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201 | Stepping Out of A Financial Culture of Now

WITH VANESSA BOWEN

 
 
 
Because, you know, we talk a lot about our financial identity. And we know you can shift that identity. Yes, ma’am. Right, you can step into this new person, this new way of being, you can allow the past to be the past and not attach that to your future. Because we think of an energy and mindset perspective, holding that shame is using this low vibration, which is blocking that future abundance, blocking you from attracting that money to pay off the debts to achieve your financial goals. So yeah, just have to let it go. Because it’s blocking that future button. It’s for you.
— Vanessa Bowen
 

About This Episode:

Have you ever felt shame about your finances?

So much so that you don't even know what to do first. You're not alone in feeling that way. It's more important than ever if you want to make a bigger impact than you step out of a financial culture of now to start sourcing from the future.

Today on the podcast I'm chatting with Vanessa Bowen all about what we can do to move from feeling shame about our current financial picture to financial freedom.

Vanessa Bowen is a Chartered Professional Accountant (CPA), Master NLP Practioner, and founder of Mint Worthy Co. Inc. With over a decade of experience in corporate finance and public accounting working for international businesses across North America, Vanessa made the decision to pursue her passion for personal finance. As the proud founder of Mint Worthy, established in 2017, Vanessa provides individuals with financial coaching and the resources needed to blaze a path to lifelong financial freedom. Using a holistic approach, she educates them on the fundamentals of personal money management while empowering them to take control of their finances by improving their relationship with money, creating new mindset shifts, and building intentional habits. Vanessa has been featured as a money expert in several leading media outlets and podcasts.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Do you ever find yourself asking the question? What the heck should I be doing with my finances? Should I be saving? Should I be investing? Should I be getting crypto? Should I? Well, you know, all the shoulds in life. Well today on the podcast, we are going to be talking to money coach Vanessa Bowen, all about how we can shift from a financial culture of now to sourcing from the future.

Kate 0:26
You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who've been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. With a blend of practical and spiritual advice will help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and confidence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

Andrea Crisp 0:52
Hey, friends, welcome to The Couragecast. I am so glad that you have joined me today. My name is Andrea Crisp, I am your host. And I'm also a mindset and confidence coach. And I have loved being on this podcast journey with you if you didn't already know this. Last week, we celebrated our 200th episode. And honestly, like sometimes I look back and I think to myself, like, wow, how the heck did I get here? But here we are. And I am so glad. Like, I was thinking to myself, you know, where do we even go from here. But I think I have another 200, at least in me. So I am excited about our journey and how we're going to continue to grow together and really get the clarity, we need to step into the confidence of who we are and take that massive action and those brave steps of courage to gather. So friend, we are talking about one of my very favorite subjects, money. And I was talking to a good friend of mine not long ago about the culture of now. And in case it's something new to you. I think that often we're living in this now mentality, this place where we feel like, you know, I only understand what's right in front of me, I can only deal with what is happening right now. But if we're going to grow, if we're going to make a bigger impact in the world, and if we are going to share our voice with the world, than we need to be able to understand where we're going and how we're going to get there. And our financial picture is a big part of that. So I've invited my good friend and money coach Vanessa Bowen back onto The Couragecastf to talk to us all about how we can shift from a culture of now to a culture of sourcing from the future. Vanessa, I am so thrilled to have you back on The Couragecast repeat guests, I was thinking, you know, as I just finished our 200th episode, we just aired it. And I was looking back and you were in our first 100. And so I'm so excited to have you back and chat all things money. You know, I love talking about money. I've learned so much about money from you. So welcome to the courage cast.

Vanessa Bowen 3:21
Thank you so much my love for having me back. I am so excited to be here.

Andrea Crisp 3:26
You know, we have been through a lot over the past couple years like you and I've had, you know, private conversations around this. And as a coach myself, you know, I talked to a lot of my clients who are concerned about their financial situation. You know, there, there have been times where I'm really concerned about my financial situation. And we're in a climate right now here in Canada that, you know, is really kind of confusing, to be honest, if I'm really just, you know, sharing how I feel about like where we're at. So I was really excited to have you on today to talk about that. Because I'd love to know what you as a money experts and a money Coach, what you are seeing as the Canadian financial climate right now.

Vanessa Bowen 4:14
Yeah, we're definitely seeing a shift, obviously, with the pandemic and all that our world is going through. And it's a very interesting because there was a recent poll that came out and Angus Reid poll that was sponsored by cooperators. And what they were finding in this poll was that after the uncertainty of the last few years, Canadians are really feeling fatigued, but at the same time, they're seeking these immediate results in these quick wins. And a lot of that is being fueled by this social media pressure. This, you know, fear of missing out but from an investing perspective. And what they found inside the poll was that 85% of financial professionals believe that in today's culture of now, Canadians aren't prioritizing their future planning. They're really just focused on what can I do today? How can I make a quick But today, but not thinking about retirement not thinking about their future when it comes to their financial lives, their goals, or any of that,

Andrea Crisp 5:08
you know, I know with having had conversations with you like that is, you know, really where I have, you know, started to understand how important it is for me to be planning for my future. I know my parents, oftentimes, they're, they're a little concerned about my financial future. And I'm probably like, you know, many Canadians were, you know, I'm like, I'm trying to survive. I'm building a business I'm, you know, worried about now, I'm worried about what happens now. Like, so sometimes for me, when I'm thinking about it, I'm like, you know, I'm not concerned about like, can I buy a house even though like, oh, my gosh, like, real estate is crazy right now. But I'm worried about like, you know, am I paying the bills? Can I do what I need to do? Can I decrease my debt? Can I do you know, and so Future Planning has been a bit on the backburner. Although, I'm at a point, you know, I've had these conversations, where I want to be future focused. And but I fall into that category of, you know, the culture of now. So let's, let's, I want to ask you, what, what avenues are young people seeking answers, because I know I come to you, but what avenues are they actually looking for right now?

Vanessa Bowen 6:29
Yeah. And it's, it's funny, because with a lot of like young, young people, young investors, a lot of where they're focusing on is social media, for their friends, and getting those answers from there. And, you know, all of us are making or trying to make these buying decisions during these increasingly turbulent times. But the reality is that we're all inexperienced in some aspect of financial planning. Like we all don't know something about financial planning. And so we're living in this culture where we're also finding people are kind of afraid to show that and showcase that. And actually, inside the poll, and inside the Angus Reid poll sponsored by cooperators, what they found was that no, there's this social pressure among Canadians. 65% of the advisors said that there's this social pressure among Canadians, for Canadians to feel or appear as if they're financially savvy. So all of that is causing us right to like, you know, shoot, show up on social media. Follow, people pretend like we know, you know what that's doing, though, it's hindering people from asking the right questions and seeking the right advice. And this is why, you know, more now than ever, people need to be sitting across from the right people, like a financial professional, like a financial adviser, asking them the questions not turning to social media, or Google or your neighbor next door, but sitting across from someone who is knowledgeable. And that's why no cooperators with the season that they're we're in right now. They're really focused on sitting down with people and meeting people where they're at. And they have this real people first approach to their financial planning to their financial advice and this holistic approach, because that's what we need right now. Like you just talked about it, you know, we're so focused on pay my bills right now paying off my debt right now, that's not realistic. That's us focusing on one aspect, and we have to open our eyes to see the full picture of our financial life

Andrea Crisp 8:25
right now. You know, I feel a lot of pressure personally, I'm a single woman, and I've been through multiple careers and in those careers, like, I wasn't super focused on my, you know, my pension or what my parents like they listen to this are going to be freaking out right now. But I mean, I think a lot of you know, Canadians can relate to this, I'm sure that they, everybody has their own financial picture. But for me, I know that I've been in this place where I'm like, Okay, I know, I need to be thinking about the future. But I'm on social media. I'm on Instagram, I'm on Facebook, I'm seeing what people are saying. And then I'm like, I get like this fear of like, oh, my gosh, am I missing out on something? So what? What would you say to you know, somebody like myself, who maybe feels the pressure of social media?

Vanessa Bowen 9:18
Yeah, it's a great question. And I know we've all we all feel it. We've all felt it. And it's tough, right? It's very tough, because we don't want to feel like we're missing out on something that could potentially expand our future or our finances. And I think we have to shift and really just really step out of that, that social pressure. And a lot of it is really causing us to feel a little worn down. Feeling us like causing us to feel these, like emotional, almost like this emotional turbulence inside of our financial lives. And this is why we can't do it alone. Like this is why you have to sit down with someone who is knowledgeable and I know it's scary, and it's not my dad. your dad, your dad might know, you know, your dad might be amazing and, and have the knowledge. But yeah, I always see this right like, if your your stomach's hurting, or if you've got a back pain, you don't go to your mechanic, right, you go to your doctor, so you're trying to create this financial life, we have to reduce the shame, we have to reduce the embarrassment of not knowing of, you know, being kind of, in the dark of what to do. And we have to put our finances first and seek the right advice from the right types of professionals.

Andrea Crisp 10:35
You know, I have been thinking a lot about this, because just over the past few months, you know, even year, and it's funny, because I think to myself, and I'm kind of outing myself with this, honestly. But I think about what legacy I want to leave. And and I and I want to be someone who is capable of amassing wealth in my own life. Yes. And giving generously to female funded entrepreneurs, businesses, helping them to grow and increase. And so for me, I have, you know, like I mentioned, really focused on the now but now I'm like, Okay, I have a reason why I want to call in this wealth, right. And so it's really important for me, to to be in that place, and to really plan for my future to plan for what I'm able to give. So there's a lot of confusion, like, I don't know, obviously, what to do. I don't have an RRSP. So, you know, so let's talk about that. Because I'm like, What the heck is and I hear a lot of things, of course, from the American financial market. Yeah. But there's a lot of confusion about RRSPs. And the different directions we can go with planning, or investing for that matter, like so. Let me just ask you, like, which direction do we go? What are we doing here?

Vanessa Bowen 12:04
Yeah, yeah, it's a great question. And it's funny you asked this because inside of the poll that was sponsored by cooperators. 72% of the Canadian advisors actually said that they feel frustrated, because Canadians is just rushing out to this RRSP deadline and contributing when critical areas of their finances are so unintended. And that's the thing, like we have to understand, like the RRSP is just a piece of your financial life, a very important piece. But this is why we have to have this holistic approach and really look at all of your finances. And even inside of the poll, there was one stat which really showed that, you know, people are feeling RRSPs are an investing tool of the past. Like they're not very attractive, but they have a lot of tax benefits. Like they're one of the only things that we can contribute in and actually receive a tax refund, a potential tax refund, depending on your tax bracket, though, determine how much refund you receive. So it's a very important tool for us to use. I think, just as you were saying, you know, we don't really understand a lot of people don't understand how it works. They don't understand what the benefits are. And so we're hearing all this, it's RRSPs and RSP. Season, that's great, but what the heck is an RRSP? should be the first question.

Andrea Crisp 13:21
Open. I'm just hoping I'm getting money back, you know, like from but yes, I do need to know, that's the thing. Yeah. And it's, go ahead. No, I was gonna say like, I think that's the importance and what I'm realizing more and more is the importance that I sit down with somebody and go, okay, like, this is my financial picture. Yes. And, you know, just getting advice and then hoping for the best and doing it on your own is, you know, is is just really like, you know, trying to hit a bull's eye and really not sure where your aim is you're blindfolded. But I think like what your to your point, you know, of saying, okay, when you are sitting with somebody who is a professional and going okay, you know, can you help me with making sure that you know, I am putting my money in the right places, I'm allowing to grow. So here I need I have a question. What is crypto? What the heck is happening? Who like, is this like an imaginary money? Like what's happening here?

Unknown Speaker 14:18
Well, it's it's not imaginary, okay. We're seeing like celebrities. I was listening to a podcast the other day, I can't remember which one it was now. But like, portion of celebrities are like taking parts of their salary and crypto. So...

Andrea Crisp 14:33
I have heard that I've heard even like my some of my own, like coaches having this

Vanessa Bowen 14:39
Yeah. So it's funny you asked that because inside the Angus Reid poll sponsored by cooperators 52% of Canadian advisors, so that cryptocurrency is the number one question that they are being asked about. And so I do believe it's here to stay and I do believe it has a place in your financial future. Picture. But I think what we're seeing right now is because of going back to FOMO. And going back to these social media pressures, because it's just the buzz, everyone's trying to jump into it. And these are, sometimes people are jumping into it. And they haven't even learned the basics of financial planning, or they don't even have the basics of their finances together. And so you can't just jump into something when you don't even you know, know what you're doing when it comes to the basis of financial planning. So it has a place, but it has a place, depending on where you're at. And I think the other thing I would caution people is that you have to make sure no matter what you are building your financial portfolio, you have to make sure it's diversified. So please don't throw all your eggs in crypto, like make sure maybe it's a portion potentially of your portfolio. But don't go sink your entire funds into cryptocurrency because that is not going to be very wise. But again, this is why if you sit with someone like a professional, they'll be able to help you figure out what's that correct diversification for you, based on your investment profile, based on where you're at in your financial life based on your goals. It's not just, you know, when we're talking about is so much in, in social media and the media. It's not just this, like one size fits all or this quick fix. Yeah, for everyone. And I think that's what people need to realize.

Andrea Crisp 16:23
Okay, that makes a lot of sense. Because like I, I've even heard, you know, the diversification around your income, you know, it's like, you know, many people are now looking to make multiple streams of income, versus like, you know, the old school way of just like one job that has a pension? Because like, do you think pensions are around forever? Or like, what, what's gonna happen with that?

Vanessa Bowen 16:49
Yeah, no, we're seeing definitely some, some companies are like phasing out their pensions, or they're definitely not as robust as they used to be in the past. And we're seeing and we've been seeing it for quite some time that our retirement planning is really now more on us to do back in the day, you could retire from your company and have a sweet pension and be good and not have to worry about anything. But it's totally different today, like we actually have to hold a huge responsibility of saving separately outside of our pension for our own retirement. And this is why you know, leveraging your own personal RRSP, or like you said, other streams of income, or investments are so necessary, you have to have a diversified portfolio. And again, this is where if you sit with someone, like have an advisor who's you know, really positioned to meet you where you're at, and that's why I really like cooperators, because they're doing that they have this people first approach. So they're meeting people right where they at, they realize everyone's story is different. Everyone's financial picture is different. And that's why you need to sit with someone who understands that who can meet you where you're at, and then it helps you to grow to where you want to go.

Andrea Crisp 17:58
Okay, so we got to talk about hot topic here. Yeah. Shame. Girl. Yes. You know, it's tough if you've made some poor financial decisions, or, gosh, like, maybe even not made poor financial decisions. You know, I mean, I'm, I'm a full, I'm an advocate of believing that we, we need to own up to our responsibilities, and we are at cause for where we are, you know, you and I think, agree with that, yes. 100%. And, you know, it even in my own life, and I've been thinking about, you know, I met cause for where I'm at in my own life. And, you know, there's, there's this shame, though, around, you know, not paying attention sooner, or, you know, making some financial mistakes, and then trying to figure out how in the world am I going to recover from these mistakes? Can we talk a little bit about the mindset? You know, if someone's thinking, okay, yeah, like, easy enough. You're saying go seeing a financial advisor, but like, the thought of even talking about my finances? You know, we even hear people who aren't even looking at their finances. Yes. Like, they're like, I haven't looked at a bank statement in forever. Like, I've heard someone say that recently. And I'm like, Oh, my gosh, I know that feeling. Because I have been there. I remember, like going, I just hope that there's money there. You know, like, yeah, absolutely. So, so we're talking about, you know, like, what does it look like? There's lots of people who are like, Yeah, of course, I know, my full financial picture. There's a lot of entrepreneurs who are like, I don't, yeah, what do we do to address the shame?

Vanessa Bowen 19:45
Yeah, it's such a great question. I'm glad you raised this, because I think that is honestly that is step one. Like without us actually addressing that we'll never be able to move forward and in the cooperators pool, what they actually found was 80% of advisors said that when people are experiencing these financial losses, or these financial mishaps or mistakes, it's really causing them to be overwhelmed with doubts is leading them to indecision and inaction. And so you have to realize that whatever happened in the past, whatever mistake, it is not a reflection of you, it is not your identity that you now have to carry into the future, you made the best choice, you could at that time, with what you knew, and with the information you had, it may not have had led to the best outcome, but you did your best. And I think it's us really having this grace on ourselves, and really releasing the shame, and not attaching that to our current identity. Because, you know, we talk a lot about our financial identity. And we know you can shift that identity. Yes, ma'am. Right, you can step into this new person, this new way of being, you can allow the past to be the past and not attach that to your future. Because we think of an energy and mindset perspective, holding that shame is using this low vibration, which is blocking that future abundance, blocking you from attracting that money to pay off the debts to achieve your financial goals. So yeah, just have to let it go. Because it's blocking that future button. It's for you.

Andrea Crisp 21:22
Yeah, and I've been thinking a lot about that, because I know that there's like, part, you know, like, we're both into the spirituality aspect of this. And so it's kind of like, you know, there's there's this place where we have to, to understand how do we shift our mindset, and how do we stay in the right energy, but then there's also the real practical aspect of like, okay, once we're in that space, where we can hold that, that's like, okay, now I actually do need to take action. You can't have just one? Yes. Gotta have both. And I think that's where a lot of, you know, a lot of entrepreneurs, a lot of coaches, creatives people in, you know, that have like, income that fluctuates, yeah, you know, they feel that stress and strain, because they're like, Okay, well, you know, I don't know what I'm going to get from month to month. But what would you say to somebody who is in that place, where their their their monthly income is fluctuating? And, you know, what's a step for them so that they can start, you know, moving towards, you know, that action? Taking?

Vanessa Bowen 22:29
Yeah, very great question. As entrepreneurs when your income is fluctuating, this is why you need to have a plan. And I know, it might seem like, Well, how do I create a plan, because I don't know what my income is. You may not know what your income is going to be, but you know, what your expenses are? Right? And you know, you can you can control your expenses. You know, you've got the set fixed expenses, like, you know, mortgage rent, internet, cell phone, those are fixed, but then there's the shopping and the EDL.

Andrea Crisp 22:56
Getting your nails done. Yeah, exactly.

Vanessa Bowen 23:00
Those are the things you can control. So this is why, for us who have this fluctuating income, it's really us focusing on what we can control, which is the expenses. So you need to have a plan, you need to have a budget, and then from there, it makes it easier, because then you know, what your your net, like zero is, like, what do I least need to make sure I bring in to cover all of these things. And then any, anything on top of that is gravy, you know, spend that like, go on your shopping spree or put it towards your debts and put it towards your savings. But when you don't have a base plan, what happens is, you have this month of great income, and then you're like, so proud of yourself, which you should be, but then you just go and spend the money. You don't plan whereas if you had a budget and had a plan, you can say, Okay, this income this month is amazing. I've got my month covered, but then you can say okay, well, I need another $4,000 or $5,000 for next month. Okay, let me actually peel out of some of this excess income and put it aside for next month. Like you're more prudent like you're you're making those those decisions in your finances that are actually going to lead you to better financial health, as opposed to just saying, Well, my income is whatever it is, I don't know what it's going to be so I'm not going to plan for anything. Yeah, that's just gonna cause you to stay in this spiral.

Andrea Crisp 24:18
Mm hmm. Yeah, you know, when we know better we do better. Right? Is that the phrase right? Yes. And I know for myself, like, you know, getting really just digging into my finances this year has been you know, one of the things that I've really been actively doing and, and the more I look at it, and the more I see the full picture, I go okay, I'm actually able like I'm creating space for money to come. Wow. And and that feels really good. And then I also don't feel fear, because I'm like, You know what, I just see it it I know what it is. I'm not afraid of it because I can see it. Yes, I know, whether it's where I want it to be or not, you know, I think that's improving as we go, but, but I just want to encourage anybody who's listening, it's like, oh, you know, I'm maybe not in the right place or feel like I, I can, you know, talk to somebody about this yet? It's like, yeah, when you when you feel like you can trust who you're working with, yeah, and they have your best interests at heart, then that is going to be, you know, probably the best scenario for you to unpack your whole financial portfolio.

Vanessa Bowen 25:34
100% I could not agree with that more. And that's why we're saying before, like, you can't do this on your own. Yeah, like, you cannot you have to, like you said, find that right person for you, that's gonna guide you. It's gonna have your best interest.

Andrea Crisp 25:49
Yeah. So what do you think now, as far as investing, like, as we're looking, you know, you know, people are maybe looking at, you know, different things on the internet, trying to figure out what they should do. Who do they turn to?

Vanessa Bowen 26:07
Yeah, it's a great question. And I think going back to what we've been saying a lot is you have to turn to the people who know best, which is a financial advisor, it's a financial professional, you can definitely obviously, you know, ask your friends, ask your parents, but also realize that their financial situation is very different from yours. So they're going to give to things they're going to give advice from their perspective and their situation. They're also going to give advice from their mindset, their money, blocks, yes, past experiences. Yeah. So this is why we have to be very careful where we take advice from and if you really are serious about shifting your financial life, and I know it's scary at first, but afterwards, I promise it will get better. But if you're really serious about this, you have to sit down with a financial professional. And you have to seek the right advice from the right person who knows, like who has the knowledge, and this is, this is their job, this is what they do. Like, this is what they eat, sleep, breathe. So why not go to the right person that's going to actually look at your finances holistically and give you that people first approach and advice.

Andrea Crisp 27:17
I'll tell you what, I wish that I would have taken my intuition a long time ago, I remember like, honestly, years ago, Vanessa, I had this feeling like I really should pay more attention to my finances. And then I just kind of let it sit there. And it bothered me bothered me bothered me, because I was like, I never felt like I was in a financial position, chat even make a difference. I was like, I'm just trying to get by I was a school teacher. And then I was in, you know, church ministry and not making a lot of money. And as things went, I was just like, I'm just trying to, like, get by, like, you know, survive and have a good life. But I wish that I had. So to anyone out there who is you know, even in a career position or in entrepreneurial position, I would just encourage you, you know, reach out. If it's, if it's about the shame, and you're like, you know what I really wouldn't, I'd love to have a conversation, then reach out to me, Excel, I'll chat with you. And I will, you know, help you to, you know, just uncover what may be holding you back from taking that next step. So that you can take the next step, and you can start looking at your money picture and, and see how you can move from a culture of just paying attention to what is right now. Oh, two sourcing from the future, which, you know, I love talking about. So. Vanessa, thank you for being here. Is there anything else that we've missed today that you want to share with us?

Vanessa Bowen 28:52
No, I think the way you just kind of wrapped up the end really just spoke to me of really seeing all of us step out of this culture of now and getting us more to connect to our future. And just from a mindset perspective, just that shift Elune is going to create is going to create not just a mindset shift, but an energetic shift. Because we are so focused on the now we're so focused on our current situation that we neglect, and think about how much attention we're putting to that right how much attention we're putting to where we're at right now, where we don't want to be, how much attention we should be putting to where we want to go and where we want to be. Just that shift in itself is going to align you with where you want to go is going to align you with the money in abundance, it's going to take you to where you want to go. And so we have to get ourselves out of this culture of now we have to get ourselves more connected to our future to where we want to go because that is that first step you have to align with that stuff aligning with where we're at today because you're if you say stuck, like that's what keeps us stuck. We align with it. Today, and then we attract all the things that keep us where we're at today. So we have to get out of this culture of now and step into where we want to go and connect to that. And then we're going to be able to align with it. But on that journey to make sure you're speaking to the right people, the right professionals, that cooperators is really positioned themselves in this this season that we're in to sit with people to meet them where they're at, to literally release the shame and guilt and knowing that you wherever you're at, there is possibility for your future. So speak to the right person and get the support you need.

Andrea Crisp 30:35
Girl That'll preach. That'll preach. Thank you for being here. I love you so much, it will make sure all of the links to connect with you and to even get the help you need are going to be located in the show notes. So people can go to the show notes at the courage cast calm, and connect that way and find out how they can start moving towards sourcing for their future, and move out of the culture of now. So thanks for being here.

Vanessa Bowen 31:07
Thank you for having me.

Andrea Crisp 31:09
Okay, if you're anything like me, you are going to pour yourself a glass of wine, light a candle, get those spreadsheets out and take a deep dive into looking at your finances. Because friend, no matter what it looks like right now, you can make a huge shift in your life. And I want to remind you that you are not stuck where you are. But it requires taking ownership and really getting honest with yourself about how you can start sourcing from the future. So I want to thank Vanessa for joining me today for lending her wisdom and expertise. As always, I will link up her information in the show notes so that you can access all of her socials and how to connect with her and even move forward in your own financial life. And also, I'd love for you to connect with me over at at Andrea crisp coach or at the courage cast. And if you're up for getting daily text messages with journal prompts, and intentions and things just to really help you shift your mindset in your life. Then I want to encourage you to text me the word courage 26474242429 Thanks for hanging out with me today. Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

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EP 198 | Why Women Need To Build Wealth And Be In Positions of Power

WITH CAYTIE LANGFORD AND AMANDA CAHILL

 
Opportunities presented themselves to me but I never stopped to ask myself...is this what I actually want?
— Amanda Cahill
 

About This Episode:

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you really want out of life? On this episode of The Couragecast, we are going to talk to two amazing women who asked that very same question for themselves, and how they learned that they have the power to ask for what they want for their lives.

Caytie Langford went from being entry-level to executive in less than 12 years. She used to sit in her corner office every single day crying because she knew she wasn’t in the right career anymore. She kept asking herself, “Is this it?”

Amanda Cahill was a rockstar who not only became the first woman in her family to go to college but also get an MBA. Her career was taking off fast and she had all the boxes checked, but she kept asking herself “isn’t there more?”

Together, they created Bold Women Society to build a community and platform for ambitious, mid-career women who are searching for more!

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Transcript

Andrea Crisp 0:00
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you truly want out of life? As women, we tend to follow the norms when it comes to our lives, but then find ourselves in a job or a relationship that is not truly what we want. In this episode of The Couragecast, I'm chatting with co founders, Caytie Langford and Amanda Cahill, of Bold Women Society about why it's so important that women realize they have the power to ask for what they want, build extraordinary wealth, and position themselves in seats of power.

Andrea Crisp 0:31
Hey, friend, are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to The Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine that was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset and take ownership of my own destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. Each week I'll share conversations with amazing humans who've been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice to help you take brave steps in your own life and business.

Andrea Crisp 1:11
Hello, friend, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea, and I'm so glad that you're joining me today, we have such a great episode lined up for you today. And I almost can't believe that we're two episodes away from airing the 200th episode, if you have not already gotten in on the giveaway that we're doing, you still have time to jump in and tag an episode, and rate and review the podcast and screenshot it. And make sure to tag @the.couragecast to be entered into our 200th giveaway.

Andrea Crisp 1:46
You know, I don't know that my mind is completely registered that we're here at this point. But when I look back four years ago, to the beginning of the podcast, it was a moment in my life when I got serious about what I really wanted my life to look like. And it kind of like honestly, like the journey of starting the podcast, you know, really opened up something for my life. But even then I had no idea how to do that. I just know that it needed to change, I knew that something needed to happen. And maybe you've been in that place in your own life where you know, there's a change that needs to take place, but you don't have any clue what you want, or whether or not you can ask the question of what you want. And maybe you're secretly wondering if it's kind of selfish to ask the question and up end your life.

Andrea Crisp 2:38
Well, today on the podcast, we're talking exactly about that. You know, I talk with many, many women all the time. And one thing always stands out to me. There are so many of us that grew up in this culture where we were given opportunities, and we could make a choice about what we wanted in our lives. But once we made that choice, it was almost kind of like we had to follow through with that, and there was never any deviating from that plan. And when you really think about it, the choices were quite limited. But then maybe you got to a stage where you were like, "You know what, this is not exactly what I want, like this is not fulfilling this is not making me happy. I'm you know, bit miserable. I feel a bit stuck." But then it's like, "Okay, can I ask the question like, What do I want, or I'm too afraid to change things to up, end my life and make a big, you know, shift?"

Andrea Crisp 3:34
At the beginning of 2021. I joined this Mastermind called Fast Foundations, have talked about it quite a bit on the podcast. And it was so pivotal for me, because I have grown so much this year because of the amazing connections I made within the Mastermind. And every one of those incredible people were getting uncomfortable. They were asking those hard questions. And there were two women that I met at the very beginning, and I connected with them right away. And today I'm having them on the podcast because I want them to share their story and I believe that they have something really important to share with us.

Andrea Crisp 4:15
So I'm gonna tell you a little bit about them. Caytie Langford went from being an entry level executive in less than 12 years. She used to sit in her corner office every single day and cry because she knew she was not in the right career anymore. She kept asking yourself, "Is this it?" And her friend, Amanda Cahill, was a rock star who not only became the first in her family to go to college, and also get an MBA, but her career was taking off fast, and even though she checked all the boxes, she asked herself, "Isn't there more?" Together they created Bold Women Society, a community and platform for ambitious mid career women who are searching for more. And I adore these women. They are so incredible. They are really I'm making a huge shift in the lives of so many women. And we were recording the episode I honestly got chills because I had to stop and think about, you know, even at this point, "What do I truly want out of my life? What do I want out of my relationships? And what do I want out of my business?" And at the end of the episode, I'm going to leave you with some questions for you to take those steps in your life as well. Some of the same questions I'm asking myself, I'm going to leave with you. But it all starts with asking, What do you truly want? So I'm thrilled to share my conversation with Caytie Langford.

Andrea Crisp 5:38
Hey, guys, I'm so excited to have you both on The Couragecast is so fun, because I'm actually looking at you guys right now. Both Amanda and Caytie, and you guys are side by side. And it's fun, I'm not sure who to look at, because you both are these beautiful, bold colors, and showing up as your amazing selves. And I'm so thrilled to have you both on The Couragecast. So welcome.

Caytie Langford 6:02
Thank you, we are so excited to be here. And so excited to get you ready for your big 200th episode that's coming up in a few weeks.

Andrea Crisp 6:12
Yeah, I'm excited to have you both, you know, we have been for those who don't know, we have been in a Mastermind for a good part of a year together. And we all got connected back in spring of 2021. When you guys were launching something brand new, which we're going to hear all about, Bold Women Society and how that all came into being. But before we get there, because there's three of us on the conversation today, you know, just to make a little bit easier, I'd love to know just a little bit about you, personally, your background. And, you know, why is it that you wanted to step into this space in your life right now? So I'm gonna go ahead and I'm going to start with Caytie. Just tell us a little about yourself, and why is it that you stepped in?

Caytie Langford 6:59
Yeah. So I'm Caytie Langford. I am the founder of Bold Women's Society, and I get to partner with a super badass, Amanda Cahill, which you'll meet in just a second. So my story is, maybe like some of your audiences. I found myself about 14 years deep into a career and I had gone from entry level to the C suite in about 12 years. I was literally sitting in my corner office every single day crying. I was at the place where I woke up, I was 35 years old. And I thought, "Is this what my life is supposed to be?" And I was that woman who had consistently been promoted, promoted, promoted, and recruited to different organizations. And I remember I was sitting in a meeting, and I was talking with a couple of women, we were in the middle of a capital campaign, so you're talking about raising money. And there was a moment within me that said, "This is not it, is not it." And I came home and I had several conversations. My mother was one of them. And she said, "Listen, I'm very worried about you, you're so stressed." My husband said, "There's something going on."

Caytie Langford 8:13
So two weeks later, I quit that job. And I walked away from absolutely everything. I had walked away from the career that had completely defined me. And I had no idea what I was going to do. So I, I took six months to really find myself. And Amanda and I teach a lot about getting clarity in Bold Women Society, and that's really what I was trying to do was get some clarity. I decided to become an executive coach, and fast forward a couple years, I'm coaching all these amazing women. And I'm burnt out. And I'm like, "This isn't it either!" And yet, there's something inside of me that wants to impact the lives of women. So I started Bold Women's Society. And I got a text from my friend Amanda, who I had coached several years earlier. And she said, "What is this? I need to know about this?" We jumped on a call. I told her, I was recruiting advisory board members, and she asked me, "Can I do that? Let me-let me be on your advisory board!"

Andrea Crisp 9:12
I love I love how she just like took charge. She's like, "So, put me in!"

Caytie Langford 9:17
Absolutely it. She'll tell you about that. And so a couple weeks later, she called and said, "I have this really crazy idea. I want to be your business partner, and I want to do this with you." And so we became business partners. And the reason why I personally do this work, is because I believe that we as women have big, bold, gigantic things to do in this world. And specifically, I believe that we need to have positions of power and leadership and we need to be in control of money, making money so that we can have influence and so that for me is why I do what I do. And I'm super pumped that I have the most amazing partners, because doing it alone was lonely. So doing it with somebody is incredible.

Andrea Crisp 10:07
I have chills from what you just said honestly. That that's amazing. That's amazing. And then so here you were, Caytie, you were, you know, it was so funny. Like, I was like, I didn't even know what a C suite is like, "Okay, I don't come from corporate." So I come from more of the creative world. I'm like, "What is the C suite?" I had to figure out what that was when we first talked. But I know now. And it really was interesting to me, because I thought, wow, you'd really risen. And you probably had accomplished what so many women wanted to accomplish in their in their lives and in their careers. And then you're like, there is still more.

Caytie Langford 10:45
Yeah. I mean, Andrea, I was my goal, where I was headed, was the CEO of a nonprofit. And I had worked for some of the best nonprofits, not only in Dallas and in Texas, but that in the world. I mean, I worked for top notch people. And, and that's where I was going to be. That's what I thought I was going to do. And the goal was to get there by the time I was 40. And there's when when you get to the place where you go, "This just isn't it," it's a scary place. It's a lonely place. And this is one of the ways that Amanda and I connect, is that when you start to tell people, maybe this isn't it, they think you're crazy. Because from the outside, they're like your life is freaking amazing. Like, what are you talking about?

Andrea Crisp 11:42
And so insert here, Amanda jumps into the equation, and she asks you to be part of this amazing organization. So Amanda, tell us like what prompted you to make that call?

Amanda Cahill 11:58
Well, it's such a crazy story. And, you know, I'm a little bit different from Caytie, and that I'm still working a more corporate career, it's still accelerating, accelerating very quickly, I'm still in a very much a growth phase. And I found myself in my career, you know, eight or 10 years ago, moving up very quickly, expanding my network, building a lot of clout in my industry. But I found that I was doing a lot because people tapped me on the shoulder and said, "I think you would be good at this." Opportunities presented themselves to me, but I never stopped to ask, "Is this what I actually want? Do I actually want this? Or am I doing it because somebody thinks I should do it?" So I started to question a lot. And because I had grown so quickly, so fast, everybody was like, I don't even understand where you're questioning things. You have a great career ever. You're checking off all the boxes from the outside looking in, everything looks perfect. We are crazy. What are you? What are you even thinking that you want to you want, you want more for your life?

Amanda Cahill 12:52
And that's when I started investing in coaching. And funny, funny story, Caytie was actually the very first executive coach that I ever hired.

Andrea Crisp 13:00
Really?

Amanda Cahill 13:00
And when Katie and I started working together, people who know me now probably don't even believe this. I was at such a low place, my confidence was so low. My belief in my abilities and what I brought to the world, I remember, there were calls where I was on Caytie, and she would ask me something, and I would almost be in tears, because I couldn't say what I liked about myself, I couldn't say what value I brought to an organization or to the world. And so it, it really prompted a lot of digging in a lot of personal development. And a lot of asking, "What do I want? What does Amanda want? Who is the woman that I want to be?" And in doing that work, I kept coming back to, you know, I, I have found so much joy over the course of that personal development journey, and so much happiness and fulfillment, but I knew that there was something else and I kept coming back to I want to help other people feel what I'm feeling right now. I want other people to realize they can take control of their life, they can ask themselves, "What the hell do I want? What do I want to do with my life," and they can actually start rewriting the script. If you don't like something, you can change it.

Amanda Cahill 14:05
And so it's so funny. I never knew what the outlet was going to look like. And then as Katie said, when I saw her pop up with Bold Women's Society, I reached out and I'm like, "What, what are you doing here? Let's let's talk about this." And my life motto is the answer is always no, until you ask. So I conveniently asked if I could be on her board of advisors, as she said, and then, you know, five or six weeks in I just I resonated so much with what we were doing with Bold Women society. And I said, "This is it. This is what I should be doing with my life." So probably one of the scariest things I ever did was reach out to Caytie and say, "Hey, I have this crazy, bold, audacious thing that I want to ask you. I don't even know if you'll entertain it. But can we can we chat about it?" And of course, she said yes. And we're here today. But moving through that and getting to this place. I can honestly say, I am so thankful every day that I didn't let that fear stop me from saying, "Who am I to reach out to somebody who's already a founded this this wonderful, you know, company, and think that I'm going to partner with her after she's already established it." And I'm so thankful that I pushed past that because we impact women every single day. And I'm getting to fulfill that void of bringing joy and happiness and fulfillment other people's lives as I was able to do.

Andrea Crisp 15:18
You know, I love what you said about, you know, really recognizing that you were asking what you wanted in life. And I think that so many women sit back and they they say to themselves, "Oh, I'm just going to do this, because I should do this, or I feel like, my, my family or my spouse, or my job is dictating something. And this should be the course of my career in my life", and they just let it happen. And you are asking this question, "What do I want?" And whether or not you are in corporate, whether you're a creative, whether you're an entrepreneur, you get to ask the question, "What do I want?" So I want to ask both of you, because I think this is a really big thing. When you think about what is it that you still want? That that's kind of on the horizon for you? Like, is there something that you're like you're looking you're like, "Yeah, like there's, there's still this risk that I want?" Who wants to jump in with that one first?

Caytie Langford 16:24
Go for it, Amanda. I'm getting teary eyed.

Amanda Cahill 16:28
I know, I'm like it always it always it always. It always creates this pause when we get to tell our stories like this, just a reflection that we have on that. But what's the next big, you know, scary thing that's on the horizon? And honestly, Katie, and I had a conversation yesterday about this and was thinking about it all last night, and it's what's next level for what we're doing at Bold Women Society? How do we truly take Bold Women Society and make it a household name, where generations upon generations can come back to the Bold Women Society Foundation and our mission and what we envision for the world where just every woman is unapologetic in the pursuit of her dreams, because she's confident, you know, she has confidence in her ability to be bold, she has that courage to be authentic. And she has that power that comes from being supported by a community of like minded women. How do we make that happen on a real world scale? And those are conversations that Caytie and I have all of the time, and we obviously don't know the answer to those questions. But that's why, you know, we get involved with groups like the Mastermind, where we met you, Andrea, so we can start to open our mind to the possibility, see what avenues can we even can we even consider? And so I think, for me, that's the biggest thing that that's been on my mind and continues to be on my mind.

Andrea Crisp 17:46
I love that. And what about you, Caytie? What would you say? The answer is for you whether that's both for Bold Women Society for you, personally. What does that look like for you?

Caytie Langford 17:57
Yeah, absolutely. So I think it's interesting to go back just a second. So Amanda said she was really brave and asked me to join my company, right? Well our company now, but I think it's really important to note that Bold Women Society was an idea. At that point, we weren't really anything. I mean, we hadn't even made $1 yet. And so Amanda's fingerprints are completely all over this. And one of the things that we have really pressed upon each other and ourselves is, what is the biggest thing that we can do. And one of the conversations we had yesterday was, we're not just going to be a coaching and training and development company. We think that's important, we know that we need to impact lives, women's lives individually. But for us, there's something greater out there. And we're toying with a couple of ideas, and we're gonna sit down and talk to some mentors and, and some people we really trust. But I will tell you this, going back to what I said earlier, it really for me is about putting more dollars in the hands of women,

Andrea Crisp 19:14
Girl.

Caytie Langford 19:14
Putting more dollars in the hands of women, we need women, we need women to control more wealth, we need women at the seats of tables. And so if we're going to be bold, it can't just be at an individual level. We've got to figure out how do we do that on a bigger stage. And I don't even know we don't know exactly what that looks like. But I will tell you, Andrea, the things that we are talking about and thinking about, I texted Amanda this morning and I said I am really scared. Like I'm real scared, like like some of the things we're talking about are so big. And that is how we know that we have to keep kind of pulling the string, if you will, to see where those thoughts are going to go. So, but at the end of the day, it's about women and money, and info and leadership.

Andrea Crisp 20:05
I love that one of the things, I'm gonna answer the question there to

Caytie Langford 20:09
Do it!

Andrea Crisp 20:09
for myself.

Caytie Langford 20:10
Yes.

Andrea Crisp 20:10
Because I'm like, I want to say what my thing is.

Caytie Langford 20:13
Yes!

Amanda Cahill 20:15
The floor is yours Andrea.

Andrea Crisp 20:17
So here we go. You know, I listened to a podcast, with Lori Harder and Amy Porterfield not very long ago. And I, of course, Lori is one of our mentors in Fast Foundations where we're a Mastermind, in part of the Mastermind. But Amy Porterfield has also been a mentor of mine over the years. And as they were talking, I was listening to Lori talk about her female funded business and how she was getting women ambassadors. And I have been probably sitting on the back seat of thinking, "There's no possible way I could ever be in the driver's seat when it comes to wealth. And if I can't be, then how would I ever inspire other women and invest in other things", but something about listening to them talk about it actually lit a fire under me. And it lit a fire under me to be like, "Okay, so in my sphere of influence, where I am, How do I get wealth in the hands of the women that are in my sphere of influence? How do I get wealth in the hands of interns, and virtual assistants that work with me around the world, and get wealth in their hands, that that impacts their sphere of influence and their communities." And it changes the way we are operating in the world. Because not only is it about wealth, it's about abundance. And it is about holding this space for more...

Caytie Langford 20:17
Yes,

Andrea Crisp 20:21
...expansion. Because when we hold space for more expansion and more wealth, that is just opening the doors for the girls coming after us. And for for women to just be stepping into that place. So I love that you guys are on that train. I'm right behind you in the car behind you. And I'm super, super excited. I didn't know this is what we're gonna talk about, but I love it, so.

Caytie Langford 22:30
You know what, here's the thing, what we're going to create, what we're going to do, you're not going to be in the car behind us, you're going to be on the train with us.

Andrea Crisp 22:39
Girl, okay!

Caytie Langford 22:41
That's what's happening. We, we don't want people, we don't want other badass women to be behind us. We're like, no, no, we're going here together. We're doing this together.

Amanda Cahill 22:54
Absolutely

Andrea Crisp 22:54
Yeah, that's good. That's so good. You know, and I love the fact of thinking about, you know, I was just thinking about one of my interns today. And, and, you know, she was asking me all about, you know, mindset, and how do I shift my life? And how do I create a business and, and I was just really thinking about where she is in the world, and maybe the opportunities presented to her, not presented to her, and thinking, I have this opportunity right now. And it's a small opportunity to, you know, help her shift her mindset about her life to create what it is that she wants. And you are, you know, running this beautiful group right now this this Bold Women Society, and helping women take those steps. So I'd love to chat about that. And how are you, you know, raising up the next generation of women? What is Bold Women Society all about? So I don't know who wants to take that that question, but I'll leave it to one of you.

Amanda Cahill 23:54
I'll kick it off. And then Caytie, I'll send it over to you just just a couple of things, I think it's important to to just lay a framework for who we are and what we even do, right? I know, we haven't really talked about that much either. And so our our idea of Bold Women Society, and what it currently is today is that it is an online community. And we have a spotlight on bold stories, it was very important for us to create an outlet where women could share stories, everyday women, the woman next door, the you know, your friend down the street, your colleague who's always quiet at the office, but you know that every single woman has a bold story inside of them. And we wanted to have a platform and an outlet for them to be able to do that. Now how we facilitated sharing those bold stories has changed and evolved and it will continue to evolve. But that's such a framework for what we do. Because our mission every day is to make sure that we are inspiring confidence in women and we want to help them release any narratives, beliefs, barriers, any lies or anything they've ever told themselves, that limits them from pursuing that life that they want to create, from that dream that they have on their heart, whatever that is, which changes over time too, right? So we want we want women to know that you have permission to you can be going one way and your life could be heading one direction and you have permission to make a turn. You may be going to same destination, but the route doesn't have to be the same, or you could be going in completely different way. But we want to let them know that like, that's okay. And we're going to help them be able to do that. And Caytie, I'm sure that there's something you would want to add there, too.

Caytie Langford 25:31
Yeah. It's just fascinating. Andrea, when we think about you know, you, me, Amanda, our contemporaries, what we were told, right, so we're not the baby boomer generation, we're not older Gen Xers, were younger Gen Xers, and an older millennials and, and glass ceilings were broken for us. And we were taught that you could be anything you wanted to do, that going to college was a good thing, that having a career was a good thing, right? We weren't necessarily told the things that those were bad. But yet at the same time, we were told a lot of should. And you mentioned this earlier, Andrea, you should go to college and get this degree. And then you should go to work and get this promotion and this job. And there are a lot of women that we help and we work with that are stuck in should land, that they just think, well, that's what I'm supposed to do. Well, that's what that's what I was told to do. Right? And so limiting beliefs and mindset. It's funny, I don't think we necessarily set out to work on that as much as what we realized that we have to. It was several years ago, when I was still just one-on-one coaching. I tracked over 100 conversations that I had with women, specifically coaching conversations, asking 100 different women, what is stopping you from going after what you just told me that you want. 100% of them said, I have a lack of confidence, or I don't feel confident enough to do that. So we work on mindset, almost as much as we worked on like actual strategy tactical, like, here's how you lay out the plan and do the work. Because, you know, as women, we not only have the shoulds. But then we also have everything that society has told us, right? Like, you got to wear this, you got to live in this neighborhood, you got to drive this car, you got to be thisyou g thin, you got to be this tan, or this color, or right all of these things that you got to be and so a lot of what we do, for lack of a better term, and we'll have to come up with a better term, we kind of have to deprogram people.

Andrea Crisp 27:56
Oh, 100%.

Caytie Langford 27:56
And we've had to do that on our own. Right. Like, again, I sat in my house for six months crying every single day. And I thought, I can't do this. And before I started Bold Women Society, I thought, "I can't do this." And Amanda shared with you her story of, you know, I remember the day I asked her, "What do you like about yourself?" And she's like, "I can't answer that." And the question actually was, what do you love about yourself, and she said, "I'm not even sure I can tell you what I like about myself." So we have a lot of deprogramming, a lot of rewiring our mindset, and using, you know, the tools and strategies that are out there to help women move past that. So that's how, and hopefully what we're doing. You know, I don't have any kids. Most of our clients have kids, but goodness gracious, we'd love to hope and believe that they're teaching their kids some of the mindset tools, some of the, that they're talking to their daughters about, what do you love about yourself? You know, we hope that's what's happening.

Andrea Crisp 29:06
You know, it's interesting that you bring that up, because, you know, I don't have children either. And there is when I've been thinking about you know, leaving that legacy behind and leaving you know, what it is that I've the imprint that my life has, you know, had on the world, thinking, "Okay, well, what's that going to look like? Right?" And you know, just reading up on some some different things energetically and how we are actually imprinting generations, energy energetically, and whether or not they are through our own bodies, children coming. It's the children of the generation are coming, and are going to be changed because of us. Whether or not we had physical children are not or raised children in a home in some way. And that has been such a beautiful thing for me to to know that I could feel like I'm doing it on my own, in solitude, you know, but at the end of the day, energetically, it's going out. And it's making an impact. And it's changing a generation. And, and that is a beautiful thought. And really brings us all together, right? And that's kind of where I want to lead us next is, you know, for so many people, for so many women the thought of maybe even working together, you know, you're you've both co founded this this beautiful, Bold Women Society be like, okay, to women, you know, like, you know, statistically they'd be like, "Okay, well, is that actually going to work? You know, two women working together?" I personally believe yes. But I want to hear from you guys. What does community mean to you? And how is it? How important is it that you guys are really building something using the two of you, as co-founders?

Amanda Cahill 31:02
I love this question so much, Andrea, we get asked a lot about our partnership and how it works. And I feel this way. And I believe that Caytie does too, so we've talked about it a lot. Our partnership has been for the seamless, for the most part. And we did a lot of due diligence in the beginning to figure out can we actually work well together? What is this going to look like? We did a SWOT analysis on each on each of us, and that's, uh, where you break down your your strengths, your weaknesses, your opportunities, and your threats. And basically, we brought our strengths and our weaknesses together and said, where do we complement each other? You know, when I have a strength here, does that help pull something where Caytie doesn't have a strength and vice versa. And what we found out is that we complemented each other so well, that it became this seamless partnership. And it's kind of it's evolved over time where in the beginning, we're both you know, we're both A Type personalities, we both want to get things done, we're we're both very high achieving individuals. But at the same time, we allowed each other to shine, and what I love the most about our partnership is that we've been able to push each other. During those times, we were just talking about this yesterday, how when maybe I had fallen off a little bit, and I was and I was lacking confidence or I, you know, wasn't clear about what I was doing, where I was afraid or something, you know, whatever, whatever was coming up, Caytie was the strength behind to lift me up.

Amanda Cahill 32:35
And the same thing when Caytie has had those moments, where she was like, "You know what, I just I need a day I'm not feel you know, something is off," then I was there to be the pillar for her. And I think that's what's so beautiful about what we're doing. And what's so fascinating about having a partner who believes in the mission and the vision of what we're doing of Bold Women Society so much, we're in it so much together every single day. And me personally, when I first started in my career, it was very catty, it was woman out for a woman. I remember being thrown under the bus, people stealing credit for things that I had done. So many things that made me think, "Do I even want, what am I even doing? Why am I here? Like, this is awful." I hated feeling like that every single day. And I knew that I never wanted another woman to feel like that. So it's so important to me and my values, that when we link arms, I know that we can do so much together than if we're trying to squash each other. And it's such a big pillar. And what we teach in our community is that we're all winning. There's there's the word we're not competing. It's what do you always say, Caytie, you always say it's collaboration over competition.

Caytie Langford 33:44
Yeah.

Amanda Cahill 33:45
And that's what we believe. And that's what we embody in Bold Women Society. We're always telling each other we're sharing each other's wins. We're lifting each other up. And that's, that's the beautiful thing about having a community, right, is that you have those, those people that you can lean on, when maybe you don't believe in yourself, you have hundreds of women who were like, "We believe in you, we will be your strength until you believe that yourself."

Andrea Crisp 34:10
That's good. Yeah. Do you want to add anything to that, Caytie?

Caytie Langford 34:14
Well, I just think it's interesting because I went to an all girls school in high school. And so I have been asked this question hundreds of times, like, "How can you be around that many women?" And what's funny is I went from high school to a sorority to working specifically in women and girl organizations, with women donors, like women and girls is a theme throughout my life. And I think the thing is, is that I've seen it work so beautifully, so many times. That when people say to me, "It won't work," I'm like, "Wait, wait, wait, wait wait! It will work. You just either haven't been in the right situation, or you have a limiting belief that it won't work." And so, yeah, that's a that's a huge part of it. And, and I think that we as women, having done this work now for so long, we want to be in community. We want to cheer each other on. We want to know, I'm not alone, right? It's why Alex Street always tells us tell your story, because your story makes somebody else go, "Oh, it's not just me."

Caytie Langford 35:29
And so I think that again, going back to all the shoulds of women right now, we need to get together, we need to look at society and be like, "Y'all think we should do that? No, we're not going to. And this is what we're going to do instead." And so it's imperative, you know, that not only collaboration over competition, but we also say, inspiration over comparisonitis. Don't look at what the woman is doing next to you and say, "I can't be her." You're right. You can't be her, you're never going to be her. But what can she inspire you to be for yourself? What best version of her can that inspire you to say, "I can be the best version of myself," and, and I think that's another reason why the partnership with Amanda and I worked so beautifully, because I truly believe at the end of the day, we look at each other, and we're inspired by each other. And we like each other. And we think I told Amanda yesterday, I said, partnering with you is one of the greatest things I've ever done in my life, because I don't want to let her down. I don't want to disappoint my partner. So in doing that, and having that relationship, it forces me to be the best version of myself, to show up for the women that we, I believe have to impact. So it's a non negotiable, you have to figure it out. And it can happen.

Andrea Crisp 37:00
I think the more we are around women who are rising, and who are stepping into the fullness of their own personal power, that we begin to let go of that comparison mindset. And it's it's only in lack, that we are really, you know, looking to others that you know, in comparison, because we're like, "Oh, I don't have that. And I want that." And when we start to step into who we are and have that confidence, then it's easier to be able to cheer somebody else on because it's not going to take away from anything about me. In fact, if anything, your success is going to add to what I'm capable of doing as well and give me gives me permission to be myself and to expand in my own life, and in my own business, whatever that looks like.

Caytie Langford 37:59
Absolutely. And I think that it's a choice that we make. And I will tell you one last thing, if there is a toxic woman in your life, because there are some right? Move away from them.

Andrea Crisp 38:15
Exactly.

Caytie Langford 38:15
Find another tribe, find another community, right? Like we've all there are women in our in Amanda and I's life that aren't in our life anymore, because they're not, they don't need me. And I used to feel so guilty about that being like, "oh, no, I have to pull them along." No, I don't. And you don't either. You don't either. You deserve to be everything you want to be. And if somebody can't get on board with that, it's okay that they were only in your life for a season or a reason. They're just not lifetime people. That's okay.

Andrea Crisp 38:48
No, that's good.

Amanda Cahill 38:49
Absolutely. Absolutely, Katie, because I mean, at the end of the day, I always say life is too short to be anything but happy. And I think when you start comparing yourself to somebody else, or saying I could never be that I could never do that. A lot of times that's stemming from the fact that you haven't gotten clarity on what it is you want for your life. Because I guarantee you once you figure out what you want for your life, the woman that you want to be what you're aspiring towards. Everything else is just, oh, okay, everything starts to align and you realize, "Oh, I'm here to learn from this person, or can you see what she's doing? How amazing is that?" That helps me see that this dream that I have over here that I can absolutely have it because I see her doing that thing right there. Even though it's different from mine, and I don't have to compare myself to her anymore. It's that inspiration piece. But it all comes back to what do you want for your life?

Andrea Crisp 39:43
Yes. That's it that's it. What do you want for your life? You know, I when I think about you know, whoever's listening to this today, you know, they have had the, the opportunity to hear two incredible women who have been super successful in their lives but have also chosen to be risk takers, and to do things differently, and to, you know, step back at times in order to reevaluate where your lives are going and say, "You know what, there can be more for me, if I, you know, redirect." And, you know, it's not just you, Caytie and Amanda, who are taking those bold steps, it's, it's women listening to this podcast today that are, you know, in the middle of maybe something that we talked about, maybe they're in that decision phase, maybe they're in the clarity phase, maybe they're, you know, getting the courage, or the confidence that they need to step out. What's one thing that each of you would say to that woman who is moving in that direction? If you were to tell her something from your heart that, you know, is really true to you? What would you say to her?

Caytie Langford 40:57
Yes, so I'll tell you the exact words that when I didn't think I could keep going, I called my grandmother. And I asked her, and I hear her words every single day, and it is, "You just keep going, you just put one front in front of the other. You just go day by day, just keep going." Because there is something amazing on the other side, there's a lot you're going to learn in between, but just you can do it, just keep going.

Andrea Crisp 41:29
That's awesome. And then what about you, Amanda?

Amanda Cahill 41:31
My, my favorite that's come with me, I actually heard from a professor in grad school. And it was, "Don't let insignificant people make a significant impact on your life." And I think that's so important for women, especially, but just for everybody to keep that in your back pocket. And just remember, "Who are the most important people in your life, if your life was a movie, you're the main character, but who was the supporting cast? Who are those family members, those friends, your mentors, the people whose opinion you really matter that people that you look up to, that you care about?" Those are the people when they say something that matters, but everybody else, they don't, they don't matter. You know, if you're looking at the end of a movie, you know, there's like taxi driver number four, or bouncer number two, like who are those people have no significance on your life. So don't let them make an impact on your life. Don't let somebody that's insignificant crush your dreams, and what you want for your life.

Andrea Crisp 42:32
You guys have been so inspiring today, I'm so grateful that we got to spend this time together. And honestly, to see how Bold Women Society has just really even elevated over the course of just this year. And moving into, you know, your next step in the vision, you know, is is really, really, truly inspiring to watch. And I'm so thankful and grateful that we have been in the same circle together for this time. And, and so I just want to say thank you for being on The Couragecast. And I really am so grateful that you guys are part of this 200th celebration, you know, because being bold women, you know, we're called The Couragecast. And I was thinking about you guys are you know, about bold, and we're about courage. And, you know, it takes a lot of boldness to be courageous in your life, and stepping out and doing those big moves in your life to impact and influence your communities, your homes, and to put you know, wealth into the hands of women and families that will change the world. And you guys are, you know, spearheading that that beautiful movement. And I love that. Caytie, let me ask you, where can they connect with you guys?

Caytie Langford 43:56
Yeah, so where we love for people to connect with this is in our texting community. We send out bold daily tips and tools every single day. So you can text the word BOLDLY or HELLO to 214-949-4715. And Amanda and I will give you a little bit of a little bit of boldness every morning. We love doing that.

Andrea Crisp 44:28
I love that. Yeah. And I will put that phone number in as well as the link in the show notes so that people can connect with you, and if they want to connect with you online, Amanda, how can they do that?

Amanda Cahill 44:40
Yeah, it's pretty easy. All of our handles are at Bold Women Society across all platforms, although we are not on Twitter, but if you want to find us on IG, Facebook, or LinkedIn, Bold Women Society is the handle to go to.

Andrea Crisp 44:54
Guys loved having you here today. Thank you so much for being on The Couragecast today.

Caytie Langford 44:59
Thank you Andrea!

Amanda Cahill 45:00
Thank you so much!

Caytie Langford 45:01
And congratulations on your upcoming 200! We are just we're honored to be a small part of the lead up to that incredible, incredible feat.

Andrea Crisp 45:12
Thank you. Wow, I loved talking to those incredible women. I'm I'm just really honestly, sometimes I feel like it's a bit surreal that I get to have these conversations with people. But I know I'm probably not the only person that's listening to the podcast asking, you know, herself, like, "How do I get on the, the front of the train?" Right? And, you know, I was thinking after Katie said to me, "You know what, you don't sit in the car behind me sit in the car with me." And that is so true, right? You know, it's so easy for us to, you know, put ourselves behind somebody else. And really, we should all be linking arms and going together.

Andrea Crisp 45:54
So I want to leave you with this. Maybe you have a desire in your life, and you really want to, you know, see something happen. Or maybe you're at that point in your life where you, you just want to ask the question, "What do I truly want?" Here's the thing. It's not just for the woman next to you, it's not for the the woman that you admire from afar. Having a life that you want, that is truly fulfilling for you, which includes financial abundance, and also includes stepping into your personal power, and really owning who you are. That's for you. That's for you, my friend. And here's the thing, it's the first step, the very, very first thing that you're going to do is actually believe it's true for you, and give yourself permission to say yes to yourself, and ask yourself, "What is it that I truly want?"

Andrea Crisp 46:48
So maybe you're at that place right now, where you are feeling a bit overwhelmed with the possibilities, like maybe you're an ideas person, a visionary, and you're like, "Whoa, like I have all these things are going through my mind, and I'm not really sure what to do next." Or maybe you feel unfulfilled, and you feel like I have to ask this question first. Clarity is the first step. Wherever you're at, getting clear on what you want is the very, very first step to the catalyst of making those changes and activating the confidence in your life to take bold steps of courage. So right now, the waitlist is open for the conference accelerator, which is like one of my very favorite programs to run. It's a group coaching program. It's a six week container for women who know they're meant for more, but are not sure how to take that next step or how to ask those questions and activate the confidence in their life.

Andrea Crisp 47:43
So if that's you, if you're someone who wants to step into their personal power, who wants to share their story, start a business, you know, really get some momentum and traction in your life personally, to really move forward, then this program is for you and the waitlist is open, I'm going to leave a link in the show notes for you to click on so that you can connect with me, you can either jump on a call with me or you can just leave me your email. And I'll know to connect with you. And if this is something that resonates with you, then I know this is something you're not going to want to miss out on. Friends. Thank you so much for hanging out with me. I want to thank Amanda and Caytie for sharing the 198th episode with me we are two episodes away from the 200th. And I'm just so so excited. So we have an amazing episode next week with an incredible panel of people. And then of course, we're gonna have our 200th coming up. So until next time, remember, you have everything you need.

Andrea Crisp 47:44
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EP 191 | Cultivating Community

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
One of the biggest things that I learned this year was that when you get in the room with people who are running the race, and have the best intentions, not only for themselves, but for you, that you will grow exponentially. But if you find yourself in a space where you are not growing, and you are feeling like you’re being held back, then that is going to also have adverse effects on you
— Andrea Crisp
 

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When you cultivate community in your life it shifts the way you perceive your circumstances and what is possible for your life. Today we are in episode four of the four-part series on cultivating our desires beginning with cultivating community. 

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Andrea Crisp 0:00
One of the best pieces of advice I've ever been given, is to get in a room where people are willing to hoist you on their shoulders and elevate you to the next level. And if you're in a community where you are thriving, you are going to see your personal and professional life grow leaps and bounds. But if you find yourself in community, where you are feeling depleted, exhausted, and it feels toxic and maybe even abusive, then it could be time for you to step away. Today we're finishing off the series, Cultivating Your Desires, by talking about how to cultivate community within our lives.

Andrea Crisp 0:42
Hey, friend, are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life and business you love? Welcome to The Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine that was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset, and take ownership of my own destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. Each week I'll share conversations with amazing humans who've been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice to help you take brave steps in your own life and business.

Andrea Crisp 1:21
Well, hello friend! I am so glad that you have joined me today tuning in. For the 100 and 91st I think episode of The Couragecast. I cannot believe we are like almost to 200. I am a little bit shocked and amazed myself. And we are in a four part series right now called Cultivating Your Desires. And today we're focusing on Cultivating Community, which is one of my very, very favorite topics to talk about. This is something that when we can learn to do personally, professionally, it will change so much in our lives. And so as you've been listening through this four part series, we started with Cultivating Gratitude. Then we moved to talking about Cultivating Belief. Then last week, we were talking about Cultivating Trust. Today, we're talking all about Cultivating Community. And you know, when I'm talking about this, sometimes these episodes are not really pre planned. And so we just roll with it, right? We just do what we need to do.

Andrea Crisp 2:31
Okay, what I want to talk to you about is what does that look like in your life? Do you have the kind of community in your life right now that you truly desire? Is the community you're in helping you grow and flourish and thrive? Or do you feel like you're being held back? One of the biggest things that I learned this year was that when you get in the room with people who are running the race, and have the best intentions, not only for themselves, but for you, that you will grow exponentially. But if you find yourself in a space where you are not growing, and you are feeling like you're being held back, then that is going to also have adverse effects on you. So first thing I want to talk to you about is how to know when you're in a community that you're not thriving in. Okay, and here's the thing, you might have all sorts of friends or coworkers, or even be in a church community, that you're like, oh, everyone's really lovely. And you know, they're all showing up and doing amazing things in the world. But do you sense that you are being pushed forward, and challenged, and allowed to grow and flourish?

Andrea Crisp 3:57
So often, we can find ourselves in these positions where we are looking for the approval and validation of the people within our community. And so we are trying to strive and hustle and get that approval from them. So that we can maybe, you know, move up the ladder in your business, or we can get some sort of atta girl or atta boy, as the case may be. And really, that stems from a need for validation and approval.

Andrea Crisp 4:34
And I know for years of my own life, you know, I was involved in the church, and I was a pastor. So there were a lot of times where I was leading, but I was also with my own peers who are pastors as well. And women in ministry and people that I was surrounded with all the time. And there were often times where I felt like I was in a community that was thriving, fact, there was one church that I was in. I'll shout them out because they're amazing, but my friends back at Stone Church in 2011, and 2012, 2013, when I was there, we had amazing community. We loved each other, we were there for each other, we were thriving with one another. And we were seeing so many amazing things happen within our community, within the church at that time.

Andrea Crisp 5:23
I can also take a look back at my time at another church, when I was just finishing college in the late 90s, and early 2000s. Calvary Temple, I was with phenomenal individuals who really loved each other, we spent holidays together, we went on vacations, we were there in hard times, and good times, we saw people getting married, and having kids and, and it was just this culture that we were all thriving in. And it was beautiful. And it was magnetic. And man, I loved everything about it. I also had amazing community in college as well. So even as I look back there, there are many, many, many times where I was in community that was beautiful. And just so life giving.

Andrea Crisp 6:11
But I've also been in community where it was nothing like that at all, where it was really about, do what we say, just show up, and do this. You don't have autonomy over your own life, or what you desire, or how you're going to live your life. And we want to know everything that you know you're doing. And we want to have a say in all of that. And that kind of community is toxic. And that kind of leadership is not life giving. And in community like that, it perpetuates this desire to continue to get approval because you're never meeting the expectations of the community, or of the leadership in the community. And so when you're in a position like that, that can create a narrative or perception around what it's like to be in community. And oftentimes, when we lack community, or we've been in a hurtful situation, where community has been involved, there is a lack of trust there. And we cannot grow and thrive both personally and professionally. So it's so important for us to actually put ourselves in a position or be in a room where we have community that exists with integrity, where we have community that is for us, and helping us, and really elevating our lives in every way.

Andrea Crisp 7:40
Now back at the beginning of the year, friend of mine, Alex, who we had met when we were in ministry, and he's a brilliant story, coach, he's actually been on the podcast several times. Alex and I were talking about a mastermind that he was in at the time. And he was in his, probably the time, go into his third round of Fast Foundations with Chris and Lori Harder. And I had seen this exponential growth in his business and in his life. And it was really, really cool to see and to watch. And I knew that the community that he was in was just like, obviously, doing huge things for him. And I know that when you're in good community that amazing things happen. So I was talking to him and I decided, You know what I'm going to jump in, and I am going to invest in my life in this way, and be mentored by Chris and Lori Harder, which is super cool. But also, one of the things that I didn't realize was going to be a complete game changer in my life was the community of people I was surrounded with when I joined Fast Foundations. A lot of that stems from the leadership and from what is cultivated within the leadership of that community. And when it is done with integrity, and when it is done responsibly, and when it is done with love, then it is phenomenal. And you will see people grow and expand in ways that will absolutely blow your mind. And that is exactly what I was seeing within this group of people. I was seeing coaches and entrepreneurs, business owners, that were literally being so generous with their time, with their gifts, with their talents, with their expertise, and not asking for anything in return. And that was just creating this huge momentum that was allowing people to start shifting and moving forward in their own life and in their own business.

Andrea Crisp 9:35
First, so I was like a little bit shocked because I was like, "Oh my gosh, there's so much going on here!" But as I started to, you know, settle in into the community, I started to say, "Okay, well, where do I fit in, in the picture of this and what can I add for value?" Because when you're part of community, it's not just about taking, it's also about giving and so you have that reciprocity In a community that if you're giving to someone, maybe that person's not giving back to you, maybe you're getting it from somewhere else within that community or within that room. And being in community and cultivating community and connection with people will always make a huge difference in your life. And I've seen where people get into community, and they isolate, and they don't. And I've seen where they, you know, want to say, well, that community just wasn't for me, you know, well, a lot of times that they weren't showing up either. Now, this has happened both in different group settings that I've been in, church settings that I've been in, where there has been a major, where people have not really allowed themselves to cultivate that. And that's the whole thing about community is you got to be part of the community. And there's going to be times in community where, you know, things go awry, or go a mess, and you're like, "Okay, we've got to deal with that. And we've got to walk that out." And this person's, like, you know, not pulling their weight, or this person's a little bit annoying, or, you know, this person showboating or however, that looks, right? That's part of the process.

Andrea Crisp 11:16
And when you are in community, you have those conversations, and you work things out with one another, and you continue to elevate one another, to an extent that you're able to start moving forward in your life, and you're able to truly stand on each other's shoulders, and get where you need to go. You know, for a long time, I had this perception, I guess, I'll call it that people weren't showing up for me. And that was a narrative that I had created when I was in a culture and a community that was not really full of integrity. And so I started to believe that, you know, wherever I went after that, I was constantly going to be in communities that people just weren't going to show up for you and weren't gonna want the best for you. And so I would carry that into the next place, I would go and, and that was something that I had to own and take responsibility for. And realize that sometimes when you're coming into new community, after you've been hurt or wounded, there is a time where you have to take for healing. And you have to allow yourself to really let past things go, allow forgiveness within your life within the context of where you had been maybe in the past, so that you can be fully present and available within that new context.

Andrea Crisp 12:44
And you'll know, your intuition will guide you to tell you when you are in a community that is not life giving, fact I just talked to a friend today, and we were talking about that specifically. And in the conversation what she was saying to me, "You know, I don't feel as though I am being given opportunity. And I feel like I'm being passed over. And I feel like it is an abusive situation." And oftentimes, when we are in those abusive situations, or those toxic situations, we have to take, you know, some responsibility and say, "Okay, well, why am I here? Why am I allowing myself to stay? And what is the payoff, for me staying in this community or in this place, and taking a step away, can yes, be difficult, but also be one of the best things you'll ever do for yourself, so that you can start to be surrounded by people who are willing to cheer you on, and encourage you, and be there for you, and get around healthy individuals that want the best for you.

Andrea Crisp 13:51
Here's the thing. There's the two sides of community. And if you find yourself in a community that is toxic and abusive, then I want to encourage you to take a look at you know, why are you staying? What's the payoff? And if you're just starting to get into community that is, you know, amazing, then what do you have to add within that community? How can you offer value to those people? And how can you be in a position where you are receiving what they can give you. Because both of those things are going to teach you such valuable lessons and be something that will help you to grow both yourself professionally, and your personal life as well because that will spill over that will create opportunity that will really help you to move forward in your life in a whole new way.

Andrea Crisp 14:44
So in this series, we talked about being grateful and cultivating that gratitude in in the times that are really good and in the times that are challenging. We talked about cultivating belief and really knowing that things are working out for us. Cultivating trust in ourselves in God and in others, and cultivating community, getting in spaces and rooms, virtually and in person, that are completely life giving and allowing ourselves to be released and let go of those toxic environments that are not leading us towards our potential.

Andrea Crisp 15:21
Friend, this has been a phenomenal time that we've gotten to share with one another, all about cultivating desire, because the truth of the matter is when you really know what it is that you want in your life, then you can cultivate these things and allow that to manifest in such a beautiful way. We are going to finish out the episode today with a guided meditation. And if we're not already connected through text, I would love to connect with you there. I've started a brand new tech community and you can join it by going to the show notes and clicking on the link or you can text me the word COURAGE at 647-424-2429 and that number will also be in the show notes for you as well. I love ya. I'm so excited to finish off 2021 with you with a couple more episodes this year. But let's get ourselves in a comfortable position for the last of our guided meditations.

Andrea Crisp 16:30
Allow yourself to get in a comfortable position. Place your feet firmly on the floor. Your shoulders tall, give yourself room to allow the breath to completely fill your body. During this meditation today, we will be focusing on creating an intention around cultivating community within your life. Just take a quick moment to allow yourself to create an intention about what it is that you truly desire. When you think about having community, what would that look like? How would you feel? How would you be showing up within that community? Take a deep breath all the way down to your belly, allowing the air to completely fill you, and as you exhale release any fear or concern you have a about being in community with others. Allow yourself to completely feel the possibility of trust, of collaboration, of deepened relationship when you are in a healthy, vibrant community that is allowing you to grow and expand in your life personally and professionally.

Andrea Crisp 19:06
Is there anything that you need to release from those old environments, those past communities that have been holding you back from truly being yourself, from adding value, and for showing up each and every time as the most authentic version of who you are. Take a moment to extend grace and compassion to yourself. If you've been holding yourself back for any reason, and make that commitment right now that you are going to step fully into the most authentic version of yourself, and show up in radical responsibility within community in your own life. Knowing that you will energetically draw the community to you, that you desire to help you shift your life, and position you for what it is that you truly desire, and when that is become your clear focus, take a deep breath all the way down to your belly and release. Take one more deep breath in and let it all go, knowing that it is complete, and when you're ready, bring movement to your hands into your feet and open your eyes. Thank you for joining me for this meditation.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

079 | Moving Past Other People’s Opinions

WITH CHERYL NEMBHARD

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Competition is a dangerous thing. When you are in the mode of competition, you are not thinking about self-development, you’re not thinking about working on you, or being your best self forward, you are in the catch-up and keep up.
— Cheryl Nembhard
 

About Cheryl:

How do I disconnect my own desire for people’s approval?

Competition is a dangerous thing. When you are in the mode of competition, you are not thinking about self development, you’re not thinning about working on you, or being your best self forward, you are in the catch up and keep up. Cheryl Nembhard

In this conversation, Cheryl and I talk about what it’s like to move past the opinion of others in order to pursue our destiny. And, what that looks like on a practical level. Get your note pad out because school is in session and Cheryl is laying it all out. 

Cheryl Nembhard is an award winning Filmmaker, Playwright & Social Advocate who uses her incredible talents in the Arts to tackle some of the toughest societal topics. Her dedication to Community Service includes working with at risk youth, former gang members, sexual assault victims & teenage mothers. Her Not for Profit Educational Theatre Company, EMG Education has performed special assemblies on topics such as Mental Health, Bullying & Racism in over 150 High Schools across Ontario, impacting over 70,000 students and counting. CBC Canada has recognized her as one of '150 Black Women who are making Canada a better place'.

Among her many awards, She is also the 2017 recipient of the Harry Jerome awards for Social Advocacy. Cheryl is Co Host of 'See, Hear, Love', a nationally televised Women's talk show on YES TV. She recently founded & developed 'The Lighthouse Project', a faith based Mentorship program, where she currently mentors over 40 people. Cheryl is an active Board Member with Brave Canada, a catalytic movement for at risk girls, and she also sits on the national steering committee for “Power of Her” a World Vision initiative for marginalized women and girls globally.

 
 
 
 

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