words with ease.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Do you ever feel like your messaging just isn't landing with your ideal customer, and you're wondering if only I could figure out what I truly want to say. Today on the podcast, I'm talking with Rachel Weaver who is a genius when it comes to copy, and human design. And this is the episode that we all need to hear. In order for us to truly stand in our authority, and market our words with ease.

Kate 0:32
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 0:58
Hello, friends, welcome to the courage cast, I am so glad that you are here with me today. And I've got a really incredible episode for you. We're going to be talking with Rachel Weaver today all about how to write copy from our human design. And this is something that I have only recently been introduced to and honestly, totally blowing my mind, totally blowing my mind. And Rachel really helps us to understand the different parts of human design, as well as how we can use it within our marketing, specifically when it comes to what we're writing, and how we're putting our words out into the world. And so you are going to absolutely get so much from this conversation. So without further ado, here's my conversation with Rachel Weaver. Rachel, thank you for joining me on the courage cast. I am so glad to be chatting with you today. Thanks. I can't wait for people to get to know you. Honestly. Thank you for being here.

Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited for conversation.

Hello. I just love talking sowell, then you're in the right.

Yes.I like listening.

You know, it's it's funny. The listeners may not know this, but unless unless they've like watched my stories or even read some of my posts in Instagram. But we tried to record this episode about a week ago. And right in the middle of the episode, we probably like 30 minutes into the conversation. I had this like overwhelming sense to stop the podcast recording. And and I asked you if that would be okay with you. And you graciously said yes. And I was really overwhelmed. It was me. It was all me. Yeah. And I've never done that before. And I just want to thank you for coming back. Even though you're rudely interrupted the first not really at all, um, it was it? Honestly, I could feel that there was a difference in your voice when the first time we had talked the week before that. So I'm glad that you said something. And I will never ever, like go against someone's intuition. If their intuition is telling them something, then oh my gosh, like by all means, listen, let's read. Let's come back to this. revisit it later. Yeah, yeah. And I wanted to bring that up, because I think it's important to our conversation today. Because you are all about human design, you do copy and writing for people, and also just helping them understand a little bit more about how they can communicate through human design, knowing their own human design, and I'm sure we'll get to that.

But a lot of that does revolve around energy. And, you know, the energy that we're in. And I had, previously to our conversation had, you know, launched the 200th episode of the podcast, and then two days later, put out an additional episode, which I never do. I never launched two episodes in a week. And I was really, really exhausted. My energy was very drained. I was coming from a place that felt very depleted. Yeah. And I know when you're working with people, you probably talk a lot about the energy that they're in. Why is it important that people are in the right energy for them, when they are doing things in their business in life? I think the start Yeah, it's a great place to start. I think when you have two people doing the same actions, and they don't get the same results, right? We hear all the time like gurus are telling you do this, this and this and you can copy what they do verbatim but not get the same result as them. Why?

Because your energy isisn't in alignment in that moment, when you're doing those actions, there's like a head and heart coherence that needs to happen. where your head is on board, your heart is on board your desires, and you're actually moving towards something that you truly desire. Not just like ego, one ego, want, desire, but what you truly, truly desire. And I think we get lost in that. But yeah, really understanding.

Rachael Weaver 5:26
I think the hardest part is understanding and knowing what energy you're in, in the moment, because it isn't always blatantly obvious, like, sometimes it is when you're just crabby, right? Or you're just happy and excited, right? Like, those are the easy ones. But there's subtler differences, too, when you're just doing your thing, you're just in your business working on things. And you don't necessarily realize the undertone of your energy, and what you're putting out there. It could be an undertone of frustration that like you're been writing these things, and nobody's really posting, but you got to post anyway, like, you really have to be cognizant and aware of what's going on in your head. Because that'll give you an idea of what your energy is doing.

Andrea Crisp 6:10
So if somebody you know, like, we're talking about that, you know, that, you know, feeling maybe emotion that somebody might feel when they are about to put something out into the world, like, you know, could be social media posts could be a podcast episode.

What What should someone look for when they are about to do that? Yeah. Are there things that they can just even like? Start a starting point? Yeah, I think the starting point is, what is your intention with posting? What is your intention? That's really right. It's really,what is your intention? Or is your intention just to post because you feel like you need to post something? That's not going to be the best energy is your intention? Because you are wanting to share what your offer is? Okay. Are you excited to share it? Or do you feel like, oh, I don't have any clients lined up, I need to go post something, because I need to get some clients booking. Right? Like, what is the intention behind the post? From the get go? Yeah. So there's a lot of, you know, people who are, you know, at the beginning stages of their business who maybe don't, like you said, have a client that's lined up. And I think that they, that's when you get into that spinning cycle of like, you know, I don't have anybody coming. So what do you usually suggest to somebody who's in that position where maybe they're starting out, and they're not seeing people engage right away? And yeah, what would you say to that? Well, it's honestly, it's like anybody that pivots in their business, or they change the message, you kind of, it takes a certain amount of time for people to catch up with you and realize what you're doing. So you can feel like you're talking incessantly about something you are. So in your business, your the energy is intense that you're like, I this is what I'm offering that right, you're, it's feels big to you, but what you're actually putting out there is only like one or two posts here or there. And not everybody sees it, because algorithms and whatever. So what you're actually putting out there doesn't match what you think you're putting out there. Does that make sense? Like, yeah, and so in the beginning, yeah, you got to talk incessantly about what you do. And when you pivot, and you change your message a little bit, I'm famous for this, I changed my message, I pivoted, I think, like three or four times in the last two years.

Rachael Weaver 8:34
And it, you have to take a step back and really lay the foundation again and tell people what you're doing. And it takes them a few weeks to catch up with you incessantly talking about it. And then they're like, oh, okay, then you can back off a little bit, then you have like, what you call, like, you're known for something specific, right? But you have to talk about it all the time in the beginning, the first little bit, right? And in the energy of like, I'm just really excited to share that I can do this for you that I can help you with this. Now, is there ever a time that somebody can share out of maybe a little bit of frustration or angst, and have it be a good thing?

Um, I'm sure there is. But I think ultimately, the, the outcome you want is not in that energy. You write like, you can get people contacting you off of posts that you wrote when you were frustrated. But are those your ideal clients?

Maybe not, maybe they're people that maybe you were stuck in the pain of frustration, right? So you put this post out there, and then the people you get coming to you from that post are second frustration themselves and can't figure out how to get out. And okay, yes, wehelp people through their frustration.

But there's a difference between people that are ready to hear what you have to say and ready to, to work on that frustration and get out of it, right? versus people that are just stuck in a story and can't get out of it no matter what you say. Right. Okay, so So I guess what I, what I'm understanding or hearing you say is like, if you're frustrated with something and you want to talk about that topic, then it's probably a good, like, you know, take, you know, take that topic and kind of put it to the side for a little bit until your frustration eases and then talk about it from a place that you're in a better energy. Yeah, that would bring a better result, a better result that, you know, then just out of frustration, is that yeah, and I think it still comes back to the intention of why do you feel like you need to say this? What is the intent behind saying this? Yeah. And if so, yeah.

Yeah, there's like, for example, I just know, the like, lately, there's one particular person I follow, I will obviously not tell who this person is. She's the coach, she makes a lot of money. And she's been not well, and she talks about that a lot on her Instagram. And, and then she's selling as she's talking about it. You know, I haven't I haven't been well, and I'm selling and selling. And like, for some reason, I at the beginning, when I first started following her, I was finding a lot of value out of what she had to offer. And then the more she was talking to me about not feeling well. I tuned out. Yeah, yeah. And I was like, Oh, I don't know that I really want to work with you. Yeah. Is that kind of what you're talking about? I mean, he had it.

You can't go off of what other people do, because number one, we may not be the best client for them. We may not be what the type of person they're trying to reach, right?

Maybe we are. And but you have to kind of look at what other people are doing and discern like, does this sit well with me? Do I? Do I? Am I attracted to this? Or am I not in my pulled away from it? Right? And just trust your own judgment of the energy in in a way that it's they do whatever they want to do? And that's fine, right? Like there's no judgment or shame on what they do. It's just that doesn't resonate with me. But what does resonate with me? How do I want my people to feel when they're reading my stuff? What is the intent behind me helping them? Right? If there's an intent of like, I need to make money?

Andrea Crisp 12:48
Yeah, so somebody is not necessarily going to write that. But that comes through. Yes, the intent of needing to make money that neediness comes through. Yeah. And how does that come through? Like Wait, like, wait, I'm so curious. I think it's more than just feeling I think people don't give enough credit to how they feel. So somebody may read a post, okay. So say I write a post them like, I really need to make some money. Like, I'm like, things are getting really serious around here, we got some bills to pay, but you know, I'm really worried about him, right? So I'm going to put up these posts, I got it, I, I can sell this program, I know I can, I'm going to put it out there. And if your intention and thought is I need to make money, it gives it a desperate energy in the post. So not you could have it literally could say the exact same thing, but with a different intent and different energy behind it, and it will reveal different results. That's what we're talking about.

Okay, so that's why it's important to do the work the inner work. Yeah, yeah. Because you can, you can literally say the same thing, but it has a different energy behind it, and it will attract different people. And I think when your intent is to truly help people and to truly just give your service, then I feel like the universe lines up behind you and was like, Alright, let's do this. And it'll help you with the algorithm like they're getting it out and in front of the people that need to see it, it the universe will help you and support you in doing that. But if your intent is more scarcity, and I need to make money and I need to make this business work, then the universe is behind that too. But it's going to deliver it to people that are in that same frame of mind, and those are not the best clients to have. Those are the refund seekers. Yeah, I have two two friends that come to mind that are both amazing and both that operate at a very different energy frequencies like in the sense of like, how their personality comes across. And one is very calm and very peaceful and the other one's a little bit more like you know, hard hitting you

You know, doesn't take any, you know, shit off anybody? Yeah. And I'm equally drawn to them. Yeah. For what they do. One does completely different thing than the other person. Yeah.

But it's so interesting because, you know, like, it's not about the personality, right? Like, it's not about your personality, it's about the energy. Exactly. Yeah, you can be soft spoken and introverted. And just softer, right? Like, you're not that bold in your face kind of person with beautiful energy behind you with an intent of just to share your gifts, and you will be just as successful as somebody that is bold in your face doesn't take shit. And if long is their intent is again just to serve what they're what they their gifts are. And yeah, yeah, it doesn't matter what your personality is the

Rachael Weaver 15:52
Your personality is amplified by the energy behind it.

Andrea Crisp 15:56
Oh, that's good. Wow, that's good. Your personality is amplified by the energy behind it. Yeah, that's really good. Yeah. Oh, my gosh, okay, that's really good.

I'm thinking about, you know, just even, you know, the past, how maybe I operated or shared my, my voice or my story. And for many, many years, probably was afraid to be who I truly was. And I think there are these sides of me, that I feel are more approachable. Yeah. So it's like, it's easy to put out the side of you, that feels approachable. And then the side of you that is a little bit like, more intense, I would say.

So the side of me that was more intense. I wanted to kind of like, rein that in, because I was so afraid of that intensity being off putting that I only allowed my, the part of my personality that is going to be like approachable. Yeah. And spent a lot and but now that I'm thinking about that, and it's like, I never really allowed the intense part of me come through with the right intention.

Yes, held it back. Yeah. So I just stopped it completely. So never really being as truly authentic as I could. Because, yeah, I thought, Oh, that is going to put people off me. When really, if my intention is in integrity. I hear you saying, Yeah, then it's going to attract the people who need to hear it anyways, because it's not necessarily how I'm saying it. It's about the intention and the energy that's behind why I'm saying yeah, absolutely. Yeah. We all have like multiple voices within us. I myself, like I played a lot when I had a photography business. I was either like really sassy, and kind of cocky, almost to being very flowery, flowery and poetic. And, like two very different.

And it's so funny, because I can see both out of Yeah. Yeah, it's kind of like, this is what my clients see in this. This is what my friend group sees. Mm hmm. Yeah. And, and, and like, could you marry the two? Yeah, like, can you marry the two in business, you can marry the two. And again, it comes always back to intention for me the sassy, cocky one came out when I was feeling scared. And not in control. That's when the sassy girl came out. The flower girl came in when she was like, Yeah, that's good. It's like peace, love from the 70s. Like, yeah.

Rachael Weaver 18:50
Um, yeah. So it was, it was how I was feeling the mood that I was in depended on the voice that came out. So I had a lot of work to do to figure out like, what?

What was going on there? Um, but mostly, yeah, you can bring the two together, and understand that they're all part of you. And they get to have a voice. But you get to decide like, ultimately, in what energy am I going to deliver this voice? Mm hmm. Today, I was working on launch plan for one of the groups that I'm gonna offer in the spring. And I was trying to make a decision between launching it soon. Or a month later, like 30 days later, it was either going to be now or later.

Andrea Crisp 19:43
And I had a video of kind of a launch strategy that I was going to rewatch and it's really good. But as I was watching it, and I was writing things down, and I was like, thinking to myself, this is really, really but it doesn't feel like it's where I'm at. So I turned the video off, and it turned some music on. And I just started to sit there and I'm like, Okay, I'm going to tune into my own intuition here. Like, what is my intuition telling me? Yeah. You know, do I need to launch it now? Do I need to launch it? Right. I guess the question is right now. Yeah, like not Yeah, you know? And

I was like, No, yeah, I don't. Yeah. I mean, financially, yes. You're like, obviously, like, the sooner the better, you launch something, right? They take messy action. But in the same way, I was like, No, that doesn't feel in integrity with where I'm at. And what what I want to put out, I want to put out something that feels really aligned. And, and so as I was doing that, I was like, I stopped doing the planning process, and I just kind of decided to dial it back and like, go and clean, do some other things. And just allow myself to settle a bit so that I could get the download of what it was that needed to come through. Yeah.

When you're doing, you know, launching or any kind of sales pages or anything, like how, how do you want to be when you're in that process? for myself or for clients? Either or who, um, for myself, and I know, what I've really learned this last year is that there is a dance between taking messy action and listening to your intuition, right? And it comes back to are you willing to step fully into yourself and who you're becoming? Because every time that I've held back, or I felt like no, now's not the good time, is because I wasn't ready to step into fully who I am. And for whatever reason, right, like you.

Rachael Weaver 22:11
And you can unpack that. And now that I see that, when I come to a spot where I'm like, Well, why don't I want to do this? Like, why do I need to hold back? And it's usually because like, No, I'm, I'm holding my own self back. Because I'm not ready to step into who I am. And then then it's asking, Well, what do I need to step into this? What do I need to feel supported? And then I can step into this. And then usually everything kind of the dominoes all fall into place.

For clients, it's really sussing out understanding, where are they at right now? With their message? Where do they want to go? And why are they not stepping into it right now? What's holding them back? What's scaring them, and giving them anxiety, that if they step into that full version that they know is there, right? It's almost like you're on the end of a dock. And life, as usual, is behind you. And you can see a glimmer of what's possible out there in the water, but it's fogged over. And you have you can put one foot in the boat and one foot on the dock and it's super wobbly. You're like wobbling back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, right? And the fog is kind of there. But then it clears and comes back and you're just in this like back and forth, back and forth, back and forth energy. But the second you commit and jump in that boat, the boat settles, and you can sail out and the fog clears. Right.

So it's understanding. Are you on that dock right now? Or you're just Yeah, I can't.I'm scared. Yeah. Oh, are you? Are you legitimately waiting for a download? I think honestly, the universe will give you a download the second you are ready for it. So if the download was not there, then what's missing? Like, what are you not stepping into?

Andrea Crisp 24:10
That's good. That's really good advice. When I was I think that I can I can apply that in my own life even just thinking about I have been putting off launching.

But today I was Today felt like the first day that I'm like, No, I feel I feel like I could do that. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Like, like, like you said, I didn't have words for it, like stepping into that version of myself. That embodied that Yeah. Instead of feeling I think before there was a part of me that was like, knew I wasn't there. I was, you know, and so it was like, Okay, I better not do it because no I better not to but that's just how it felt like yeah, that was the the dialogue in my mind, but

Um, now is this different for different types in human design? Like, we haven't really like chatted about that. But yeah, there are different types. Yes know much about human design. Yes. What does that mean? When you're, you're actually working with human design, and you're messaging, both. So when I'm looking at someone's chart, I can tell what's likely to hold them back and make them not want to commit or be scared to commit.

Rachael Weaver 25:29
And that's the openness, the white part of your chart, right. And when we can step more into the defined areas in our chart, those wobbles become less, they become easier to go, Okay, I see what's happening here. But you have to be in your energy, we're the white parts, you are conditioned by the world around you. So if you have an open head and open agina on the two at the top, like you can overthink things all the time you identify, yeah, in then you identify with those thoughts, you're like, well, if I'm thinking this, then I must not be ready, right. And that's not the case at all, it's just your head doesn't have anything, a way to process that information in a consistent way. So it kind of goes haywire until you see what's happening, and then you can rein it in.

And I've also seen where defined areas defined channels to your throat, can be shut down with conditioning as well. So like, if you have a channel from your, the will center to the throat, it's very much I want, this is what I desire. It's very, it's ego, but it's ego from a higher place. But it comes off in our world being very ego driven, like you are very determined to have what you want, right? If you grow up in a household that doesn't allow you to express that, it's like what you want doesn't matter. And you it gets shut down. And then as an adult, they want to talk about what they want, but they can't they just feel like there's just so much there that it's blocked, right? And so it's clearing that channel and understanding that, no, you are meant to talk about this. And you can do it in a way that is fully in alignment with yourself and everyone around you. So it's, it's looking at a person's chart is more than just your type. This is like looking at the nuances of your chart, and understanding how the energy flows through your chart and up and out your throat.

Andrea Crisp 27:41
Okay, which I find fascinating. I have no idea what any of that means.

Although, like, I know, I've downloaded my chart, I even sent my chart to you, I've had another friend look at my chart, and explain a few things to me.

But I just see a lot of like these little things. And I'm like, I don't know what any of this means. You know, but that's why it's important to have somebody who knows how to read it. Yeah, and understand how it all works together to communicate. Yeah, yeah. How is it? What is what is the premise of human design, it's, um, it's pulling different things together. So it's like astrology eaching, the chakra system is pulling all these different things together and creating a system from that. So it's based off of your birth date and time. It's an imprint of how your energy works, both how it interacts with other people, as well as how you communicate with the universe, and how the universe communicates with you.

How Okay, can you say that, again, how you how you communicate with the universe, and how the universe communicates with you. So you communicate to the universe through respond or through your strategy. So that's for manifests, it's initiating, you're communicating thing, and you initiate and go after something. It's communicating to the universe, that this is what you want for generators and manifesting generators is responding. So you're responding to everything. By the way in the world, you're responding to energy, you're responding to people's words, actions. All of it, you're responding in every single moment. So you're using your gut to go yes or no to things. And with that, you're saying yes to this and no to that, and that's telling universe more of what you want. For projectors, it's invitation so you're waiting for an invitation to give your energy to people.

Rachael Weaver 29:43
You don't have to wait to like write a post or anything like that, but you need to wait to give your energy to another person. So to coach someone to help them they need to say hey, I want your help right the invitation.

The reflectors needs to wait 30 days a lunar cycle because they don't have any definition or any defined centers in their chart, which means they need to kind of work through the energy in a cycle of 28 days to really understand what it is. That's correct for them.

Wow. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And then, um, theuniverse communicates with you through your authority. So that's the way you make decisions. So the universe can respond or for back to you with like, your intuitive hits. This is where like in splenic, intuitive knowing comes from the sacral gut, yes or no. There's emotional wave, there's G center, and there is head, like, there's multiple ones and different ways for you to tap into that intuition. Depending on who you ask. Okay, so there's ways you're communicating with the universe, which is the first step you talked about ways the universe is communicating with us. That's like the download. Yeah, basically what we're talking about. Yeah. So the universe is communicating with you and how you're receiving that. Yeah, how you're receiving it? Oh, yeah. And how it's going. So every person's a little bit different. Yep. When you say how we are communicating with the universe, Does that just mean?

Andrea Crisp 31:22
Does that mean people to or does that mean? Just like the universe? And I don't know. Does that make sense? Am I I'm late bores people different.

Rachael Weaver 31:37
Like how I would communicate with someone else? Yeah, how I communicate with people? Well, I think I mean, we're all communicating with each other all the time. Right. So like, this is a very sacral conversation. Manifesting generators and generators, respond. So having a conversation back and forth is really helpful because it gives us something to to bounce off of, right? Yeah. Okay. Um, and even projectors, too, because they're looking for an invitation. So somebody that interviews the projector via lots of questions, asking them how they work through things, how do they see things? Right? That is their invitation then to share what they know. I'm a manifester is more, it would be questions like What do you see? And like, what is this?

Allowing them to go where they want to go? And follow their own guidance? Right? Does that make sense? Yes, yes. Okay. That this is very, it can be very complex. Yes, it is complex. But I think when you start to understand how the whole system works together, then you're like, Oh, well, this relates to this. And this relates that, and it's an experiment. Don't take anything that anyone says, especially in social media, in like these little sound bites as gospel. It's not it's your experiment, your experience with this system, right? And how does your intuition talk to you? How do you relate back and forth to it? How does it show up in your life and play with it? That's the whole point. It's an experiment.

Andrea Crisp 33:17
So if there's things that you find are not working for you are ways in which you've been doing things before, and you feel like you're continually coming up against a block, then it's like, okay, well, experiment with a different way. Yeah. Until you sense that that is how what works for you. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, I've been finding lately for me. And this is where I think a lot of my where that pressure was coming from, like, just our feeling of overwhelm. Yeah. Was when there were too many voices. And I was listening to too many of them. I would get, I would feel overwhelmed and not confused, maybe, but overwhelmed with the amount of options, even if a lot of the options sounded very similar. Yeah. It was like, Okay, this option, but this way, this option, but this way, I was like, oh, there's too many things. What should I do? And I was neglecting to really tap into my own intuition and go what is right for me? Like I was always externally looking for someone else to have the answer. Yes. Oh my gosh, that's like indicative of being on the end of that dock and having one foot in one foot out, because you're looking for someone to make that decision for you. And say that, okay, it's safe to get in the boat or it's not safe, right? You're in you can't see what's possible or even like where you're need to go because there's, there's so much noise around you. Right.

So, so tapping in and if I if I so what I ended up doing with that, you know, particular scenario is, I was like, Okay, I can't listen to all these voices I have to like, say no, I have to say no, in order to really hear myself. Yeah. Yeah. Because I think I was getting confused, then like, Is this me? Is this them? And then because you know, when we talked having the open head, I would get into the overthinking part of it, which would, then I would do nothing.

So, learning to tap in to myself to my own intuition so that I can take action on that. Or do things in that space? Yeah.

Rachael Weaver 35:45
Even if it seems a bit messy. It does seem a bit messy, to be honest. But yeah, no, there is that. Yeah, like, kind of like, Am I on the right path? Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah, you got to tap in and it's trusting your own intuition will guide you. And I think this is the biggest piece that we're,

I feel like most people are starting to understand that we have intuition that we need to trust it, right. But we're still a little bit in this ground of, I'm not sure I do trust it with everything, like I trust it in this area of my life, but I don't trust it in this area of my life. And it's, it's another experience for you to go in and trust it in that area of your life, right. And the only way you learn to trust it is by listening to it doing the thing and then going, Oh, it worked.Yeah, we're not listening to it and going shit, it didn't work.

Andrea Crisp 36:43
You know, when I think about that, like in just a very practical sense, just to like, bring it down for people who are like, What the hell are these talking about?

I mean, I'm sure there's probably people who could explain this or listening to this. But there may be somebody who's not. But in a very practical sense, I remember when I used to be a pastor at a church, and I did music. And so for me, it was really interesting that when I would do on a Sunday morning, or whenever I would lead a song service, and I would be doing the music. And I was really in tune with when the pastor would come onstage, and knowing and the verbal nonverbal cues of what was happening. And I was in charge of leading the band, and also leading vocally. So I had to watch the nonverbal cues of whoever, and it was always a different person. Yeah. There's always other things happening. I always had to be listening to the music also, and listening to like, what's happening in the moment where we are even spiritually, yeah. And people would be amazed, and they would talk to me later and say, How do you do that? Like, how are you doing so many things at one time? And feel seamless? Like I never second guessed? Am I doing this? Right? Yeah. Yeah. And it was like, I'd be playing the piano or I'd be doing whatever I was doing. And I'm like, I'm just there's the sense of intuition.

And I never second guessed it. When it comes to stuff in business. I'm second guessing things left, right and center.

And And here, I look at this like place in my life where everything felt really natural. Yeah. And very in tune. It's not like I didn't get things wrong. I got things wrong for sure. Yeah, but but in the same way I guy is it a lot of it is is like you said is like like learning, getting it wrong. Tapping in Yeah. And then knowing that feeling, what it feels like when it when you are in alignment. Yeah. No one can tell you what that feels like. We can kind of tell like we can say from our experience, right? But we can't tell you what your experience is. And I can guarantee you that when you were in doing that musical thing. You were present in the moment you were like zeroed in, there was nothing else on your mind you were present 100% right there in the now. That's when we can tap into our intuition. The second we start over what thinking about the future overwhelmed with the past in our emotions, and when we can talk about the emotional wave for those people that have that as their decision making. But when you are in a ton of emotion, you really hard to hear intuition. It's really hard to be in flow because you're just you're human. You're being an a human having a human experience right now.

Okay, so can we talk about that for just a second. So a lot of things going on past couple of years. Obviously, we all know what they are. Yeah. Just more recently, the war. Yes, Russia and Ukraine. Russia invading Ukraine. Yes. Many, many, many emotions. Yeah. So many things energetically happening. If a person feels influenced by a something happening a crisis in the world? Or is that a place where they maybe need to stop and go, okay, like they need to, like, settle their nervous system and their emotions and make their decision outside of that? Yes, absolutely. Like, okay. We can't make the best decisions for us when we are in fight or flight. And when you are reacting to the world, you're in fight or flight. So we need to process don't stuff things away and say that you're not upset about something when you clearly are, right, that's not healthy either. So I mean, processing emotion, get sad, get mad, go through it. And then once you're calm, then go, Okay, what is there for me to do? What can I change in the moment right now. And that's when you get intuitive hits, that's when you're in truly that's the action that is going to have the most impact is your process, you dealt with it, now you're ready to go, now you're like, let's, let's make something happen. Let's make some change happen.

Rachael Weaver 41:27
And I think people that are, we all experience emotions differently, too. So if you're defined in your solar plexus, then you're experiencing a very consistent wave, it happens very much the same every time, where if you're undefined, you're not experiencing emotions the same at all, you're very much influenced by those around you. And you can be easily overwhelmed with those emotions, you're taking them in and you're amplifying them back. Think of, I see it with my kids, all the time, my son is defined emotionally has a very consistent, like, he gets pissed, he holds on to it for a certain amount of time, and then lets it go and everything's fine. And then 30 minutes later, you'll see my undefined daughter lose her shit. And you're like, why? She took all of his crap that he was going through on herself and was like, I don't know what to do with this, but, and freaks out and loses her mind. Okay, am I undefined? Or my defined? Do you remember how she was going to pull yourself? I'm going to do that. Right?

Andrea Crisp 42:32
That I mean, that makes a lot of sense. Because I've often wondered and talk to people about, like, you know, I always say like, I'm empathic. But that makes that really makes a lot more sense. Because I see in my, some of my family members how, like, they can get upset with something and then move on, like they're done. Right? Like, I may not do anything, and seem fine, but then it is I'm internalizing it like crazy, I think, no, you're defining because we talked about this, you die, I think so let me double check that I think you're defined. Um, but that's not to say that you can't be empathic to other people's emotions at all. Like, I think that's there's some misinformation out there. The word misinformation? No.

Rachael Weaver 43:18
No, you are undefined. Okay. Yeah. Okay. You're a sacral. Yes. Okay. I was thinking someone else. Um, so you're undefined. Yeah, you're taking in the emotions of those around you. It can be environmental to like, you can watch the world have the worst thing happening and taking all that in. And I know that if I sit in that for too long, or read too many stories, like I can't function, it's debilitating, defined or undefined.

I have to be really careful. Like, I can read a story or two, I can pull it in and like but immediately have to go okay. This is not my emotion. I can feel it. But it is not mine. It's, I found it easier. I can do that a lot easier now with world events and not as reactive to world events last two years has given me lots of opportunities to work through that and work this out to work it out. But with people around me, like my husband or my kids, it's a lot harder because they're, you're in it right? It's right there in your reality. And two separate is a lot harder. So my husband is a emotional projector. And we were looking for a house last year. And we would get I would get caught up in this like frenzy of like, oh my gosh, we have to find a house and we're being outbid in this like crazy market that I'm in I had to separate that. And then on top of that, then he would have his own emotional response to all of it and I would feel his emotional response. And every time that I am deeply emotional or in it experiencing either the collective his emotion, whatever. I cannot hear my sacral to save my life. Like it's not there. It's dead in the water there is no Yes or No is just, you're out there like flailing around, you're on your own.

Andrea Crisp 45:18
So, so how did you learn to deal with that? And what did you do to? I processed it? And then yeah, um try to only make decisions when I was not in my emotions and try to go is this truly and really asking? I asked so much for guidance, so much guidance when we're in it in it. Because I didn't I I couldn't with the way the market was how many offers we had in I was just like, just give us the house that we need right now. Just give us the house that we need right now. And I trust that this is all going to work out. And we got an amazing yeah, you know, it's so funny with the with this. You know, what's going on right now currently?

I haven't been watching the news, but I did watch the news for a couple of days. Yeah. So I found there was one particular night I woke up around four in the morning, and I had the most anxiety I've had any years I used to someone anxiety well the night. And I haven't, but I had lots of anxiety. Yeah. And I was questioning everything in my life. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Like, I mean, you name it. I was questioning it. Like, I'm we're gonna we're done. I'm, I'm pulling the plug on every day, like I was like, and I remember I got up, went to the bathroom, got a drink. And I said, Andrea, it's the middle of the night. You're hot. I was hot. Also. You're anxious. You're feeling anxious. You watched the news? Go back to sleep. And tomorrow, sort this out? Yeah. And I, you know, because I realize that a lot of the things that you know, the stressors or overwhelm are things that we find ourselves in, when we take something on energetically, then all of a sudden, we think that we're making every decision out of that place. But I had to recognize, yeah, this is really about something very different. Yeah. That I'm emotionally processing. And I don't want to connect my business or what I'm doing. Yeah, with this, I need to like, and I thought, you know, like, as a like, when I think about who I am out of integrity. I know that I'm the type of person that I do need to know what's going on in the world. I am very compassionate. I do want. I am justice oriented, there are things about me. But in the same way, I can't stay in that space. I have to process through so that I can then continue to do the things that light me up. Yeah. And we're no good to anyone. If we're stuck in anxiety, depression and, and chaos. We're no good to anyone. No, that's so true, right? That we can't affect change. We can't because we can't see beyond our own limited mind. And we have to process the emotion and get present. To be able to trust and know what the right next step is. Yeah. This is so so good. Okay, so to kind of bring it back around. Yeah. We've talked about a lot it was very like, wow, that was the conversation I wasn't expecting.

Love it. You talk to me more and you'll realize that happens more than you think.

No, but I think that it's important for for entrepreneurs, for coaches, creators, anybody that is really sharing their gifts their story with the world to to understand because I think there is there can be a lot of frustration in this way of wondering why am I not attracting what I want? Yeah, in my life. Yeah.

You know, I work a lot with, you know, people on their mindset around what they believe to be true and the stories and the narratives and stuff like that. And but understanding Okay, once you are reframing those and you are kind of putting yourself in a position to you know, have those mindsets reframed, and you're in a place to share what it is that you have to offer the world. Then being in alignment with, you know, what you're putting out there with your copy with your messaging. Yep. How you operate out of your human design is I think, really, really important. Yeah.

So I thank you for, for sharing your wisdom and your knowledge. How can people find you and connect with you? Yeah, so you can my website is Rachel weaver.com and it's I have an extra a in my name ich al

Rachael Weaver 50:00
Oh, yeah. alligned copy Posse is the Facebook group that you can come join, and I am Rachel Weaver on Instagram. Okay, awesome. Thank you so much, Rachael, for for being here for just connecting with me and for sharing so much wisdom today. Thank you so much, Andrea. It's been a pleasure.

Andrea Crisp 50:23
Okay, so I hope you totally took notes. If you didn't, you may want to go back and listen to the episode again, just to hear all of the amazing nuggets that Rachel shared. In fact, that's exactly what I did. After I recorded it. I went back, I took some notes, I thought about what is it that I want to start implementing into my own business, and I would totally encourage you to jump on a call with Rachael, she will do a free assessment with you based on your human design, and it is going to completely blow your mind. So thank you, Rachael, for being on the show today. All of her links will be in the show notes that you can connect with her. And friends. I would love to connect with you as well. So make sure you follow me over on Instagram at at Andrea crisp coach. And if you want to receive some amazing journal prompts meditations directly into your inbox every week, then I want to encourage you to join my community tax list. You can do so by texting the word courage to 647-424-2429. Alright friends, I love you so much. Thanks for hanging out with me today. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

Kate 51:47
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206 | It's Time To Stand In Your Worth

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
For a long time in my own life, I felt as though I was not worthy, I was trying to build a business, I was trying to do all sorts of things based on my gifts, talents, and abilities because I knew that I was really good at those things but I didn’t feel worthy of them.
— Andrea Crisp
 

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Do you ever wonder if you truly deserve success in your life and business? Today on the podcast we're going to talk about what to do when you don't feel like you're standing in your worth, and how you can change that so you can have a bigger impact in your life and business.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Do you ever wonder if you really deserve all of the success you desire in your life in business? Today on the podcast, we're going to talk about how to spot when you do not feel like you're standing in your worth, and how you can change that so you can have a bigger impact in your online business.

Kate 0:21
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 0:46
Hey, friend, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea Crisp, and I am your host. I'm also a mindset and confidence coach. And today we're gonna be talking about something super deep, we're talking about standing in your worth. And friend, this is something that I have struggled with myself, and I am on the other side of I'm very happy to say. But honestly, when you don't feel worthy of things in your life, you are constantly going to be standing in your own way.

It wasn't that long ago that I was part of a mastermind to fast foundations, which I absolutely loved. I was in two rounds of it. But during my second round, I was triggered a lot. There were so many high level coaches in there, that were making really good money. And they had these fancy Instagrams, and like, I would look at them and they were like, you know, super shiny driving these really nice cars. And oh my gosh, like if I could even describe I can't even describe to you like what it was that I saw. And every time I would get on these calls with these people, I'd be like, Oh my god, goodness, like I cannot compare to these people. And I'm never going to be as good as they are. And I was really downplaying my ability level, I was downplaying who I was what I had to offer the world, and really not thinking that I was worthy to be in the room to be quite honest with you. And if you found yourself in a position like that in your life, maybe you're in a networking group, or you're in some sort of coaching mastermind, and you find yourself in this position, comparing yourself to others, or judging what they're doing, because you're like, Well, I would never do that. And I would never post about that online. Or you find yourself consistently hesitating, when it comes to making decisions or putting yourself out there.

Or you're looking for approval, you're needing their attention in order to feel good about yourself. Or you are just thinking, You know what, I should probably post something that doesn't feel in complete alignment with the, because maybe then people will pay attention to me. If you're doing any of those things. Can I please just ask you right now to stop.

So many of us are not living out of our true worth, not only as coaches, but as humans. And I think before we do anything in the coaching space, it is so important that you know your worth. And you may say well, how do I know? Like, how do I know if I know my worth? Well, you be asking questions like this. Am I good enough?

Maybe you're comparing yourself against other people. You're like, am I as good as this person? Am I as good of a coach? Do I have a good system? Do I have a good program as a person? I don't feel like I'm enough. Or maybe you're growing and scaling but you're like, I don't deserve this or do I deserve this? Or maybe you're thinking to yourself, you know, I really love being in this program, but this other girl is triggering me all the time. And you're wondering, Is she better than me? Do all the clients want to go to her?

Or maybe you're finding yourself, like chasing other people wanting them to be your clients or in collaboration with you? Or you might be questioning all the time.

What did I do wrong? Did I do something wrong? If you're asking yourself any of those questions, then it is entirely likely that there is something that feels off in your life and you are not truly living into your worth

And when I talk to my clients about this, it is a really heavy subject. Because at the end of the day, we could have all the money in the world, all the clients in the world, all the success in the world. But if we don't feel worthy of that, if we don't feel like we actually truly deserve it, then it's not going to amount to anything.

And if I'm really honest with you, for a long time, in my own life, I felt as though I was not worthy. And I was trying to build a business, I was trying to do all sorts of things, based on my gifts and talents and abilities. Because I knew that I was really good at those things. But I didn't feel worthy of them, I didn't feel worthy to have success, or worthy to have love are worthy to have these amazing clients in my life. And so what I did was I just I try to source my worth, from external things, by peers, getting around people who I really respected and thought were really cool. And if I was in the same room with them, then maybe it would rub off on me and I would like learn how to be worthy. Well, you can't learn how to be worthy, you either feel worthy, or you don't feel worthy.

I spent a lot of money on getting more credentials, and you know, learning more things, getting more tools in my tool belt to help people. And gosh, I mean, I feel like I have so many tools, I sometimes don't even know what tools to use, because I have so many tools.

I joined masterminds, I joined coaching programs, I, I did all of these things to feel like I was worthy and to source my worth externally. And you know, it, even when I would hear people say stuff like, Oh, I love your hair, you know, like things like that your background and your Instagram posts, like, those things were like, Oh, I'm finally worthy. But at the end of the day, none of those things truly made me feel worthy. None of them.

I had an underlying belief that I was not worth being seen, being heard, being loved. And all of that stemmed back from things in my own childhood. Now, I know this is hard to hear sometimes, because oftentimes, it's like the thing we don't want to do, well, I don't really want to do the inner healing work, I just kind of want to make money, I just want to, you know, make an impact in the world, I don't really want to have to deal with my own transformation.

But honestly, friends, if you're going to really make an impact in the world, you have to deal with those things in your own life that are holding you back. And you might even be making a lot of money right now, and scaling your business, but you still do not feel worthy of that success.

And if you don't feel worthy of that success, or having those clients or living the life you're living, then it's time for you to actually do the work so that you can hold that space safely and in integrity for your clients. Because they deserve that. Because you want your clients to feel worthy of their success of what the transformation is that you're providing them.

And in order to really do that, you have to have the transformation. You have to do the work, the inner healing, the mindset work, the shifts that aren't sexy, don't feel glamorous, and to be quite honest, can be difficult at times.

And when I looked at my own life, I started to realize that a lot of this inner healing work that I needed to do was going to be the very catalyst that would propel me forward. And I have been working on my mindset for years, and I have been really leaning into my worth. I've done a lot of therapy, coaching, energy work. I mean, you name it, I've done it. And and to be honest, a lot of those modalities were super, super helpful. But at the end of the day, I had to champion myself. And I had to believe that I was worthy of everything that I desired in my life. And if you truly want to make an impact in the lives of your clients, to have success in your life and success in your business, then you are going to have to stand in your own worth as well. So maybe you're asking

So okay, well, like what do I need to do here? Like, what are the steps I need to take? Give me a list, let me do it. Okay. So I'm going to tell you a couple things that I think are going to help you. But you have to listen very carefully to how I'm going to instruct you to do this. Okay? So the first thing is get support, but get support from people who are doing the work, don't get support from people who are doing the same BS you're doing right now.

Okay, you have to get support, from like minded, honest, real people who are walking in integrity, have done the mindset work, or living out of their worth. Because if you find yourself around other people who are not, you are going to be staying in that low energy and low vibration. So it's really, really important that you get around people who do believe that they're worthy. And I found that to be so true for myself, if I was constantly having conversations with people who are in doubt and unbelief about their theirs themselves in their business. And this is not clients, but I'm talking about friends, or peers, then I felt like, oh, well, I don't feel worthy of that. So I needed to cut that out and cut those people out of that space in my life in order for me to truly be able to be around other people who are living in their worth. So you can join a mastermind of people who are really, truly investing in that in themselves. You can take a look online, you can join the mindset, mentor circle that I run. But most of all, I encourage you to do the inner healing work yourself. And it doesn't have to be long and involved doesn't have to take years of therapy. In fact, it can be one session that will truly transform your life and help you to step into your worth.

The whole reason you want to make an impact is because you know that you can help other people transform their lives. So you have to transform your own life. Okay? So just make it really simple.

Get the help that you need, the mindset shifts that you need, so that you can start making a bigger impact on other people, and truly be in integrity. Living out of your worth.

Unknown Speaker 12:41
Friend, I love you. I know this has been kind of like a straight shooting episode today. But I really felt like it was so important to share this with you because I don't want you to walk down a path that you feel as though you're trying everything in the world, but you just really, really don't feel worthy. And if that's you and you're like, Okay, Andrea, I do I want to take that step I want to you know, move through some of these limitations that I'm feeling. Let's jump on a call. We can work through it in one session. And you may, that just may be what you need is one session. If there's other things that we can do, and we want to build something around that then we can but just give yourself that gift of doing the inner healing work. You can find the link in the show notes and book a session with me and you will be amazed at the transformation that happens in your life. Friend, I love you. Thanks for hanging out with me today. Until next time, remember you have everything you need to live briefly.

Kate 13:38
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207 | Elevate Your Mindset To Elevate Your Impact

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
That can be scary because a lot of times we feel like, well, if I let go of that then I don’t have anything coming in. I don’t have any business, any income, any of those things coming in. But oftentimes it really, for your highest good. We need to be able to let go of what is no longer serving us so that we can create space for what is coming in.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Before you go buying into that fancy coaching program, system or strategy, I want you to take a listen to this episode. Too many coaches are going into debt trying to figure out how to market their business and are looking for another strategy or system to help them grow. But when you take the time to work on your mindset -- everything changes. It's time for you to elevate your mindset to elevate your impact.

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 30-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

Connect with Andrea's Text Community: Text the word COURAGE to 647-424-2429 or  CLICK HERE

 
 
 
 

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Okay, friend, before you go ahead and buy that next fancy coaching program, system or strategy, I want you to take a listen to this episode. I have been where you are where I have invested in so many different things. That all led me back to the fact that I felt my own insecurity and doubt in my life as a coach. So I want to talk to you today about how we can start dealing with what we really truly need to deal with, which is our mindset. Before we invest in another high ticket program,

Kate 0:41
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 1:06
Hey, friends, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea Crisp, I'm your host, I'm so glad you're here. I am a mindset and confidence coach. And I work primarily with coaches, entrepreneurs, and creatives, who are really wanting to make an impact in the world, but are finding it hard to move past their own limiting beliefs. You know, the whole reason I started coaching in the first place was because I had a huge desire to help others follow their dreams and passions. And back in 2011, when I first became a coach, my focus was primarily on helping women discover their purpose, I was so jazzed up about doing this. And I was so keen to help women discover their purpose that I created these coaching groups. And I had zero experience doing that. But as I started it, I just kind of went with the flow. And I built these groups and women just kept coming to them. And to my amazement, they were really successful. In fact, I am in touch with many of the women today some have built businesses others have, you know, started their dream life. I mean, so much came out of those first coaching groups when I was first coaching. And the synergy in the groups and the bonds that those women formed, really helped them take brave steps in their own life. But when I left my full time job in 2014, and stepped out into coaching full time, I was kind of in a space where I had no idea what I was doing. So I had been I school music teacher, and then I was a pastor and now I found myself as an entrepreneur. And even though I felt really confident about my coaching, I had no idea how to run a business. And so I started to research how I needed to do things. And I quickly found myself buying into and when I say buying I truly do mean buying into systems strategies, coaching programs, that promised to make me money fast. But before long, I actually found myself in a place where my mindset could not support what these coaches were asking me to do. Now I'm not saying what the coaches were asking me to do was wrong. But they really weren't in touch with where I was at as a brand new entrepreneur. And they weren't really vetting me properly. They were just wanting to sell me a program and make money. And they were doing a really good job at it. Their marketing skills were like, super high, and I thought I needed what they had to offer. And because I didn't have anyone around me to truly ask, and there was no one else that I knew that was in the online coaching space at the time. I was really just trying to figure it out as I went along. And so what ended up happening was, is I found myself in mounting debt, because these programs were actually not really working for me. And I if I look at like how many programs I've actually purchased, oh my gosh, you didn't you don't want to know. But I found myself feeling really, really anxious about what I had done. I'd quit my job and started this new business. It was things weren't working out. I felt like a complete failure as a coach, because I felt like I was trying everything and nothing was working. And I was in also a lot of emotional pain from the past that had really not been healed. And I've talked about this a lot in other podcasts

But I haven't talked about it in this particular way. And I was rehearsing these old stories from my past. And these limiting beliefs were coming up about who I thought I was, and who I truly believed myself to be.

So even though I felt like a really good coach, because I knew my skills are on point, and I even had the certifications to back me up, and years of experience in being a coach in as a high school music teacher, and as a pastor doing all that work, I found myself in a place where my business was in a complete standstill, and literally thought there was no way that I would be running a business in two to three years. And so I did what everyone else did, I bought another program.

I figured if I would master the art of email marketing, or doing webinars, maybe, you know, figuring out how to do a really cool reel or get another launch strategy that I would finally figure out what I was doing, because I thought something must be missing.

I also hired a Kajabi expert, a podcast intern, I even traded my services to have someone pitch me on podcasts, okay, so you know what had ended up happening from all that?

Nothing, I did not get the results that I was looking for. So friend, if you are finding yourself in that place, where you have bought absolutely everything, and you are not getting results, please stop buying more systems.

That is not what you need. Okay. And the reason why I know that is because until you get to the heart of what is holding you back, you're not going to be able to attract the customers and clients that you desire into your life and business. And when I started doing the work, the inner work for myself, when I started doing the mindset work, that is when I started to truly uncover those old beliefs, those limitations that I had been believing to be true about myself. And at the heart of it, I felt like I wasn't worthy. I was allowing fear to get in the way of even my own zone of genius. And I was playing really small. And you may be thinking, what does that mean playing really small? Well, I was allowing other coaches to, you know, take up all of the clients because they had some fancy marketing. And they promised to help them, you know, make 10k a month. And I just sat on the sidelines because I didn't feel like I could help someone else make $10,000 a month. And so who was I to promise anything.

But what I was missing in all of that was the fact that holding space for someone in a coaching session as a mindset and confidence coach, and allowing them to process through where they have been holding themselves back. And helping them to reframe that and get to the heart of why they have been doing that and really release it is completely transformational. And I was thinking that that really wasn't all that fancy or shiny, and who really wanted to do that work. And yet, I know at the heart of it, that is the only way people are going to get results. Because you can have all the amazing fancy systems in the world. You can have the best team in the world. But if your mindset is not where it should be, then you are never going to feel truly happy, fulfilled successful in your business. Okay, so

I want to call bullshit. Okay.There are a bazillion coaches out there peddling false hope, promising to help you make 10k in 90 days. Grow your list by 1000s get you on TV. And I call that bullshit marketing. And you know it when you see it because these people are sliding into your DMS and they are asking you to like join their next program and you

You don't even know them, you have not built a relationship with them, or they haven't built a relationship with you. And all of this is to make them money. And I can tell you this right off the bat, that if they're doing that kind of kind of sleazy marketing, they're probably not really able to help their clients. Okay? When I first started coaching, back in 2011, I got a certification and became a life purpose coach. And then a couple years later, I got another certification became a leadership coach. And, and then I from there went on to get life and success coaching certification. And from then on, I got certification to do EFT, hypnotherapy and NLP, and so on and so forth. And this is all after I have a Master's in Counseling, and over 20 years of experience in the helping industry, both as an educator, a pastor, doing so many hours of one to one, coaching, okay, so I know what I'm talking about, when I get in a session with somebody, and I'm able to chat with them and talk to them about what is going on in their life. I know what I'm doing. So when a coach comes in and says, Oh, you know, I got a coaching certification, I'm going to coach you, and I have zero experience in how to actually help you. But I'm going to help you build a business and get you to a 10k a month.

There is no way friend, there is no way. So I needed to tell you the truth about all of this, because I don't want you buying into the same nonsense that I found myself buying into.Here's the thing, you're doing amazing things in the coaching space. And the reason I know that is because you're listening to this podcast. And obviously you're resonate with me for some reason. And I would imagine that you have a lot of integrity in your business, and you know, that you can get your clients results.

You're a high achieving ambitious coach, and you know, the value of it, investing in yourself, and you know, the value of helping yourself move forward. And that's why you've hired the best coaches to help you grow and scale. But here's the thing, underneath all of that. What about those fears that are keeping you up at night? What about those things that make you feel anxious, that make you doubt yourself, or tell you that you're not good enough to be doing this or to be in this space?

If you are walking around trying to coach your clients, with your own scarcity mindset, and you feel discontent in your life and in your business? How do you think that's going to translate to them?

Do you think that they're actually going to get the results that they need, when you are feeling the way you're feeling?

So I just have to be real with you. There's not a program out there, no fancy schmancy system strategy that is going to help you to navigate this, to get through this. Because the truth is your business is built on you, your your business, if you're a coach, if you're in this field, then you are the business. So if you're not in the right headspace, then you're never going to really be able to help clients the way you truly desire. Okay, so, let's be honest, as a coach, it can be really, really hard to know where to get the support. Okay? You really have to be able to know who has integrity, and who does not. And mean you could ask me I can recommend amazing people to you. In all of these different fields, like I know amazing money coaches, I know amazing relationship coaches, sales coaches, story coaches. I mean, you name it, probably almost every person that is on my podcast that has been a coach is someone that I recommend, okay? Sothey're out there, it's not like they do not exist, but to just buy something because you think you need it is definitely not going to help you. Okay?

If you want to truly show up as the authority in your life and in your business, then you need a safe place for you to actually talk about those things in your life that are coming up those fears, those old beliefs, those limitations, so that you can root them out, and you can start moving forward.

Because let's be real here, I know that you're not going to go into a Facebook group and post about it and ask for help. Because what if your potential clients are there, like, you're just not going to do that, right? You need a community that is going to hold space for you.

And in order for you to grow in your business, and make an impact, you need that safe space, to talk about the challenges that you're facing in your business to talk about how you're feeling about what you're doing, or maybehow you're in lack or disbelief about things. And if you are, it's okay, because that is so normal, especially when you're up leveling in your life and in your business. And the more honest and real you are about working through your mindset blocks, and your own personal transformation, the more effective you are going to be at serving your own clients. Okay. So that is why I created the mindset mentor circle. Now before you think oh my gosh, now she's asking me to pay for this crazy program.

Nope. Friend, it is free. I knew that there was something missing in the coaching space. And that is a safe space for coaches, to truly have community with one another, to be able to work through those mindset shifts that they really need quickly and effectively. So they can get back to doing what they truly love. And so I have created the mindset, mentor circle, we're going to do it every Wednesday. And I love you to be a part of it. So I'm going to give you a link in the show notes. And all you have to do is click on that and join my email list. And you're going to hear of all the information about it. You'll see if this is something that you truly think fits you. And if you feel like you want to show up for one time, and see if it's something that is really helpful for you then please do and if you feel like it's not where you're at, then that's okay as well. The whole reason why I am creating the mindset mentor circle is really to have that safe community for coaches to truly get the help that they need, which is something that I did not get when I first started coaching, the best part of this, like I mentioned, it is free. So, friend, having said all of this, if you feel as though you're struggling and you have been struggling for a while, and you're just really not sure what to do, I want to invite you to join me for the mindset mentor circle, and to really experience humanity in a way that will uplevel you and help you on your way. You can find all the links to connect with me even if you want to ask me questions about it in the show notes today and I hope to see you there. Until next time, friend. Remember you have everything you need to live briefly.

Kate 18:26
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205 | Become An Expert Seller By Selling In Alignment With Who You Are

WITH JILLIAN MURPHY

 
 
 
I’m never trying to sell through those platforms. I’m literally getting to know people, I’m nurturing people. When there is a time or a fit that it makes sense for me to offer — I offer it! It needs to feel energetically right!
— Jillian Murphy
 

About This Episode:

The world needs what you have to offer. But if you're not putting yourself out there, then no one is going to know how you can add value to their life, and how you can help them transform their life or business.

Today on the podcast, I'm talking to my own sales mentor, who I affectionately call the sales queen, Jillian Murphy. She has so many nuggets of how we can position ourselves to be of true value to those people we desire to serve.

Jillian Murphy is an industry sales leader, as well as a business, network, and marketing mentor! With nearly 20 years of experience in sales and growing multiple businesses of my own, she has made it a mission to help REAL Entrepreneurs who want to GROW and master sales with an amazing community of like-minded entrepreneurs supporting them!

Connect With Jillian: Instagram + Facebook

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach @the.couragecast

Connect with Andrea via TEXT: Text the word COURAGE to 647-424-2429 CLICK HERE

To book a FREE 20-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
The world needs what you have to offer. But if you're not putting yourself out there, then no one is going to know how you can add value to their life, and how you can help them transform their life or business. Today on the podcast, I'm talking to my own sales mentor, who I affectionately call the sales queen, Jillian Murphy. She has so many nuggets of how we can position ourselves to be of true value to those people we desire to serve.

Kate 0:33
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Jillian Murphy 0:58
Hello, friend. Welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea Crisp, and I'm your host. And I'm really excited today to share this conversation with my sales mentor, Jillian Murphy, she has truly show me what it looks like for me to show up in my own business in a way that adds massive value to my own audience, and to really engage in community in a whole new way. And I'm thrilled to be able to share this episode with you because I know that whatever you're doing within your life, whether you have a business that you're just starting, or you have been in business for years, the key principles that she is going to share with you in this episode are going to help you transform how you show up and sell within your business. So here's my conversation with Jillian Murphy. Jillian Murphy. Welcome to The Couragecast I'm so glad that you're up early to chat with me this morning. And I've been really excited to have you as a guest on this show. Sowelcome!

Like ah, thank you so much for having me. We were just joking that I do not get up early for anybody. And I'm so excited for this podcast with you today. So yes, so excited to be here to chat with you. And of course, your audience today.

Andrea Crisp 2:17
Yeah, it's you know, it's so funny, you know, like, there's some things we're like, okay, I guess I'm willing to do for that person. And you and I have become friends. And you're also my coach, which I have found so much value in you. And so I was really excited to share you with my audience, because I know that you've helped me so much. And when it comes to all things sales, you're the queen, that you are definitely the Queen and I have learned so much from you are a straight shooting, like right out of the barrel like you know, you don't you don't mince words. And that's what I love the most about your style, and about sharing what you do and how you can help people. So let's start with that. Thank you tell us a little bit about yourself.

Jillian Murphy 3:05
Yeah, definitely. Thank you. So first of all, I love being your coach. I love being your mentor. I love working with people that I'm energetically excited to work with. So, again, I love working with you. It's the first thing if you're listening to this message or listening to this podcast right now, you should only work with people that light you up. So I'm lit up by Andrea every time I get to work with her. But a little bit about me was I joined a corporate sales 22 years ago, and I did not like sales. I joined it because I needed to get a real job. I was doing all these like silly jobs. And my parents were like, You need to find a real job. So I went into an internship and got a job in sales, and I hated it. And I remember working with these older salesmen, and they felt salesy. They felt gross to me, and I would be on these sales calls. And it just felt gross. And I thought to myself, they're not getting to know these people. They're just going in taking orders being really pushy. So I thought if they would just get to know people, and spend time asking questions about maybe their wife that they see a picture of on the desk, or the son that's playing soccer on, you know, the credenza or something, they actually would probably get better sales. So here I am this 20 year old girl riding around with the salesman and I start to have conversations so it starts slowing down their day. They're getting frustrated, but they start to get more sales, because the relationship starts to build. And then through that, I start working my way up the ranks. I actually become a corporate sales trainer through the company. And I really changed the paradigm of the way that we did sales in our organization. We became much more relationship based selling. And it was interesting because I was the first female salesperson in our company since 1963. And I really changed the way that that company did sales, and it's kind of the way that I sell online now too.

Andrea Crisp 4:55
So when you actually left your corporate position I knew that it wasn't something that you were like, Okay, I'm going to make the decision to just jump online. Tell us about what happened there.

Jillian Murphy 5:06
Yeah. So I lost my corporate job during the pandemic, which a lot of people did. You know, I was in a very high role an executive role in my corporate position. And it wasn't something that I saw coming by any means. But as the pandemic came, financials had to be cut, and that position was eliminated. And I quickly knew that I had to do something, but I had this God given talent, universe, given talent, whatever you believe in, to help people sell. And it was interesting, because call it divine timing. I also had a lot of friends that were coming online in this coaching space that I didn't know anything about. But what I knew, and what I saw was that a lot of my friends were becoming coaches, and they were sliding into what I call, you know, my DMs, they were trying to sell me their network marketing products, and I thought to myself, I could help them, I can help them sell their, their leggings, and everyone's trying to sell me now or their candles, or their self love books, whatever they're trying to do. So I created this Facebook group, where I just started to really invite my friends that I knew who I was, like, Hey, you're now going to try to sell online, let me give you some tips. And it really grew into momentum from there. And that's really where my business was, was birthed out of my Facebook group.

Andrea Crisp 6:16
Interesting, because you had actually people that you were like, Okay, I'm friends with you, I'll give you some tips. So it wasn't like you were like, really passionate about the thing they were selling? No, you're just like, I can help you solve that. So So what did you do? Like, how did you help them in that, in that context? Like, what were you looking for?

Jillian Murphy 6:35
Yeah. So when I first started, I created this Facebook group, and I just invited people that I knew to it and I said, Hey, I'm going to do trainings every day, I'm gonna do five to seven minute trainings on like how you can show up online as an expert in whatever you're selling doesn't matter. If you're selling a book, a candle, leggings, whatever it is. And at the beginning, it was a lot of network marketers, because that's what my friends all kind of shifted to a lot more moms who now needed a second source of income. So it was a lot of network marketers in the beginning. And then from there, the group just really grew, I got a lot of like coaches that started to come into it. And that's really where it grew. So I would just give them tips on like, when someone says no, or you know how to not be creepy, and send a message to someone that you went to high school with, or, you know, please do not copy and paste the same message to every single person, do not bombard your Facebook with, you know, every essential oil that you have, like, nobody really cares, like, tell them why they need this oil. And it was just things again, in my very blunt personality, that nobody was really telling them. And then they started to get sales. So then it was like this momentum that really grew from there. And then in about four months, my Facebook group had about 700 people in it, which was, which was amazing. In four and a half months later, I launched my first program, which was really just teaching people how to sell extremely basic. And I launched my first course, I had 28 people in it, and I was like, Okay, this is like a real thing. This is I could like, this could be a real business. It was like almost a $60,000 launch. I was like, Okay, this is, this is pretty amazing. And from there, it just really kind of grew. But it all began in that Facebook group. And I spent so much time in there, I didn't have a corporate job, I was lucky enough to have a nice severance. So I was like, I was gonna go on this Facebook group and hang out and get to know people. And it took about four and a half months before I sold anything. And I think that was also a huge thing. I didn't have to sell anything right away. So I was able to nurture this audience and really get to know them for for four and a half months before I even sold them anything.

Andrea Crisp 8:38
Yeah, you know, it's interesting to me as I'm like, hearing your story is that you sounded like you had confidence right out of the gate. Like you knew what you could do. But you weren't you were just in this holding this energy of like, yeah, I can help you. I can, you know, serve you. But there was nothing like you weren't looking for something back right away, which I find is really interesting, because a lot of people go in with a completely different mentality, like, oh, my gosh, I need to sell this right away. I need to make money. What happens when someone's focused? Is that versus what you had?

Jillian Murphy 9:18
Yeah, they don't sell. Like the, the, that's the so it's really interesting, because I sell I would say probably 90% of everything that I sell through like Facebook Messenger, Instagram DM, my text marketing. And one of the questions that I get asked all the time is how do you sell so much through those platforms? And my answer is always the same. Because I'm never trying to sell through those platforms. I'm literally just getting to know people. I'm nurturing people. And then when there is a time where there's a fit, that it makes sense for me to offer what I have I offer it, sometimes it's within the first message. Sometimes it's six months down the road. Sometimes it's 18 months later. But when it feels energetically, right, I offer it but I never go in with, Hey, I just met Andrea today, she's a mindset coach, I'm going to send her a message and see if she wants to buy. That's never on my radar. It's like, Hey, I just met Andrew online, it looks like she's pretty rad. I'm going to get to know her. I'm going to hear about her business. I'm going to create a friendship with her. Maybe we can get on a podcast in somewhere down the road. If her and I can collaborate in something, whether it's a podcast and iG live, I support her or she supports me, then we'll get to that when the conversation leads to that. That's the mentality.

Andrea Crisp 10:46
So here's the thing. What I'm hearing from you is like this energetic, you know, alignment, and you obviously, like, feel it. So you you have this, like something happens where you're like, Okay, it's time, because then you're you're acting on it. How do people know? Because I don't know that, that everybody understands, like, what that would feel like to nurture conversation for as long as you do.

Jillian Murphy 11:11
Yeah. So if you're listening to this podcast, if you are a service provider, which you are, if you're an online coach, when there is something that somebody says that a light bulb goes off, that you say, I can help someone with that. Yeah, that is when you say, hey, I can help you with that. Like, it's I mean, we overthink it so much in sales. We think like we have to be scripted. I mean, I was on a webinar last night with and I'll say it with my very good friend Alex Street. I was on a webinar last night, and somebody was asking him a question about how not to be salesy. And I literally in the chat was like, Hey, I would love to help you with this. This is not the right time. But if you ever have questions on sales, like shoot me a message, he's not a sales coach. He's you know, I mean, he he's all things stories. So it's like, it would be a disservice for me to sit on that webinar, who there is someone who needs help in sales, she literally has asked me a question for me to be like, Oh, my gosh, please let me help you. You know, after that, like I literally sent her a message and was like, hey, so great to see you on the webinar, I would love to talk all things sales to you. If and when you want to set up a call, let me know, I'd love to offer some tips. Like it's something as simple as that.

Andrea Crisp 12:34
Okay, so what lights you up about sales? Like, you know, I know you sell different things, you sell your own programs coaching you out, you also do network marketing, like what like sell what lights you up about the actual selling process?

Jillian Murphy 12:50
What lessons about the selling process, the fact that I can help people with the problem that they're in. So whatever you sell, if you're listening to this podcast, make sure that what you sell lights you up, you have to be your first sale. If you are not your first sale, nobody is ever going to buy from you. Like I am lit up about what I sell my coaching, my network marketing products, my social retail products, like everything that I do, like, I'm excited to talk about them. And so often, we're not excited to share what we have, because we're like, I'm not really excited about them. Right? I worked with a woman one time that she was with 17 different network marketing companies. And she couldn't figure out why she wasn't successful. Because none of them lit her up like a firecracker. Yeah, find something that you're so excited about that you want to share it with the world every day.

Andrea Crisp 13:47
Yeah, I love that. Okay, so when we first started working together, it was really interesting. So I met you through fast foundations. Yes. And we were in the same group together the same cohort. And you are not coaching at the time in that group. But you are kind of there and I would watch you and I'd see you kind of like pop in and think you know, but I never really had an opportunity really to sit and chat with you. I mean, I think I did one time. It was very brief. It was like, okay, she's cool. But then I didn't really see you for a while. The thing that really caught me was we had another call at the towards the end of that time, it was literally when we wrapped. And I got on the phone with you. And I said, I asked you a question. And I said, Hey, can you tell me what is the one thing that you would do differently? about the past? You know, two years of your business? Do you remember that question? Did you remember that?

Jillian Murphy 14:46
I don't remember the answer. I remember the question.

Andrea Crisp 14:50
Use you said to me that it was a personal it was a personal question and you answer with a personal answer. And I don't want to disclose it. I think okay, Yeah, basically, he basically said I would I would pay as much attention to my life. Oh, yeah, yeah. Okay, for sure. And yeah, so that's You said I'd pay as much attention to my life as I did my business. Yes. 100%. And that was the thing that I needed to hear from you. It was really interesting, because I could see what you did. But then it kind of like brought you into this, like, you know, space where I'm like, Oh, she's real. And then that was when I started to, like, get to know you more and see how real you really are. Talk about showing up with that authenticity, like how you show up and how people should be showing up in their business.

Jillian Murphy 15:48
Yes, so it was really interesting because I have a very addictive personality. So when I go in on something, I am laser focused all in. So anything I've ever done in my life, like ran marathons, fitness competitor, lost 70 pounds, whatever it is, I am like, when I go in, I go all in. And I did the same thing with entrepreneurship. So once I started this Facebook group, I was like, I'm in I had my first launch, I was all in, and nothing else mattered. I mean, I, I was in a relationship for five years, I didn't pay attention to it. I just I was served and served and served. And then I looked back 18 months later, and my relationship had fallen apart. You know, my daughter was going through her last year of high school, I missed so many things. My health wasn't as good as it once was, like, there were so many things I didn't pay attention to. And yes, I made an insane amount of money. My first my first 18 months online, it was amazing. But then I looked back, and I was super lonely. My relationship ended up failing, thank God, we are back together now. Because I've come to come to the realization that I did not pay much attention to them. My daughter's relationship is much better now. But I looked back on a lot of things. And I did miss out on that. So now, I'm building my business around my life versus building. I'm building my business around my life, totally different than how I did it the first year, and you know, my business is going to come second to all those things that really matter. And I think when you can connect to your audience, and you can show them those things, it's so much more important. When I talk to my audience about, you know, my anxiety that I'm going through, I actually connect to my audience more. I had a brain injury last year, and I connected to my audience way more talk about getting people in my DMs on a real level. I had more conversations during that six months than I ever had about sales talks. And guess what, a lot of them turned into clients. But it was because I was connecting with them on a human level first. So again, the more that you can show up as who you are as a person, that's actually the magnet that brings people

Andrea Crisp 17:50
to you. Okay, so here's a question about that. Because a lot of people, you know, they can get sucked into kind of staying in that victim story. And I would imagine that when you're talking to somebody in the DMZ, I'm just supposing this, of course, but I'm imagining that if you're talking to somebody in the DMZ, and they're asking you about your health, you know what, you've been going through that at some point in time, you're not you're you are not, you're going to turn it according to turn. Okay, how do you do that? Because I feel like a lot of people would just stay in there in and then like, as you say, in the friendzone. Yeah. So when you're out of the friendzone Yeah, so

Jillian Murphy 18:28
one of the ways that I mean, I always turn it as to like what I've learned. So one of the things that I learned during this was in, even, like, through my anxiety, like, like, someone who has anxiety like, I, I'm not, I how do I say this, like, even when I was like going through, like my brain injury, I'm not a brain injury person. Or like, when I was like, I'm a cancer survivor. I don't say like, I I'm a cancer survivor, like, I don't live in that I live in, like, let me share the story, but I'm not there anymore. Okay, so that's like, one thing that's like, really important to me is like, that's just a part of my life. And I don't live there anymore. So I just I talk about it, but then I like, I move quickly out of it into like, the next thing.

Andrea Crisp 19:14
And how have you been able to do that in your life? Like, you know, when you think about your mindset, and how you've made shifts in your own life, how have you been able to do that?

Jillian Murphy 19:23
Um, I would say, one is probably surrounding myself with people that don't allow me to stay there. I think that is really, really, really important. It probably stems from when I was a child, so I had leukemia as a child twice. So I think a big part of this was that when I had leukemia, a lot of my friends were in like these little like support groups for kids with the with cancer, and they would go to these like cancer groups with other cancer kids. And I remember my parents never put me in these groups, because they didn't want me to be like, that was my identity. Like Like, like, you're like, you're not a cancer kid, you're just going through cancer. And even like, when I went through my brain injury stuff, the last six months, you know, I remember like, there was Facebook groups for people going through it. And there were things and even my parents were like, don't join those things. Because then you are that, like, join the groups that they've been that they had it, and now they're out. So I think it's things like that, that were really, really helpful for me is that I don't identify of like, that's who I am. Like, that's not my identity.

Andrea Crisp 20:33
So interesting. Okay, so here's an interesting thing you love community love, I'm obsessed with it. Yeah, I love community. How has community both impacted you, and also helped you build your business?

Jillian Murphy 20:52
Well, community has helped me just because I have my best friends in community. I mean, I will say I live in Michigan, and I don't have a single like real human friend here. All of my friends are online. And it's interesting, we my best friend lives in Los Angeles. But for the most part, all of my friends are online. So I think that there is something so powerful about having people that you can connect with from all over the world, virtually. So I love community. And that is that is why community on a personal level is so important in I can connect to anyone at any given time, I can go on my Instagram and just find people to be in connection with. So that is so important. Why is community help with my business, because if you don't have people to sell to, you're not going to have people to sell to. And this is what I see so often is that people don't build community first, then they try to build a program, a coaching business, a membership, a course all of these things. And then I go back and ask them, tell me about your community. Tell me about who you're selling to. And then they're like, oh, I don't have the people, you have to build the people. First, you have to build your tribe first. Because then you're always going to have people to go back to, and not just people to go back to sell to, but to ask questions to for market research, for referrals, to for networking, all of those things, it's so important.

Andrea Crisp 22:14
And how much time do you spend, like on that in your own business?

Jillian Murphy 22:17
I spend probably, on average, two to three hours a day nurturing my community?

Andrea Crisp 22:22
Wow, on average, a lot of people would probably outsource that.

Jillian Murphy 22:27
Yeah. And I tried to outsource it. I've hired some amazing companies to do my outsourcing for engagement. And I'll be honest, it's just not me. And I can feel it, I can feel it. When I read the messages, I can feel it when I see the comments. And again, my people are everything. So if they're not connecting authentically, and it's not that they're not doing it on purpose, it's just not me. So if I can do that, and that's the beginning of my process is to connect with people, I want to be the one doing that. I mean, lit like Lindsey Swartz still connects to her audience. Like so if someone at that level is still doing like her own outbound engagement, like, people like you and I, it's so important because your audience can feel it.

Andrea Crisp 23:11
Yeah, you know, it's interesting that you say that, because I think a lot of it is, is if you're not building that relationship with people, then how can you, you know, turn around and be like, oh, yeah, like, you know, cuz they, they think they know you. Yeah, having a podcast. Like I hear that all the time. Even I'll have like, friends, relatives, people who become clients. They'll say, you know, like, oh, yeah, I heard this on the podcast. And I forget that I'm putting things out into the world that people here and they're connecting to and then all of a sudden they're telling me about it. I'm like, Oh, yeah. Like I have to quickly reengage in the fact that they know something about me. Yeah. And if you're not staying, you know, having a touch point with people, then how in the world are you ever going to know? Okay, that person can come in. For example, I told my cousin Darlene. She has the she's the craziest job. I went, I think she told me she's like, the Chief Executive Director of I don't know something or other that is like the craziest title. And she's the only woman and she kind of reminds me of you actually. only woman in her company that does all this and she's been listening to my podcast. And she told me the other day, she slid into my DMs on Facebook, and she's like, Hey, Andrea, you know, we listen to your podcast, talking blah, blah, blah. I listened to on my walks. And it's so funny because you forget that that's happening and people are listening. She said the nicest thing to me. She said, I'm really proud of you. And I was like, you know, and coming from family. Yes. I think that makes even a bigger difference because family sees you like you were and how you grew up and it's really hard to break that mold even If you've been shifting and transforming in your own life, it's hard for to get other people to see you as you are now. And so I told her, I said, Darlene, I'm gonna shout you out. So this is the time Darlene, you got in early. Okay, so Jillian, I want to know, you know, when you think about, you know, moving forward in your own life, I know that you also have a coach, that's really, really important to you. So what does that look like for you, when you're investing into yourself and your business?

Jillian Murphy 25:30
Yeah, so um, for me, I will always have a mentor because I wanted accountability. One, I believe it's like a cheat code, she's going to help me get there quicker, she's going to see the gaps in my business, she's going to help keep me accountable. And for me, I need someone that's going to keep me on track. And you know, you can buy all the books, you can listen to all the podcast, you can download all the freebies, you can even be in all the group coaching programs. But at the end of the day, it's so important to have someone who's actually like in your business. So like, for me, I love one on one coaches, like I've always had a one on one coach, and people ask me all the time, like what is, you know, one of the main reasons why you were so successful. And I say, because I've had one mentor, for the whole time that's been in my business. So that's also been important, because she's seen what has worked, what hasn't worked. She's seen my business throughout the whole year, you know, she's seen, hey, what sells in the summer versus what sells in the winter? Like, it's really, really important. But again, also, how do you like to be mentored? Some people don't like one on one coaching, they like to be in a big group. So again, also know what works for you. Because in this space, you can get you can buy into a lot of things that you think that you need. Ask yourself, like, what do you need? You know, I mean, I see things all the time. And I'm like, I think I need that. And this is where I go back to my coach. And I say like, Raquel, do I need this? And she's like, Absolutely not. You don't need that, like, I can give you that skill. Or I can help source that out. Or my team has that. So it's so important. And again, find out what works for you and what you need. Also, ask yourself, Is this the thing I need for the next step in my business? So you know, like, I'll see something online, I'll scroll someone will pitch me something and I'll say, oh, my gosh, I need that. And then I'll message her Calif, say I think I need this program. And she'll say no, that's step M. And we are at step G. So keep it in the back of our mind. And we'll talk about that in six months. But right now you don't need that we need this. And sometimes, sometimes what we need right now is fun stuff. We're like, Oh, but I want that I want to do that thing. And that's actually like not what we need. And then by not doing the things in the right order. We're actually farther behind. So yeah, I know, always have a one on one coach.

Andrea Crisp 27:49
When I started first working with you is invest foundations, you became my my mentor coach in within the group. And I was in a place where I really wanted to scale like that was like kind of like my intention, like I want to scale. And what we ended up doing for those sessions was really looking at nurturing my audience. And it was the thing that I think I was kind of I don't know, I mean, not that I didn't want to do it, like the non sexy stuff. Yeah, I just was like, Can't we just get to like the good stuff? Like, can we just get to some sales? Yeah. And, and I really look back now, at those months and think, now I can, you know, put something out because I have spent the time building relationships, showing up doing all those things. So how was it? How important is it for people to take time to sell nurture? Like, what what does that look like in someone's business?

Jillian Murphy 28:49
Yeah, I mean, you shouldn't you should be nurturing your audience every single day, and you should be selling every single day. And it's interesting, because I would say probably 95% of the people that come to me to help them with sales, they're not actually ready to sell yet. They've missed all that stuff before. They don't have an audience. They're not doing lead gen. They're not engaging, they don't have a warm audience. Their content is not clear, their messaging is not clear. So those things are still selling. So while we think that selling is the clothes, selling is all of those other things that lead up to it. So there's like a very big difference between selling and closing. So make sure that you're selling every day selling is nurturing your audience. Outbound engagement, lead generation, really clear messaging, content that's converting like getting on podcast, getting your name out there, IG lives, that is all selling the close is towards the end, and you will never close, never close unless you are doing all of those other things first, so that's why it's so important to be doing it. And then the other thing is making sure that your audience knows how to buy from you. That's the other thing. I see people all the time that I work with are getting ready to work with me. And I go to their Instagram, and I'm like, How do I work with you? Oh, yeah, I don't tell people a lot, or, you know, it's halfway down my Instagram page, make sure make sure people know, this is how you can work with me. I mean, if you're listening to this podcast, and you start to follow me, you will see I tell people every day on my Instagram Stories, how you can work with me, because I get new followers every day. So you want to be telling your audience like, Hey, this is how you can work with me. Again, if you believe in what you do, make sure people know how they can work with you.

Andrea Crisp 30:33
And then that's what I've seen from even how you posts and things that you do. Like you're, you're constantly, you know, putting something out every month and saying, Okay, this and, and I think that's the thing, like people are watching for a certain amount of time. And then they're engaging, and they're, you know, jumping in your group, and then all of a sudden, they're like, you post something like, yep, Today's a day. And then boom, there it is. And that's one of the biggest things I've learned from you is to be unapologetic about the fact that I'm not just selling you something, I'm serving you with something. Yeah. And if I am not showing up and saying I can help you, then, you know, I'm doing you a disservice by not telling you that I can actually help you with this. And I think that was I got really in my head about that. And I think a lot of, you know, entrepreneurs, coaches, people that I work with, they get in their heads about how they can show up and share what it is that they do. So what would you say to someone who is in that position right now or that like, they're, they have a gift, they have something that they can give the world whether it's through a business or through their art, what would you tell them is something that they need to actually do or shift in order to move in that direction? Yeah,

Jillian Murphy 31:52
so share it. I mean, it's literally as simple as that, share it with your audience. And if you don't feel competent yet to be like, Hey, this is how you can work with me. Because again, some people don't want to say that maybe share with like, this is the transformation that I provide. Or today on a coaching call with somebody, this is the transformation that we got, or today with one of my one on one clients, this was a breakthrough that we had, like, those are all ways of saying, This is how you can work with me without saying this is how you can work with me. So there's other ways of saying it without saying it. I mean, even today, I've posted two stories on my Instagram that were selling without me saying like, hey, buy from me, I welcome somebody into a new program. So if somebody just came to my Instagram today, they're like, Oh, she has a program. Right? So they're like, what does she have interviewing. And then I shared social proof from a client. So they're like, Oh, she has one on one coaching. So while I wasn't saying, like, Oh, this is how you can work with me, I'm always putting things out that people can work with me. Another way, is making sure that you have different offers. Some people think that like, oh, I can only have one offer at a time, if you walked into a shoe store women, and there was only one pair of shoes, and that wasn't your size, or it wasn't the color or what you needed, you would walk out. So think about your business, like a shoe store, you want to have lots of different things, because you're going to have lots of different buyers. I mean, my product suite starts at $214. And it goes up to $22,000. Why do I have so many different offers? Because I have so many different buyers? Yes, you have so many different buyers that come into your world or my world. So you want to have different things available for them. So that it's not just one option. You know, I see so often that you know, coaches have, you know, I have a $5,000 mastermind, like take it or leave it? Well, if that buyer doesn't want a mastermind, that buyer doesn't want community or that buyer doesn't have $5,000, then you're you're out of luck. But what if you had a $500 One hour session where you could just get to know them, you could be selling a ton of those. And now you're not turning away someone just for that one option. So I see that so often that you need to have multiple things, and again, at different price points, because people are going to come in, you know, I don't care how good you are, how good of a coach you are. You need to have lower ticket things, because there's a barrier of entry that people want just to work with you to start out.

Andrea Crisp 34:28
Yeah, and I think there's that trust factor there. I mean, people talk about it all the time. But it is true. If they don't immediately like, you know, trust you or know you then they have to kind of, you know, like it's dating, you know, I got to have a conversation with her. I have to like listen to her talk on a few masterclasses and show up in her group a couple of times and be like, oh, yeah, like what you saying is true. And I see you know, evidence because all these people are coming back and saying, oh, yeah, like I sold this or I did that. And you know, so To jump immediately from, you know, just hello to like, want to buy my $5,000 mastermind. That's a big jump. Yeah. And I have found myself just in the past little while saying no to so many things, because they immediately wanted to sell me at this big higher price point. And I have to say, that's how I was taught. That's how so many people are taught in this online space? Which is why I think a lot of them are not doing well. Yeah, yeah, we're given they were given bad advice. And your your the the advice that you're giving is running completely contrary to a lot of the things that some of these online marketers are telling you to do. One of the other things that you've said to me, which I think is really important for people to hear is talking about having that one voice in your life. What does that look like when you're in a relationship coaching relationship? Yeah.

Jillian Murphy 36:01
So when you are in the online space, you hear a lot of voices, you hear everyone's voice from social media, you hear everyone's voice, when you're in a mastermind, maybe you have 17 coaches, then you're confused. So I encourage you, you know, whether you're working with Andrea, whether you're working with another coach, whoever it is, pick one person, and that's your voice that you listen to, that's your direction. That's that's the one person so like, for me, it's recall. So I might go to a masterclass, I might have ideas about other things, but I take everything up the chain to her before I do anything, before I buy anything, before I invest in anything, before I do anything, before I create a masterclass anything, because she one at the end of the day is my main mentor. And what I see so often is that people have multiple coaches, you know, I have I have a coach for this, I have a coach for this a coach for this a coach for this. So let's just say you have two coaches, let's and let's just let's just use simple things, let's say you have one coach that works extremely masculine energy. And then you have one coach that works extremely feminine energy, if you're trying to run a business and you have a coaching call with one who has an extremely strategy based, and then you have a coach with the other that's very energy based, you are going to your head is going to be spinning, because one is going to be telling you to go work, get it done, do all these things, and the other one's gonna tell you to go journal, play, run around outside, manifest all these other things, and you're gonna be like, which one do I do, and guess what's gonna happen? Probably nothing. So it's so important to have one person that you lift, listen to doesn't matter which one it is, but find one voice. And also, my, my reasoning for this is to listen to the one person that's already successful in business, quit listening, maybe to like your peers, that maybe don't have a business that you want yet. Maybe don't listen to your peers that are also stuck. Because you're both stuck. Listen to the person who has had the successful business, take the advice in the mentorship

Andrea Crisp 38:03
from them. You're so funny, like I Okay, cuz I, I operate out of a lot of feminine energy. Yeah, but one of the things that I've recognized is that I can swing very easily to the masculine, and then get really stuck in that, and not have a good healthy balance. And so I was actually talking to a friend of mine, and I was telling her I was going to be working with you and, and I was just saying what you know, like, this is, she's, this is what kind of energy she works in. And, and she said to me, she's like, I think that's perfect for you. Because you have so much of the feminine, that you need someone who works in the masculine to actually say, Okay, do this, do this, do this. Because I can get in my head. And I can feel and be intuitive about all sorts of things. And I can feel and know whether it's right or not, but you saying this, this, this keeps me in the Okay, now I can do? Yes. And so I really love how you've explained that. Because then when people are looking for a coach in any capacity, really be aware of like, what is it that you need to complement us where you are because, you know, maybe you do need, you know, a little bit more feminine energy, maybe you do need a little bit more masculine. Maybe you need somebody in the mix, you know,

Jillian Murphy 39:23
even like with your team, you know, even like with your team members, like if you have like a VA, like find someone that maybe is like the opposite of you. Yeah, because again, like it's gonna compliment you like, again, I work in very masculine energy, like I'm a spazzed. Like all the time, if my OBM my VA had the same energy as me, our business would like blow up. She is so the opposite of me. That is such a good compliment. So it's so important that you self identify who you are, where your own gaps are, and then fill it in with your team members, your mentors, your community, your friends, your accountability partners. All of those things. Mm hmm.

Andrea Crisp 40:02
Now one of the big things that I'm really talking a lot about this year is, is really stepping out and owning your power, being who you are, you know, creating that space for yourself in the world to use your gifts and, and the the part of what I do in my business and in you know, with my life personally is, is really all about, you know, creating that space in your life for you to shift those mindsets, those old, those old stories and, and to really move into the space where you're stepping into your power. You're being courageous, and you're taking those steps. And the reason why I love Julian so much and I love having you on here to talk is because that piece of the courage part, even when I'm thinking about the podcast, is all about putting yourself out there. And it's all about that, that connection, creating those relationships. And so I just highly endorse you anybody listening to the podcast today and is like, you know what, I do need to put myself out there, I do need to actually create a community and I want to find somebody who's like, totally no nonsense. I'm just shouting out Jillian, because she's the real deal. And but Jillian, tell us how like, what is like that first step they can take with you. Yeah, to get to know you.

Jillian Murphy 41:20
So the first step is get to know me on Instagram, come over and follow me get to be my internet besties I like to say, you know, come follow me at the Jillian Murphy. I also do a community Sunday event where if you're a coach or your service provider, you're an entrepreneur, come hang out. It's a free networking event. It's every single Sunday, Andrea is always there. So you're in great company. So yeah, I'd love to have you but really, the first step is just come get to know me on Instagram. And let's just become friends there and see where we go from there.

Andrea Crisp 41:49
Awesome. Okay, so this is the question I always like to ask right at the end is what is your next brave step?

Jillian Murphy 41:57
My next brave step would be Hmm. This is probably a good one. So I had a brain injury six months ago. And I have been very afraid to do a lot of things. And I have a trip planned in April. And I have moved it three times because I've been afraid to fly to get on a plane. So I am actually making that trip in April on a plane. So that would probably be my my brave next step that I actually go through with it and actually get on a plane.

Andrea Crisp 42:30
All right, well, we are sending you all the good vibes, all the prayers, all the love. We can't wait to follow you on your journey, you're probably gonna post about it on Instagram, we'll see that you took this brave step. We're standing with you believing you're taking it. Thank you and that it's done. And that you're had an amazing time on your trip already. Julian, thank you so much. Oh, my God,

Jillian Murphy 42:52
thank you so much. You are absolutely the best. I love what you are doing. You're helping so many people. And again, I also edify you because you are the real deal. And people are so lucky to have you in their life. Thank you. Thank you. I'll talk to you soon.

Andrea Crisp 43:06
Okay, friend, that was a power packed conversation. I know that there are so many nuggets that you can take away and start applying within your business, especially when you're adding value to those potential customers in your life. I know for me, I'm going to go back I'm going to listen through the episode, I'm going to take some notes and I'm going to see what I can do personally in my own business to apply these huge nuggets of wisdom. So thank you, Jillian, for hanging out with me. And thank you for hanging out with me as well make sure that you connect both with myself and Jillian. Let her know that you heard her on the courage cast, and I will have all of her links in the show notes for you. Until next time. Remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

Kate 43:51
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204 | Letting Go of What No Longer Serves You

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
That can be scary because a lot of times we feel like, well, if I let go of that then I don’t have anything coming in. I don’t have any business, any income, any of those things coming in. But oftentimes it really, for your highest good. We need to be able to let go of what is no longer serving us so that we can create space for what is coming in.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Are you holding on to things in your life that are no longer serving your highest good. Today in the podcast, we're talking about what it looks like to let go of things that are no longer serving you to create space for what it is that you truly need in your life.

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 30-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

Connect with Andrea's Text Community: Text the word COURAGE to 647-424-2429 or  CLICK HERE

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Are you holding on to things in your life that are no longer serving your highest good. Today in the podcast, we're talking about what it looks like to let go of things that are no longer serving you to create space for what it is that you truly need in your life.

Kate 0:17
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 0:42
Hey there, welcome to the courage cast. My name is Andrea Crisp, and I am the host, I'm also a confidence and mindset coach. And I am so glad that you're joining me today we're talking about something that I have been really thinking about for months and months and months and months on end, I cannot wait to dive in to this topic with you all about letting go of what no longer serves you, we're going to talk about three different areas in your life that you can take a look at. And I'm going to walk you through just a little bit of a process that I go through when I'm taking a look at what serves me and what doesn't in my life. And I'll tell you what, the this year at the beginning of 2022, I chose the word expansion as my word of the year. And I was like, Oh, this is going to be amazing. Well, okay, so expansion, you know, means almost kind of like creating that space in your life for new things for opportunities. But it also means that when you are expanding, it means that you have to pull things out that are not serving you anymore. And that can be painful. And it's not always easy. And I'm not saying that it is when you are doing this process. But what I am saying to you that if you want to move forward in your life, if you want to move forward in your business, if you really want to take those huge steps to make an impact in the lives of others, you've got to be focusing on what is serving you, and letting go of those things that are no longer serving you. So very first thing is I'm going to talk about your environment. People talk about this all the time. And, you know, you might be thinking, you know, well, I'm stuck where I'm at, or this is kind of where I'm at in my life. We can do this in any way in our environment. So this might be looking like your actual place that you work or where you are sleeping at night, or your car. I mean, it can be anything that you feel is no longer serving the highest version of yourself. So the version of maybe who you were that you came into 2022 with was like, Yeah, this is working for me. But perhaps the version of you that is your elevated version. The future self is like, Yeah, this is not serving me anymore. I went through this not that long ago, probably about a month ago where I literally went through everything in my office in my closet, and I purged and I did something crazy. And I decided I was going to put things on Facebook marketplace and sell them. Oh my gosh, that was like the literal worst thing I could have done. And I'm not saying it's a bad idea if you want to do that, like, if if that's you like you do you. But for me, it just like, sucked all the energy out of like about three or four days where I had these items on Facebook marketplace. I think at the end, I made $20 and ended up donating the rest. It was probably online for I don't know, like I would say half a day when you totaled it up. Definitely not worth the $20. However, I did learn a valuable lesson that that energetic flow needs to be cleared. And so for me, I started to understand and realize that in order for me to clear that energetic space, I had to let go things in my life in my space that were no longer serving me. And I don't need necessarily to receive something from them. I just need to let it go. That was a big lesson. Not gonna lie.

Okay, another area of your life that you may be looking at all your relationships. So this can look like your friendships. It can look like your peer groups. It can look like intimate relationships depending on where you're at in your life friendships, you know what I think we put so much emphasis on our friendships. And really, they serve us in seasons, you can have a friend that you pick up every so often with, and it serves where you are at that time, but you don't necessarily need them in your life all the time. And I think understanding that and letting go of that need for that person to fill the void for you, is so important to know. And that actually might even save a friendship. Because you might be in a place in your life where you're like, I'm feeling like I need this. And so you're going outside of yourself, you're going external, to find the validation or the support, or whatever it is that you need that emotional connection. And that actually might be harming the relationship. So letting go of that need for that person to constantly be in your life. And serving that purpose for you might be a way that you can release, what is no longer serving you. It could also be peer groups, I just finish a mastermind that was nine, almost 10 months long, maybe a little bit longer. But anyways, it was phenomenal. And I was tempted to actually re enroll in the new cohort. But I had this sense that it was time for me to move on. And I didn't know to what, but I definitely felt as though my I had served my time there. And it's so interesting, because even within those community peer groups, there is an expiration date on where you're at and where you need to go. And it's so tempting to want to stay within those communities and like, just kind of get everything you can out of them.

But often for your own highest good, you have to start taking a look at okay, well what do I need now? What do I need in order to grow my business right now or my life in this particular season, and letting go of those people, that community, that collective that is no longer serving you, I didn't really recognize this in my life for a long time, like I really held on pretty tightly to a lot of my peer groups for a long time. And now I recognize, I don't have to like excommunicate them out of my life or anything. And I don't have to like, never talk to them or DM them or any of those things. But my expectation level around the the purpose that they serve in my life has definitely shifted. And I have let that go. So that I can make space for new people, new opportunities, new mentors, new things in my life. The third thing that you may want to look at is within your business, this could look like clients in your in your business. And for me, this actually just came up this week, I have been thinking about what I want to be shifting in my own business. And many of you know that I've been teaching voice and piano lessons for years since I was in college. And I've kind of kept it up. But one of my really phenomenal students, her mom sent me an email, and they are going to discontinue lessons. And I'll tell you what, it was a bit of a sting when I first read the email. And I started to realize, shortly thereafter, good conversation with a friend of mine actually helped point this out, but that

I needed to release and let go of this part of my life. And that this was the universe God's way of saying, Okay, it's time to move on. It's time to disconnect this and move on from this. And for me, it was wow, like just a simple little thing of letting go of a client made all of the difference. And recognizing Well, what does that look like for the rest of those clients? And what does it look like? If I do let go of them? What will it make space for? And I think that that can be scary because a lot of times we feel like, well, if I let go of that then I don't have anything coming in. I don't have any business, any income, any of those things coming in. But oftentimes it really, for your highest good. We need to be able to let go of what is no longer serving us so that we can create space for what is coming in. That can also look like programs that you're offering within your business. It can look like specific offerings. I know within my own business I've been shifting how I've been coaching, and I'm taking a look at how I offer my services. And what does that look like, in order to serve people in a an even better way in a more tangible way, I need to let go of some of the ways I was serving before in order to really help people dial in and shift their mindset in their lives and in their business.

So this can look so many different ways. But how you're maybe like, how do you do this? Andrea? How do we actually let go of those things? Well, I have a I have, I have something I want to share with you. Okay. So very first thing is you want to get clear on what you want. Mike drop, okay, like, That's it, we could just go home now. Get clear on what you want in your life? What do you want your environment to be? Like? What do you want your relationships to be? Like? What do you want your business to be like, even today, I was writing down a description of what I want my future clients to be like. And I felt so deeply connected to that person. So get clear around your purpose, who you're serving, who you are becoming as this highest version of yourself. Because what you need in this new version is not what you needed before. So it's like, well, you know, I know what I want it to look like. But do you know what you want it to feel like? Do you know what you want your environment to feel like? Do you know what you want your relationships to feel like the purpose you want them to serve, whether that's your peer group, whether that's your friend group, whether it's a mastermind, you're part of whether it is a mentor, or a coach that you're working with? Do you know what you want that to feel like in your life, get clear around that purpose. Same thing with your business in every way, be very, very, very clear about what it is that you want. The second thing is,

have confidence to say what you need to say, in order to truly release those people. Maybe you're saying it to yourself, and not to that person, I'm not asking you to like, completely blow up the bridge and walk away. A lot of this is about you and not them. And so it's being really, really clear and having that confidence that to say, You know what, this is what I need. And when I step into my power in this way, then I'm asking for something completely different. And that will shift so many things in your life is that belief and that confidence that you can have exactly what it is that you desire to have in your life. And then the last thing is really all about courage. And it's taking that aligned action on what feels right for you at the time. Now, I have a couple of examples of this specifically, I was asked to be a part of several different programs, in the past couple of months, from phenomenal coaches, I might add. And I was thinking about what is going to serve my highest good. And there was something within me that knew that I needed to take a step back, and that I actually needed to be looking inward. And there was a coach that I had been working with, and I decided to stay working with her. But these other specific programs, although completely would be major beneficial for my life in business. I knew instinctively that they were not for me. So my action was to say no. And that was like really painful. I have to admit that because there was part of me that wanted to be in those groups and surrounded by those people. But I also knew in order for me to continue to move forward, I had to remove myself from these things in order for me to take that next step. And that trusting that those relationships and those people are still going to be there when I need them. And that the universe always brings us what we need when we're willing to release what is no longer serving us. So whether it's your environment, your relationships, your business, there's three things that you can focus on. Number one is getting clear on what it is that you desire and on your purpose. Number two, have the confidence to really step into your power in a whole new way to embody who it is that you truly desire and want to be. And then number three is take that aligned action really, really living bravely by saying yes or no to what thing to the things in your life that you feel are for now. If you are in a place in your life where you're like, yes, Andrea, this is like totally hitting home for me and I need to like dial this in a bit. I'd love to have a chat with you. We can have a 30 minute strategy call just kind of feel, where are you at right now? What do you need? And can I be of service to you? And if so, then I'd love to work with you one on one. Or you may want to be in part of my new coaching groups that are coming up this spring. So having said all that, thank you so much for hanging out with me today. I'm so glad that you're there. Here's your one action step. Go into your space today. Take a look around take a look at one thing that is no longer serving you pick it up, take it out of the house and just see how you feel. You'll be amazed at how you feel when you let go of what no longer serves you, friend. Thanks for hanging out. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly.

Kate 16:22
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203 | Your Judgment of Others Is Really About You

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
 
 
When we really start to understand that what we think about others is actually a projection of what we feel about ourselves, then we can switch the mindset, we can shift that, because we can do the work the internal mindset work to root out, why is it that I feel this way.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

You might be stopping the flow of abundance in your life because of the judgment you have about others. Today on the podcast we're talking about you can start reframing those negative mindsets so you can start allowing the flow of abundance in your life.

If you're ready to elevate your mindset book a FREE 30-minute Strategy Call with Andrea: www.andreacrisp.ca/schedule

Connect with Andrea on IG: @andreacrispcoach + @the.couragecast

Connect with Andrea's Text Community: Text the word COURAGE to 647-424-2429 or  CLICK HERE

 
 
 
 

Listen Here:

 
 
 

Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Okay, spoiler alert, did you know that you might actually be stopping the flow of abundance and success in your life because of the judgment you have about others. Today on the podcast, we're gonna be talking about what that looks like, how to unpack it, so that you can reframe those mindsets, and start allowing the flow of abundance into your life.

Kate 0:25
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose, with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 0:50
Hello, my friend. Welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea Crisp, I'm your host. It is International Women's Day today. And I have got something that is on my heart that I really want to share with you today. And if you've looked at the title of this podcast today, it's your judgment of others is really about you. Now, when I was writing this, and I was preparing, there were so many thoughts going through my mind about what it is that I wanted to share with you. And it really just is a simple principle that I want to talk to you about today. But I want to start with this, how you view others, is really projection of how you feel about yourself. And that took me a long time to figure that out.

It took me a long time to understand that concept. And it's been something that I have been trying to extract from my own life to extract from my business. Because there were so many judgments that I was placing on other people that really were a projection of how I was viewing myself. And here's a question that I want to ask you today. And it's gonna really probably show you the temperature of where you're at in your life. But what is the immediate reaction to those around you?

When they are successful in their lives and their business? And their relationships? Like, what is your immediate reaction to them? Is it like, oh, I want to, like, text them right away and tell them congratulations. Do you find yourself wanting to send them a DM with like, you know, an emoji? Or is it like, really inside you have this like feeling almost of like jealousy and anger, bitterness, all of these things like welling up within you. And when you see somebody else succeeding, especially another woman, does it make you feel bad about yourself? Like does their success actually trigger something in you? To make you feel bad about yourself? Do you find yourself becoming jealous and angry that you don't have that? Well, one of the ways that we block our success and abundance, both of those things? Well, really, anything good when you think about it, is when we are in judgment of others with what they have their relationships, the money that they are bringing into their business, the friendships or community that they have in their life, all of those things. When we stand in judgment of other people, we're really actually standing in judgment of ourselves. I mean, that's gonna make you feel a little bit better, right? But how do we reverse that? How do we actually move away from that I'm going to talk about that in just a second. But when I was growing up, many of you know if you've been listening to the podcast for any, any length of time that I grew up in the church, and you know, as a little girl, I learned the 10 commandments and one of them that, you know, always stuck, always stood out to me was, Thou shalt not covet which loosely translated means that we shouldn't want what other people have, okay. And it was seen as a sin for me To want what other people had in their lives and I kind of translated that, you know, when you're a kid and you're growing up and you hurt, you hear different things and you're learning different things. Of course, your your subconscious is taking certain directives from that right. So my subconscious was taking that in as, you know, it's bad for me to want what other people have, and I shouldn't have that. And I, I kind of made almost like an agreement that those were things that I would never have. Because I saw those things and felt like oh, well, it's a sin for me To want what they have. So maybe it's bad for me to have that.

And I don't know how you interpret that, or even if you've ever even grown up with that as something in your own life. Butwhen I saw other people being successful, you know, as a kid, as a teenager, I internalize that as this was something that I was never going to have for myself. And I would be internally judgmental, and angry, that they had all of this abundance of success. And I didn't. It only surfaced actually, not that long ago, I only started really understanding this principle. Really, within the past few years, I kind of knew that it was not good, not healthy. But I didn't know what to do about it. Right. I didn't know how to shift it. But I remember myself, saying things like this, and I wasn't like necessarily saying it out loud all the time. Like, these were like, internal mindset that I would have dialogue that I have with myself, but I would say things like, they really don't deserve that. Like, I mean, come on. Can you imagine like, you know, somebody has this amazing success in their life. And I'm like, they really don't deserve that, like, what did they do to get that? Or I would find myself saying things like, Well, what's so special about them? That they get to have that and not me? Like, you know, they're not any better than I am. Or, I said this quite often when it came to being a singer, I'm way better. What do they have that I don't have. And let me tell you, those internal dialogues that I was having with myself, those mindsets, were actually keeping me from having the success and the flow of abundance in my life that I truly desired. Because I was projecting my own insecurity and doubt onto other people, other women specifically. And as I'm recording this episode today, and as I'm talking about this, like it actually feels a bit painful to talk about. And the reason why I think it's so important for me to share this is that when we really start to understand that what we think about others is actually a projection of what we feel about ourselves, then we can switch the mindset, we can shift that, because we can do the work the internal mindset work to root out, why is it that I feel this way? And how can I feel differently. And since our subconscious mind does not know the difference between what we say about ourselves or others, it actually just internalizes it as a command and a directive. It stores that command and directive as an actual truth. So if you're saying they don't really deserve that, it's really like saying, I don't really deserve that. And then you create this whole mindset and block around things that you feel like you don't deserve. So maybe if you're judging somebody on the success of their business and saying, Well, they don't really deserve that, then it's really saying, like, I don't really deserve that success in my business. And when I said things like, what is so special about them, that they get to have that, that really translated in my mind and into my subconscious as what is so special about me, that I, you know, would deserve to have something like that. I was equating that, really, there was nothing really special about me. And I was telling my subconscious that over and over and over again, there's really nothing special about you, Andrea? And that right there like I mean, maybe you're thinking about that and saying, You know what, Andrea? Like I totally resonate with that. That is something that I say about myself or say about others, is that what is so special about them, that they get to have that and I don't they get to have that success. They get to have that relationship they get to have those clients that income level, any of those things Write, it's really about you, and peeling back the layers of feeling. Why do you feel like you don't deserve it? And of course, here's the doozy, like the big one here, I'm way better. Why do they have that? And I don't.

And that projection, for me was really about my insecurity, of, you know, having this gift and talent and yet not being able to use it. And thinking that I was better than other people or needing to be better than other people, in order to get something. Oh, like, Can you even imagine that? Like, sometimes it's like, we think we have to win something or be competitive. In order to deserve to have something, when really, we don't have to do anything at all, to deserve what the universe wants to give us, we just have to, we just have to ask for it and and the universe delivers. Now, this isn't definitely not how I grew up thinking, This has been a huge mindset shift in my own life. And the reason why I'm bringing this up on International Women's Day, of all days is because I believe in order for us to truly elevate and lift each other up, we're going to have to take a good hard look at what we believe to be true about ourselves. How can we actually promote, elevate, amplify other women, when we're not even doing that for ourselves. And that means that we have to really take inventory on what that looks like in our own lives. And when you do this, when you start to do this inner work, you're gonna see a massive shift not only in what you believe to be true about yourself, because that is going to shift you're gonna start to see massive changes in your own mindset. But you're also going to be able to see the beauty and the amazing abilities of other people that surround you and truly congratulate their success. Because you will be so happy, you'll be able to see that because it won't matter if they're having success, because you know that their success is dependent upon how they believe about themselves. Judgment, in insecurity, repelled repels people. And we don't want to be doing that we don't want to be standing in judgment and staying in this place of insecurity in our own lives. Instead, root those things out. And I know for myself that I don't want to be stopping the flow of abundance in my own life, because I'm consumed with what other women, what other people are doing. So I wanted to share that with you today. Because I think it's important, in order to elevate others, we have to learn how to root out those things in our own lives, so that we can believe for all the possibilities in our own lives. If you want to change your self esteem, start seeing others as magnificent people. And that will reinforce your belief in yourself. Friend, if you are in a place in your life, where you're like, you know what, I resonate with this completely, this is something that I need to do. It can be just as simple as really shifting your mindset. If you do not know how to do that, if you're like, that seems like something I have no idea how to do, I would love to help you. Let's set up a call. We'll see if it's a good fit. And if it is, then we can book a session together and I will help you to shift that mindset for yourself. Because you're the really the one who's going to do it. So book a call with me. It's you can go to my website, Andrea crisp.ca forward slash strategy and book a 30 minute call with me and we'll we'll chat we'll see what's going on with you. And how you can start reframing those thoughts you have about yourself so that you can start seeing yourself as magnificent and others as well. Friend, thanks for hanging out with me. Happy International Women's Day. Sending you so much love. And until next time. Remember you have everything you need to live briefly.

Kate 14:55
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202 | Empowering And Celebrating Women

WITH BRAD WALSH

 
 
 
started reaching out to women on Instagram, and Andrea the response was incredible. It was beautiful, it was amazing — they were so happy to hear that a man had created a platform to help elevate women and amplify their voices.
— Brad Walsh
 

About This Episode:

The concept of self-love and women's empowerment is often overshadowed and cheapened by cheesy cliches and yet it is more important than ever that we raise the voices of this new generation of women. I'm always thrilled when I can partner with a male counterpart who is as passionate about women's empowerment.

This week on the podcast I'm chatting with Brad Walsh the host of Empowerography Podcast,  which is a podcast platform that believes in amplifying the voices of women.

Brad and I chat about the importance of empowering women to own their sensuality and embrace feeling powerful and beautiful body, soul, and spirit. This is such an important topic when it comes to celebrating and empowering women.

Brad Walsh, is the father to two beautiful girls aged 19 and 21, a husband to an amazingly inspiring woman, a photographer, and a podcast host. 

The women along with his Mother and Grandmother are his “WHY”, and inspiration. Brad has had firsthand come to experience the struggles they’ve had with a positive body image. Their journeys inspired him to become a photographer and to create Empowerography Podcast.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
The concept of self love and women's empowerment is often overshadowed and can be cheapened by cheesy cliches. And yet it's more important than ever that we raise the voices of this new generation of women. And I'm always thrilled when I have an opportunity to partner with a male counterpart, who is just as impassioned, as I am about women's empowerment. And this week on the podcast, I'm chatting with Brad Walsh, the host of Empowerography podcast, which is a podcast platform that believes in amplifying the voices of women. And Brad and I chat about the importance of empowering women to own their sensuality, embrace feeling powerful body, soul, and spirit. And this is such an important topic when it comes to celebrating and empowering women.

Kate 0:44
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose with a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author, and your secret weapon. Hey there, welcome to The Couragecast.

Andrea Crisp 1:11
My name is Andrea crisp, and I'm your host, and I am thrilled that you're joining me today, we've got a great episode lined up for you. But before we get to it, I wanted to invite you to something that I am so thrilled to launch, it's called the mindset mentor circle. It's a free community, where we elevate our mindset so that we can elevate our impact in the world. And, you know, there are often times when we find ourselves in positions where we're overthinking things where we're stuck in those limiting beliefs. And I wanted to create a place a community where we can come together and share maybe what we're struggling with so that we can actually start reframing those mindsets and taking brave steps in our lives. And it's going to be held every Wednesday 12pm Eastern Standard Time, I'm going to put the link in the show notes. And you can connect with me and I will make sure that you get an invitation to our private Zoom Room. My guest today is Brad Walsh, and he is a father a husband. And he was really impacted and influenced by the women in his life, his mother, his grandmother, which is why he is so passionate about empowering women. He is also a boudoir photographer and the podcast host of Empower autography podcast. So without further ado, here is my conversation with Brad Walsh.

Brad, so excited to chat with you on The Couragecast today. Thank you for coming on. I was on your show. Not that long ago and Empowerography. And I am really, really excited to chat with you. So thanks for coming on and hanging out with me. And your thank you so much for the invite to to share a bit about my story and my journey with your plaque on your platform with your audience. I'm honored and really excited to to be here with you today and share a bit about my story and journey. This time. It's a little different being on the other side of the mic.

Brad Walsh 3:08
As you just experienced recently with me, so yeah, it's a little trade off here, I guess. Yeah. It's one of those things where it's like, you get used to doing a certain thing and kind of, you know, a lot being that mirror for other people. Yeah. And then all of a sudden, it's like, okay, I'm stepping out and I'm now being seen. And you know, and it is a little bit different to do this. Yeah, yeah. No, I'm glad. I'm glad. It's exciting. You know, when people you know, take a look at your podcasts that they all see that it is really focused on women, which is obviously why you're on my show. But one of the things that you know, I've seen more in your Facebook group is you're kind of becoming a little bit more visible. And, you know, this kind of like spoiler alert, people are gonna be like, Okay, well, what is this all about? So we're just gonna go there. So just tell us a little about who you are and who you serve.

My name is Brad Walsh. I am the host creator, producer of the Empower agafay podcast, I started the podcast, Jesus, it'll be two years next month, actually.

And it's all centered around and focused on women's empowerment. And a big piece of that came to be, of course, because of COVID. But the inspiration behind it came from and through five women in my life. My daughter's my two daughters who are now 20 and 22. They're a big part of the inspiration for that. And a big part of that piece of the puzzle, or story is because of what my daughters went through when they were younger when they were in elementary school. They were both bullied as kids in elementary school. And, of course, as a parent, seeing your children go through something like that is difficult and it's

It was a really tough time to go through with them. And I mean, you unfortunately can't go in and beat the kids up for take care of them.

That would be a bit of a problem. But seeing what they went through, and how they struggled through that, and the effects that it had on them. And the fact that the effects carried through with them to the different stages of their lives, from elementary school to teenage like high school years, and now their young adult lives, the effects are still there. It's heartbreaking. And it's horrible. I mean, I was as a kid, I was bullied as well. So I have an idea how they feel. But seeing them go through that. It's just, it's heartbreaking. And then thinking about that on a grander scale, the hundreds of millions of young girls and women who go through and deal with that on a daily basis and have it affect how they view themselves. They don't feel confident in who they are. They don't love themselves, they don't love their bodies. It's It's heartbreaking for me. So part of the inspiration for that, for the podcast was because of my daughters, and then my wife, of course. And then my mom and my grandmother, I mean, I was I grew up around women, I was raised by these two women.

My mom left my biological father when I was 10 years old. And back in those days, the women were the ones who stayed home to raise and look after the children while the husband was the one at working, making the money. So looking back on that now, the fact that he ran around on our haven't had an affair, and my mom had just hit that point where it's like, you know what I'm done. I'm not putting up with this anymore. I don't deserve this. And my boys don't deserve it. Either. She decided that she was going to leave. And that's exactly what we did. She'd had enough we, we took the clothes on our back, we left with just the clothes on our back and moved into a one bedroom apartment. My mom had to reintegrate back into the working world after being at work for over 10 years, because she stayed home to raise us. And when she was at work, my grandmother would step in and help look after some raises. So for me, those two women are the foundation for all of it.

I mean, they started this whole thing. And they lead by example, showing me what it is to be strong and courageous and resilient as women by doing what they had to do to get stuff done. And I mean, my mom had no choice, she had to get a job, she had to support her children. So that strength and resilience that those two women, I wouldn't be the man I am today without those two. And then of course, my wife and my daughters, these five women, they I guess it's my way of saying thank you and giving back to women in general, because of what these five women have brought to my life and shown me and taught me and given me. And that's why that's where the podcast idea came from.

Andrea Crisp 7:38
You know, it's interesting, you say that, because I had a mentor when I was a kid, I was nine years old, and Rosanna became my mentor. She was 14. So there's five years between us, right? And she played a huge role in my life. And then from there on, there were many more women who came in my life. Now I have a great mom. So, you know, I already had that piece. But yeah, you know, when I talk to women a lot, you know, of course, we're thinking about, you know, these women in our lives that have mentored us, but I often don't think about the boys. Yeah, who? Yeah, it's the moms Right? Like, you don't think about that. And, and unless you're in a relationship with a man that it's not good. And you think, Oh, my gosh, I wonder what their relationship was like, with their mother, you know, like, yeah, and it's a totally different story, you know, but these women are not just raising girls or raising boys too, who are then in relationship with women who are working alongside women. And if if that shifts, even then that that makes a huge difference in the lives of women and how we work and how we do things in life.

Brad Walsh 8:49
So for sure, it's funny how that gets overlooked, though, you know, really does. And the focus is on young girls and raising these young girls up to be strong and courageous and resilient and, and to not take shit from people. Right, exactly. That's great. But the boys Yeah, they do get overlooked. And I mean, a big part I think, is the societal conditioning for boys, right? Boys are taught growing up, Oh, you shouldn't show your emotions or the you know, if a boys crowd stop, you're crying, you're acting like a little girl and it that needs to shift we need to shift that thinking for our boys too. They need to be shown and taught that you know what, it's okay to show your emotions. It's okay to have emotion. You're a human being, you're going to have emotions, and it's perfectly normal to show those emotions if you feel like crying cry. There's nothing wrong with it.

Andrea Crisp 9:40
Yeah, I totally agree. Because I know you know, for women, like you know, we're girls especially like in our generation, right now growing up for women. It was like you know, there was certain expectations. Yes for us and certain ways for us to be acting. And when I when I showed up in you know, in my life in a work environment. I had a really hard time because I was trying to be feminine and I wasn't sure how to really use my masculine energy. Right. And I think it's, it's the opposite for for men in the sense of like, there's like this full on masculine energy, but there's part of this feminine part of the men. Yeah. That they feel like oh my gosh, if I show any kind of like sensitivity, or you know, inclusion, then I'm not going to be, you know, some man. Yeah. Yeah. And so it's interesting. Like, I mean, I didn't think we were going to talk about this today. But you know, here we are. Yeah. You know, when you when you think about your own journey, and with your, with your daughters, your wife, your mom and your grandmother, how have they informed who you are today?

Brad Walsh 10:54
I think it Well, I mean, it's obviously it's it started with my mom, my grandmother teaching me about respecting women, the back then, of course, at that age respecting girls, and we were always told growing up, you know, be polite, respect your elders, respect, girls, never ever, ever lay hands on a girl. It's just these values that that they instilled in me from a young age to always be respectful and treat everyone with respect and be fair to everyone. And so, I mean, it all started there. And just women are just natural nurturers, so that just because I didn't really have a father around until my mom met a gentleman later on, after she left my biological father, then I had the father figure in there helping me as well. But it was mainly my mom and my grandmother teaching me. And then of course, watching my daughter's grew up and seeing what they went through. Because obviously, times have changed for kids since we were children. And so just trying to instill those values in our girls, that's something that my wife and I always worked on and persisted with the girls is that, you know, don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't do anything, you can accomplish anything, you are limitless, put your mind to it. And don't let anyone stop, you don't let anyone keep you down. Don't let anyone tell. And I think that I don't want to say girls need that more a kids need that I think we need to start doing that with our children from a very young age, so that they grow up, that it's just naturally instilled in them, there's not even a second thought, if you tell someone something enough, whether it be negative or positive, they're going to start to believe it. Yeah. So if we started to do that with our children, at a young age, telling them that, you know, you are an amazing human being you can do anything you want, you are limitless, you, you know, instilling those confidence, that confidence and those values, they'll just grow up not knowing any different.

Andrea Crisp 12:53
And I think even you know, as I'm thinking about, like, I grew up with really supportive parents, but I didn't hear words like that, like I didn't hear, I almost heard things that were just almost a little bit more fear based in the sense of, you know, make sure you get a good job. So you can take care of yourself. It's easy to be like, it's all in like, in they, of course wanted to support me and make sure that I'm okay. Yeah, I saying make sure you do this and this, but not like, you know, take a risk and, you know, go for it and do the thing you want to do. And, and I think that, you know, having that kind of support system, especially for young young people, whether they be male or female, to know that you can do things like right now. The Olympics is are on right. I love Yeah. And and I think about all of those Olympians, and how, you know, they are pushing the boundaries, of sport, of athleticism, of, you know, creativity. And I think if they stopped, you know, to just go I wonder, you know, like, here's the cap, you know, I better not go any further than that. Yeah. Where were they? You know, yeah, where would they be? Yeah. And that's available to everybody. Yeah.

Brad Walsh 14:09
You know, though, I think that I like what you said about when you were growing up to because we're of the same generation. I don't think that our parents thought I think that was just part of the conditioning of that generation. It wasn't because my parents didn't say, oh, you know, you can do anything you want. Don't you don't have to get a secured if you want to start to do it. No, it wasn't like that. It was you got to get a secure job, but they were supportive. It's just I think it's a different time, right? Whereas now I mean, the internet and technology has opened up so much in the world, you you can do anything never I've heard many people say this is the greatest time ever to be alive because you can start a business from home you can work online and and COVID has shown us that as well that you know what, we don't need to stick to those old values and restraints and constraints. We can work from home. The world is shifting. Yeah, absolutely changed. And and I love that you are championing women in that. Brian, tell me a little bit about how you started your photography business.

Andrea Crisp 15:13
I am so fascinated by your photography business and how you took that and then merged it into a podcast.

Brad Walsh 15:23
Well, photography that that I would have to say that's my first love and my first passion. I mean, I started shooting back in high school on black and white film, I'm dating myself here on black and white film learning how to develop images in the darkroom. So, and the funniest thing about all of the the whole photography piece of it is that I never ever wanted to photograph people, I had no interest whatsoever.

I was more into shooting landscapes and architecture and creating my art and, and selling, exhibiting my art at art shows I was doing art shows around Toronto. And so photography has been a huge part of my life forever.

And I, I guess, I mean, I started working in corporate. I worked for an accounting firm for 12 and a half years and about three years, four years into my journey into that my career, I was to put it politely tasked with the responsibility of doing the headshots for the corporate staff. And that's actually where I fell in love with photographing people, I loved having that one on one time where I could connect with individuals, and learn a bit about who they are and what they do, and just have that connection piece with them. And that's really where my love for photographing people started. And then about three or four years following that I was introduced through a mutual friend to a boudoir photographer who was based in Florida. And I fell in love with the genre, I fell in love with the message, the mission and behind boudoir photography, what you can help women accomplish in terms of self confidence and body acceptance and self love and all of that amazingly beautiful stuff. And I ended up mentoring with this woman for six months. And when I was done my mentorship, it was just one of those light bulb moments, I just knew that when I do finally leave corporate, because at that point, I was starting to think, Okay, I've got to get out of this job, I wasn't happy where I was working, I hated going to work every day, all I could think about was photography and starting my business and getting out into the world of entrepreneurship. And I mean, I'll be it it took me another six years before I made that jump and got the courage and the strength up to do it. But I eventually did it. And I delved into the world of boudoir, photography, and women's empowerment, that's where my whole journey into women's empowerment started was through the photography piece of that. And I just loved being able to give back in that way and have that kind of impact on women and on human beings for that matter.

With this genre of photography, I mean, I had women, my goal was to have the women that were coming in as my clients to leave the studio feeling better about themselves than when they got there. And honestly, Andrea, it's like,it's hard to explain, it's honestly, it's, I can only equate it to seeing a caterpillar transform into a butterfly right before your very eyes that the transformation that happens right there that unfolds before you, as a photographer, you can't even put it into words, how incredibly rewarding and inspiring and amazing that feels to be able to be part of that process. And to have these women's lives changed is just phenomenal. And women have come into viewing sessions after their shoot and told me that they can't believe that's them in the photographs. And honestly, there's no bigger or better compliment I could ever be paid as a photographer or as an artist to hear and know that I ever had that kind of impact on another human being and given back in that way. And that's what it's all about for me is having an impact and having these women leave the studio feeling better than when they arrived loving themselves and feeling a little bit more confident they leave with a little bit more of a pep in their step. The studio, it's a great feeling truly, it's amazing.

Andrea Crisp 19:18
You know, it's so funny because like, I just got some photos done back in the fall back when those are changing actually went to Toronto and my friend Margo does my my photos there. Right andI wasn't particularly feeling my best like you know, I had a little bit of COVID weight gain and you know all the things andyou know, got some outfits and did all this stuff and then I went and did the the shoot and of course she sends it to me she sends all the proofs to me and I'm like, wow, like she really does make me look good. You know, like yeah, this moment and, and I've been thinking about for some time about you know this I mean, I'm 47 So, you know, the thought of maybe doing a boudoir photography shoot is like, oh my goodness, like, Is this the time that I would do that? Why did I choose 27? You know, like, but I want to know, behind the, like, what is the shift? Like what is happening for women when they're coming in and doing that, because I know how I felt when I saw the the photographs, but like, you know, I talk with women all the time about, you know, their mindset and confidence and showing up with confidence. But what is that like, kind of physical, visceral thing that's happening when they're coming in and doing that? I think it does. A lot of it goes back to confidence. I mean, I have to say, my process, I do appreciate consultations with my clients.

Brad Walsh 20:54
We talk and an open line of communication is always there between myself and my clients to discuss if they have questions, if they want to know anything between the time of initial contact to when we shoot, I want to keep that line because let's be honest, you're in a very vulnerable abstains only. Right? So I, of course, trust and rapport is of paramount importance when you're choosing a photographer to shoot these, this particular genre of photography. So I think that keeping that open line of communication open is very important. Because I want them to feel comfortable, I want us to have a report already established before we even set foot in the studio, this way to get an idea of who I am what I'm like what I'm about. And so I mean, there's many reasons why women do them celebration. I've had clients that are celebrating birthdays, and you know, or they've lost weight, or, but I do find that I have found that some women are nervous or scared about doing it. And then the self limiting stuff starts to come in, right? Oh, you know, I need to lose five pounds before I do a shoot or I need to lose 10 pounds or let me I gotta I gotta work out for a few months before we get. And I always try to instill into my clients that No, I, I think that we should be celebrating you who you are right now. If you want to do another shoot later on. Great, but why don't we celebrate who you are now embrace that beauty. Embrace your confidence, embrace yourself and just love who you are. And that's a very difficult thing, self love and self worth. And that's all part of the process. Right? So those are all factors that contribute to that.

It's just an incredible thing to witness. I honestly, there aren't enough words to describe how incredible that process is. I mean, some of the shoots I've had clients where they of course they come in, and understandably so they're very nervous and closed off. And I'm just imagining me walking.

Andrea Crisp 22:56
Like, I'd be like laughing and giggling and like, that's, that's what I want it to be. Exactly. It's got to be fun. That's what I try and do too, is keep the atmosphere very fun and laid back and loose and happy. And I mean, I help them choose outfits.

Brad Walsh 23:11
There. Yeah. Oh, yeah, for sure. 100%. Okay, how's it going? That was my other question. Like how the heck do you find what to wear? Or like, um, yeah, I have, I have a guide that I send out to all my my clients that's got suggestions, I create, I have a Pinterest board created with ideas for outfits. But one thing I have to stress too. And I do this with all my potential clients on the Discovery calls that launch boudoir is not necessarily synonymous with lingerie, you don't have to wear lingerie, if you don't feel comfortable in that, that's totally fine. If you want to wear cut off jeans, kind of shorts and a tank top and it to teach. That's fine. It's about whatever makes you feel beautiful, whatever makes you feel sexy, whatever makes you feel empowered. That's what it's about. It's not about lingerie. I mean, let's be honest, 95% of my clients, that's what they want. They want to wear lingerie during the shoot, but it's not a necessity. It is absolutely not a necessity. And I can see the value for like, you know, you know, for women, when I think about like, okay, lingerie, like I'm like, I don't know, that I would want to show I mean, some women have no problem showing photographs online and whatever. I'm like, I don't know, like, that's part of my business. I'm like, do I want to be putting that out there, but I'm like, there's a part of it that I would want to be able to show. So it's it's I'm glad that you say that because I also think that the empowerment comes from owning that part of your sexuality. 100%

Andrea Crisp 24:48
Can you speak to that a little bit? Sure.

Brad Walsh 24:50
Yeah. I mean, again, this is this is part of the whole process beforehand is that again explaining about you not having to wear this or wear that and I tell them

Women to bring as many outfits as possible this way we if we have we have choices so that some say, I will help them choose outfits before we start shooting. Yeah, say Okay, let's try this. And, you know, let's try something. And another thing that I tell my clients too is that I will never ever publish any images without their written consent, of course, yeah. And this another major thing that I tell my clients to is the one of the first questions I asked them is, why are you doing this? Why do you want to do this? Why do you want to do a boudoir shoot? And I've had clients tell me that, well, you know, I'm doing this for my husband or my wife, or whatever the case may be in them. And it could not. I try to enforce that. Okay, that's great that you're doing that for them. But first and foremost, this is about you. It's not about them, it's for you, right, if you want to gift the images to your better half, whether it be husband, wife, whatever the case is, that's great. But first and foremost, let's focus on you. This is a celebration of you, not them. That's it, right. I mean, yeah, that's the most important part is that we get that down and settle that this is for you. Don't worry about them. And honestly, the images are just a byproduct of the shoot. It's really about the experience. That's what it's about is the experience of being photographed and feeling beautiful and feeling empowered and feeling sexy and feeling good about yourself. That's what it's about. You're just a byproduct. I'm signing up. I don't even know.

Like, all right, I signed gladly. No problem. I will gladly do it shoot for you. No problem at all, you know, because I'm thinking about like, even when I did the the shoot with my friend, Margo. Yeah, the more we did it, the more comfortable I became. Yes. And like she's like, show me the camera. She like hey, look at this. Yeah. And and like, oh, like, you know, yes. And that's, that's something that I do constantly, honestly, showing on the back of the camera, because you my client, you're surprised? Yeah, yeah, they're there. And they're wondering, because I know there are photographers who don't do that. Yeah. And I can't even imagine the clients must be thinking, Well, are we getting anything good? Is any of this material usable? And so I'm constantly showing them the back of the camera. And it's funny that you mentioned that, by the end of the shoot, you're feeling this whole freedom. And and that's happened. I don't know how many times where we've gotten to the point, like I said, they walk in, they're very closed and nervous, which understandably so. But by the near the end of the shoot, I'm like, Okay, we're done. I think we've got everything we need. We're wrap, oh, I was just really getting into this, I was really starting to enjoy this. And that's incredible to hear that because that's when you know that they're leaving that studio. With a pep in their step. They're leaving feeling so much better than when they got there. And that's what it's about. I have I feel the visceral, like, response right now. Like, that is how I'm like, okay, yeah. Because as much I, when I started doing mindset, confidence coaching, like, I really do believe, you know, like, if we shift the the stories and the narrative about what we believe to be true about ourselves, and we step into our power, how, you know, we can really impact whomever we are serving, whatever absolutely, that is. But I guess the more I understand body, soul spirit, and realizing how important all the aspects of us are, as women, you know, there is the mind, and there is the soul component, but there's also the body and yeah, and we put a lot of emphasis on okay, what do we eat? And how much are we working out? And, you know, more and more, I'm seeing these coaches, you know, who are pleasure coaches, and doing all these things? And I'm like, and some of it, people can be like, Yeah, I can get on board that and some people are like, Yeah, I don't know, you know, yeah, but I think there's this importance of this element of empowering women are allowed. And that's the whole thing.

Andrea Crisp 29:00
We can be empowered. Yeah, that when we, we empower ourselves. Yes, that is when the shift happens. That's right. And it's like, you know, someone can set the stage for women to be empowered. You can, yeah, you know, you know, host of a podcast, photography I can as a coach, but it's really the shift that she makes, in her mind, in her body in her spirit in every way that empowers her to actually take those those steps. Absolutely. Well, until until the particular person feels it within them. Yeah, it doesn't. And this is something that we struggled with my wife and I with our daughters, after the bullying, I mean, we continually reinforced with with behavior and talk about, you know, we understand how difficult that that period was that you went through, but don't let the word

Unknown Speaker 30:00
Have these people get in here and affect how you view yourself and, and my wife and I talked about this many, many times, we can tell the girls till we're blue in the face, how beautiful we think they are, how perfect they are, it does not matter if they themselves don't feel that within them. It doesn't matter what anybody says not even their parents, it doesn't matter. No. I mean, that's not to say give up and don't keep reinforcing. And don't keep telling them. But it doesn't unless they feel it, it doesn't matter. And that's the same thing with empowered empowerment, if a woman does not feel that,

Unknown Speaker 30:37
it doesn't matter, she has to feel that within herself. And you know, you're talking about your daughters who, you know, are now in their 20s. But, you know, as as older, as the older we get, really, there's so many women who I talked to who are, you know, in relationships or married, and they, they tell me, you know, in, whether it's in a conversation as a friend, or as a client, they're like, you know, in my marriage, things are not going well, I don't feel like you know, I can be myself, I'm, you know, maybe they're, they're, they're really not having that intimacy that they would desire, and they don't feel like how they want to feel. And I think all of that, you know, comes from this understanding of who you are. And if we're relying on someone to tell us, yeah, we are Oh, you are beautiful. Or, you know, it's like, I'm glad that you think that that's great. Yeah. It's it. There's such a difference when, you know, she shows up. And it's like, yeah, I feel it. Yeah, I mean, that's all goes back to self right self work. You have to put in the work, you have to dig deep, and learn to love yourself that everything absolutely everything begins with self. That's, that's the basis for all of it. That's the foundation. Now when you so here you were you're doing photography, and with the podcast, how did that kind of all get started?

Brad Walsh 32:09
Well, the initial start of the podcas came as a result of me, sitting around thinking that I want to do more with this mission of women's empowerment that I'm on because of the photography, I wanted to supplement or add something to it didn't feel like it was enough for me. And so I just, I thought I was thinking about it. I thought about doing a podcast for a while, but I had no idea what the hell I would talk about. And of course, imposter syndrome creeps in is like, well, who the hell am I to have a podcast? Who's gonna want to listen to what I have to say? What do I have a value to offer people? And through more thinking about it. And then I thought I had another one of those light bulb moments where I thought, Why don't I take or spin off what I'm doing with photography, where it's focused on women and focus a podcast solely on women, women who work in the entrepreneurial space of women who work in the corporate world, or women that have a story that they want to share. And so I reached out to about seven or eight friends, my women who are photographers, makeup artists at the time, this was back in 2019. And I explained a little bit about my idea and the platform and what I wanted to do with it and ask them if they would help me get it off the ground by letting me interview them.

They all agreed. So I started my mission I created I did the interviews, I created the content. And I started publishing episodes, I was publishing, I think at the time, it was about one episode every two weeks. So not a lot of content, because I didn't have a lot. But I thought I just want to get started, excuse me. And so I started publishing the episodes. And at that point, I was in my second year, full time at the photography business and the business started to pick up traction. I was getting more bookings and more inquiries. And I thought, You know what I've got to because the business is so new, I have to shift and focus my energy and time and effort into that full time and not be distracted by other things. So I did that and went back to the business. Fast forward to March of 2020. Well, we all know how that played out. That basically rendered my photography business.

I couldn't do anything I couldn't book shoots, and it was inoperable. So I got tired of hearing all the bitching and whining and complaining about what was going on in the world. And I just thought, you know what, I can't I can't get into that I can't go down that dark hole. And why don't I take advantage of this time that every single one of us as humans has been given on this face of the earth and do something good with it do something positive. And so I thought this is the perfect opportunity. I can reignite the podcast and put all of my energy and all my creativity and focus. I mean, I had to do something creative because I couldn't use my creativity to shoot so I thought

I've got to do something else. And so the podcast, just like that, I've got to do this. Now, this is the perfect time. And so I started reaching out to women on Instagram. And Andrea, the response was incredible. It was beautiful. It was amazing women were so happy to hear that a man had created a platform like this to help elevate women, and amplify their voices. And at the time, I thought, you know, there's a ton of women out there with empowerment podcasts. And I think that's great. That's awesome. But there are no men out there doing this. So this is the perfect opportunity for me to carve out my own little niche that I can grow and expand and blow up into the world and share this mission. And that's really how it was born. I guess it was reborn. We'll call it Yeah, no, it's so cool. And, you know, I got to be a guest on it, which is yes. Awesome. Very cool. So I will link in the shownotes. That episode, as well, when that comes out. And you're also doing some some new things, you know, that are kind of like spin off of the podcast. Tell us a little bit about that, too. Yeah. So last year? Well, I mean, my ultimate goal for this platform, I'll start there is to turn this into an in person women's empowerment conference that travels around the world. That's where I see this thing going. That's how big I'm thinking with this platform. And thank you. And so last year started by putting on the first four in pyrography, the first women's empowerment virtual conference. We held it on March 8, to celebrate International Women's Day. Last year, we had 24 women that spoke at the conference. We had sponsors who donated prizes and gifts to give away to the attendees, we gave away prizes leading up to the conference. And it was just an absolutely incredible day. It was a range of emotions, laughter, tears, happiness, it was just amazing. I had women messaging me and emailing me at the end of that week asking me to do it on a quarterly basis. Because they enjoyed the day so much, there was so much energy and inspiration from all of the speakers. And so we thought you don't have to do it again next year. So this year, of course, we're putting on empower. agafay live 2020 to another virtual online women's empowerment conference on March 8. Again, to celebrate International Women's Day, we have 2028 women speaking this year. It's running from 9:30am to 5:30pm. For the last hour of that conference, from 430 to 530. We're doing what we're calling a virtual happy hour, where we are bringing anyone who's left on the conference be at attendee speakers, into the lobby on Zoom, and just a networking session, you can chat with each other and connect with one another.

Tickets are only $20 Canadian, so $16 for our US folks down down beneath us.

And then I started something a few months back the end of last year called the Empowerment Network. And what that is, is virtual networking sessions for women.

We help they're held every third Thursday of the month from 7pm to 8:30pm. Eastern tickets for that are $20. Canadian again, for three sessions, you get to attend three networking sessions. So four and a half hours of networking.

And we have each session kicked off with two women who are part of the network speaking and sharing about who they are and what they do for the first 20 minutes of the session. And then for the last hour and 10 minutes of the session, what we do is we create Breakout Rooms in zoom and we put two women into each room to network with each other for 12 minutes. When they're done. When those rooms are expired, we bring everyone back into the lobby put you back into another room with a different woman to network, you get about between five and seven rounds of networking. So you get to meet five to seven women each session. Oh, yeah, it's been it's been really good. It's been received very well. The women are really enjoying it having a good time. Lots of laughs lots of fun. So it's good. That's amazing. Oh, well, we'll put that in there as well. Because I know, there's so many women who are, you know, just looking for that support that networking that yeah, community. You know, I think we'd all love to have the in life real community by absolute take what will take well we can get we'll get to that step that's coming. Don't worry. We're I want to do masterminds and retreats and in person networking events and things like that. So that'll that'll come down the road as we get clear of all of this that's going on. That's exciting. Why I am so excited that we had an opportunity to meet and you know, to collaborate with one another. And for me to hear your story and your journey. Where can people find you and how can they connect with you? They can find me at Empower agafay podcast on Instagram. Have a website WWW dot Empower agafay podcast calm basically those two places. Then of course we have the podcast the

Empowerography podcast Lounge on Facebook private group for women to interact and connect with one another. We have about 750 members in there and that is Empowerography podcast Lounge on Facebook. Awesome. Well, we'll make sure all that is in the show notes for people to connect with you. Thank you so much. Look forward to like more collaborations. Who knows what's in store for us, Brad? Thank you. Absolutely. Andrea, thank you. So very much. It's been an absolute pleasure, being able to sit down and be on this side of the mic and share my story and journey with you. I thank you and appreciate you for the opportunity. And he's an amazing, thank you.

I love chatting with men who are so passionate about empowering women. I think that it's so important when we are taking baby steps in our own lives, that we have people who come alongside of us and I think of my friend Steven, who has been part of the podcast for so long. He edits, he does all the original music. And he and his wife and his daughter. They're all about empowering women. And I love that he is part of this journey with me. So to all of the men out there who are so passionate about linking arms with us, we say thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Now Brad is also hosting a conference that is upcoming, so I'll make sure that I put all the links for that in the show notes so that you can access that conference that is coming up on March 8. And friend make sure that you reach out to me to get the link to the mindset mentor circle that we are starting every Wednesday 12pm Eastern Standard Time. I'd love to connect with you over there and get to know you a little bit better. Friend, thank you for hanging out with me today. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live briefly. If you liked this episode of The Courage cast, we'd love to hear from you. Leave us a rating and review and while you're there, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Original music and production by Steven Crilly.