WITH ANDREA CRISP
“Really trusting yourself is all about learning to have grace and compassion for yourself. Learning that you can release yourself from these crazy expectations of being perfect, of having to know all the answers, of having to constantly be working, and hustling, and striving, trusting yourself is really about knowing that you, innately, are worthy, and that you can make decisions that will benefit your life.”
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When you cultivate trust in your life it shifts the way you perceive your circumstances and what is possible for your life. Today we are in episode three of the four part series on cultivating our desires beginning with cultivating trust.
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Andrea Crisp 0:00
What would your life look like if you cultivated trust with yourself, God, and others? In this episode, we are continuing our four part series in Cultivating Our Desires. And today we're focusing on what trust looks like and how we can start to cultivate that and grow personally and professionally.
Andrea Crisp 0:23
Hey, friend, are you ready to take courageous steps to create a life in business you love. Welcome to The Couragecast. I'm Andrea Crisp, mindset coach, author, and a multi passionate entrepreneur. For years, I was afraid to allow myself to shine. That was until I discovered that I could step into my own power, shift my mindset, and take ownership of my own destiny. Now I coach women across the globe who are ready to own their life and make a massive impact. Each week, I'll share conversations with amazing humans who've been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice to help you take brave steps in your own life and business.
Andrea Crisp 1:02
Well, hello there, welcome to The Couragecast. Friend, I am really excited to be doing this four part series that we're in right now, which is all about cultivating what we desire in our lives. And if you ever stopped to think about what it is that you truly desire, like have you gotten still enough to actually think about what it is that you want? For a long time, I avoided doing that. I think maybe I didn't feel like I deserved it. So I didn't want to be disappointed or put my expectations too high. And so I just never really thought about what it is that I desire. But I've had some friends and peers lately that have been encouraging me to really get honest about what it is that I do desire in my life. And how is that going to manifest personally in my life, and also in my business.
Andrea Crisp 2:02
And so in this four part series that we're in right now, we're talking about how to cultivate those desires. And the first one is cultivating gratitude. What does it look like to really be in a place of gratefulness, of appreciation for those things in our lives that we love, but also for the challenges that we may be facing because of the lessons that we can learn. And then the second week, we talked about cultivating belief. And that one is so important when we are establishing ourselves in business, and entrepreneurship is really having a belief around what is possible, and how do you cultivate that within your life. So that was the second part of the series. And today, we're focusing on cultivating trust.
Andrea Crisp 2:55
Oh, my friend. Now this one is so important. At the beginning of 2021, I set an intention for my year. And it was three pronged: to learn to trust myself, God, and others. And if you've been tuning into The Couragecast for any length, then you know a bit about my story. I won't go into length with it today. But I had a lot of woundings and spiritual abuse that I had experienced when I was a pastor, and other things in life that had happened and that really had created a distrust in my life. And as I started to go through my faith deconstruction, a lot of that was learning about how I could trust again. And so this year for me has been learning to trust myself, to trust God and to trust others.
Andrea Crisp 3:53
And so the first question that I have for you today, as you are thinking about cultivating trust in your own life, where are you at right now, when it comes to trust? Do you trust yourself to execute the plans you have for your life? Do you trust that source, God, universe is going to come through for you? Do you trust that you can have a community or relationships that really help you move to the next level? Are you developing them? Are you cultivating them? Or are you in a place in your life where you feel like you need to be isolated, you need to keep everything to yourself, where you really truly don't trust yourself to make those decisions. You really don't trust God, source, universe to come through for you. Or you don't trust that other people really have your back, or that they're there for you when you need eat them. And part of growing and expanding our lives, expanding our businesses is really about cultivating that trust within those three areas. And I think that they really reflect one another, If you really think about it, to how much you trust yourself, will really be how much you trust God, and how much you trust others, It is a reflection, it is a mirror. And so you can't grow one without growing all three.
Andrea Crisp 5:34
So we're going to talk about a little bit about that today, and how I have been cultivating those things in my life and how that has helped me. And hopefully those things will also be helping you as well. So let's first talk about trusting ourselves. Maybe you've, you know, been at a place in your life where you're like, I've made some really terrible decisions, or I've gotten myself in to some situations and circumstances that I don't want to be in. And I feel like I'm trapped in them, I feel like I'm stuck. And I don't really trust myself to get out of them, I don't trust myself to make a decision that is going to benefit me, or my life, or my finances, or any of those things. And really trusting yourself is all about learning to have grace and compassion for yourself.
Andrea Crisp 6:24
Learning that you can release yourself from these crazy expectations of being perfect, of having to know all the answers, of having to constantly be working, and hustling, and striving, trusting yourself is really about knowing that you, innately, are worthy, and that you can make decisions that will benefit your life. And that when things don't work out, you can be resourceful enough to make an adjustment, and a change, and begin to move forward. But when we don't trust ourselves, it's almost like we're asking for something that we can never get back. Because at the core, we don't trust ourselves enough to carry it, we don't trust ourselves enough to own it, we don't trust ourselves enough to be responsible with it. And then we give away that power to someone else. So trusting yourself is all about learning that you have the permission. You give yourself the permission and the ownership over your own life. Think about that for a second. What would be possible for you, if you gave yourself permission, today, to take a risk, to start a new job, to start a new business, to get out there and put your message out into the world? What would be possible? What kind of impact would you have? If you trusted yourself, you gave yourself permission to do just that.
Andrea Crisp 8:05
The second thing is trusting God. So whether you look at it as God, Source, Divine Energy, Consciousness, however you look at it, we're going to look at it in the same way. Because it's trusting that there is something bigger than yourself at play, that is working for your good. And so often we fall into this victim mentality of things are happening to us. And really, when we are trusting Source, God, we are trusting things are happening for us, even when they are not going exactly as planned. Even when we don't know exactly what's going to come up next, or how we're going to walk things out in our lives. There is an ability to trust that Source, The Divine, is working things out for us. When I started to dive into that for myself. It really was about pulling back the layers of some of the religious beliefs that I had had. And if you're listening to this, and you've had a similar experience, or maybe you've been thinking, "You know what, that's a hold up for me, like that's something that I don't know that I really trust God. I've you know, put my faith in God and God hasn't come through for me." I want you to take a step back and go, "Okay, well, what exactly am I asking here? What exactly do I want God to come through for me? And do I trust that what happens for me is for my benefit, is for my good? Whether it is to expand me, to provide growth and learning, opportunity." And when we look at everything as an opportunity versus everything as It's happening to me, and "Oh, no, I need to guard myself against it. And God obviously doesn't like me or I'm not favored, or I'm not blessed", which that totally drives me nuts when people do #blessed. I'm like, Oh, so you're more blessed than everybody else? No, here's the thing.
Andrea Crisp 10:16
A lot of people who do that really are saying that they believe God is doing things for their benefit, doesn't mean they're more blessed. It just means they believe they are more blessed. Okay? And so there's a difference. And for a long time, I was like, "Well, you know what, okay, great, you'll be blessed. I obviously have gotten the short end of the stick, God is not for me, I am not favored." But I had to realize that it wasn't about that at all. It was about: Do I allow God to work things out of my life, for my benefit, and not expect that everything always has to be perfect, and in order, and pretty, and all the things? But I know that when I am in a place of allowing, and I'm in a position to receive, that God is going to do things for me, and I'm going to be stretched, and grow, and there's going to be that trust developed, cultivated, that we can move forward. Here's the thing that has come up for me over and over this year is really co creating with the divine. And that's all about trust, when I believe that God is for me, and I mean that co-creation, I know that when I am deeply connected to Source, deeply connected to God, that is when the best things come.
Andrea Crisp 11:41
The third thing is cultivating trust with others. And if you've ever been in a position in your life, where you've been wounded, in friendship, or in business, this can be a really difficult place to be because maybe you have an idea about what it's like to be in relationship with others, when it comes to business, when it comes to your personal life, when it comes to romantic relationships. And you don't have a lot of trust, that they are for you, that they want to be your friends, that they want to be in community with you. And developing and cultivating trust with others is, is a lot like letting them off the hook too and saying, "You know what, I understand that what you are going through in your own life is something that I have to be aware of. And I have to know and understand that we are walking the path together. And that we can do that walking in our own lanes that we can do that when each other are growing at different paces, we can do that knowing that if we believe the best of each other, and for each other, then we can cultivate that trust in one another, and allow ourselves to both grow, and to experience all sorts of amazing things."
Andrea Crisp 13:02
When I think of the Mastermind that I have been in this past year, it has been one of the biggest growth experiences for me in learning and cultivating trust in other people, especially when it comes to business. I've always had amazing relationships and friendships, but the business aspect of it was something that was lacking. And I was surrounded by a lot of amazing coaches, most of whom were way ahead of me in business. And there were times where I had to check myself and go, are they for me? Or am I just wondering if they're trying to sell me on something? Or, you know, are they wanting more out of me than what I'm able to give? And I had to look back internally and say to myself, "You know what, I don't think it's necessarily about them. I think it's about me and about whether or not I can trust." Because here's the thing, a lot of the times we want to put the onus on somebody else. But what we're looking at in them is often a reflection of the very thing that we are judging in ourselves. And so when we are trusting other people, and we are seeing something we don't like, often we need to take a look back and say, "Okay, is this something in me that I need to take a look at, or shift in my life or make an adjustment, because if I'm making a judgment on them, then it's probably happening in my life as well?"
Andrea Crisp 14:31
So developing and cultivating trust is all about allowing ourselves to be in a position to trust someone else. Okay, and when we are in a position to trust other people, and to really allow those people into our lives to create synergy, and we will energetically draw the right people. It's not like we're going to continually draw negative people because if you're in that negative energy, then you'll magnetize that to you. But if you're in this energy and high vibe of really believing that people want the best for you, you're going to draw those people to you, see how that works. So when you think about it, really cultivating trust is really about creating this pathway of belief in our lives, that things are working out for us. And that we can trust the process, we can trust ourselves, we can trust God, and we can trust others. And when we allow ourselves to move on that continuum, and create momentum, in that in our lives, magic happens.
Andrea Crisp 15:41
So as you are thinking about, you know, even moving into the New Year, where can you focus your attention? Do you think you need to start with focusing on trusting yourself, trusting God, trusting other people? Where is there a disconnect for you,right now, that you can start to focus on? I know that when you make this a priority in your life and in your business, you are going to grow exponentially, and you're going to see growth happen in your personal life and in your business, because I think that when you focus on one, it also spills out into the other as well. So you have to trust that just take one little step, and focus on one thing, start there, and then believe that it is going to actually spell out and spill over into every other area of your life as well.
Andrea Crisp 16:35
And if this is something that you're thinking, you know, what I love to work on. And I love to truly create and establish that trust in myself, God, and others, but I've got some limitations, or blocks, or things that are holding me back from doing that, then I want to invite you to jump on a call with me, and let's chat about that. Let's see if there is something that you can work out, and switch that narrative so that you can position yourself to grow in this area. And in order to do so you just go to my website, which is andreacrisp.ca, and you can book a time, it's free, we'll chat. And if it's something that you want to continue to work on with me, then we will go from there.
Andrea Crisp 17:17
Friends, I have loved doing the series with you. Next week, we're going to be finishing off this four part series on Cultivating Our Desires. And we're going to be focusing on cultivating community and what does that look like? And how is that going to be established, and built in your own life. And speaking of community, I don't know if you have joined my brand new text community. I'd love for you to jump over there, and text me, because I am sending out about two to three text messages a week, journal prompts, affirmations, encouragement, guided meditations, all about how you can take those big, brave steps in your life. I have the link in the show notes. But if you want to go ahead and just text me right now, you can text me the word COURAGE to 647-424-2429. Before we go today, I want to invite you just to take a little bit of time for yourself. We're going to go through a guided meditation, and just be in that place of allowing trust into our own lives.
Andrea Crisp 18:24
In this meditation today, we are going to take time to develop trust. Perhaps you have been in a place in your life where you have wanted to deepen that connection, deepen that trust with yourself, with God, Source, Energy, with others in your life. For the purpose of this meditation, set intention, and focus on one of the three, yourself, God, or others. Take a deep breath all the way to your belly. And as you exhale, allow your body to completely relax.
Andrea Crisp 19:21
Take another breath in and as you inhale, allow yourself to be filled with that light energy. And as you exhale, release any stress, or anxiety, or discomfort that you may be feeling. Imagine that you are in a place where you feel completely held, supported by everything and everyone around you. Visualize where you are, what that looks like, and how you feel. And as you get that visual in your mind's eye, allow it to become even more clear. Pulling the colors and vibrancy, bringing it to life in your mind. And allow those feelings of being supported, and held completely fill your entire body.
Andrea Crisp 21:04
Being held and supported in this way allows you to completely trust and deepen that relationship with yourself, your ability to make decisions, be resourceful. Take risk to start new things, and to grow, and expand. Deepening trust allows you to completely connect with yourself in a whole new way. Letting go and forgiving any part of you that feels like you have disappointed yourself, that you haven't met expectation, or you have fallen short in some way. And as you release any of those feelings, and emotions, allow yourself to deepen that connection of trust with yourself that it's okay when things aren't perfect, that it's okay when things don't turn out exactly the way you had intended. That it's okay, that you are not exactly in the position you'd hoped you would be. But that you can create forward momentum in your life. Because you now trust yourself to walk out those desires in your life, and bring those desires clear into your mind's eye. Getting a full complete picture of what it would look like to be in the fullness of your desire, trusting that you have the capacity and capability to bring that about.
Andrea Crisp 23:50
Take a deep breath all the way to your belly, and allow yourself to completely feel how excited and at peace you are when this desire is complete. Knowing that you have been able to trust in a whole new dimension Take one more breath all the way to your belly and exhale. And when you're ready, you can bring movement to your hands and feet. slowly waking up your body, bringing back your awareness to the here and now. And when you're ready you may open your eyes. Friend thank you for hanging out love ya! Until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.
Andrea Crisp 25:06
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