Acceptance

218 | Are You Ready For Radical Self Acceptance

WITH STEFANIE EDWARDS

 
 
 
The marriage between action and energy is so important, allowing ourselves to believe while also taking action.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Do you feel completely disconnected body, soul, and spirit? That is how I felt 75 days ago (right before I started 75 Hard). I was struggling to show up for myself and my business because I lacked the energy. My friend Stefanie suggested we do 75 Hard together and with some quick decision-making, we decided to commit on the spot. Today on the podcast we are sharing this life-changing journey with you.

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Your mindset is your greatest asset! But it is also what may be holding you back from taking that next step in your life. Are you ready to reframe your mindset so that you can step more confidently into your purpose?

 

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Has there ever been something that you really wanted to do? But you felt like it was impossible, like there was no way you could ever achieve this outcome? Well, when I heard of 75 hard, that was exactly how I felt. That was until my friend Stephanie, recommended we do it together. Today in the podcast, Stephanie and I chat about our journey through 75 hard, and we're going to tell you all about it, what it is and how it transformed our lives and business.

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You're listening to The Couragecast a show to equip and empower you to live bravely. Each week, we'll share solo episodes and conversations with amazing people who have been willing to face their fear and pursue their purpose. With a blend of practical and spiritual advice. We'll help you take brave steps in your own life. Now, here's your host, mindset and competence coach, author, and your secret weapon.

1:03
Hey there, welcome to The Couragecast. My name is Andrea Crisp, and I am so excited that you are joining me today. If we are connected on Instagram, you may have noticed that I have been posting over the past few months about a journey that I had been on called 75 Hard. So today on the show, I am going to unpack what I have experienced over the past 75 days. And my friend Stephanie Edwards is also going to be joining me on the show, talking about how it has impacted her life as well. So without further ado, here is my conversation with Stephanie Edwards.

Stephanie Edwards, we are back. I am so excited to have you back on the podcast today. And I think it's been like almost a year. Since you are on the show. And man, we have had quite the journey over the past year, but especially over the past 75 days, which is why I invited you back onto the podcast. And those of the people who have listened to the podcast, or maybe even followed me on Instagram, maybe don't realize that I am actually doing this journey with another person. 75 hard. But here you are. You get to tell part of your journey as well as you know me telling a little bit of mine. But before we get into that, I would love for people to kind of get to know you. And just feel free to share a little bit about yourself. Those of you who have met Stephanie before, I will link to her original podcast on here and you can take a listen. It's a great episode. But I'll I'll let you go with it. Tell us a little bit who you are.

2:48
Hello, everybody. Yes. So I get to hang out with Andrea. Every week, we chat about all kinds of things. And so it's fun just to bring this conversation here and have this conversation now with you guys. It's yeah, when was it? So however long ago that we started 75 hard, I had this idea, it just popped into my social feed about 75 hard and I brought it to Andrea one day on our weekly call. And she was like, let's do it, we can start today.

2:54
We did.

3:23
That's kind of been the energy that we took into this undertaking, I guess it's gonna say project. But it's really been way more than that. And I introducing myself, I started there because so much has changed about me and who I am and what I've embraced and bodied, and all these different things since beginning this journey.

I love how you say that and start start with that because it is definitely has been a transformational 75 days, like we're, we're not to the exact end. But by the time this podcast airs, we will have just concluded the official version of 75 Hard well talk about, you know, where we go from here and how that is going to look for each of us. But, you know, in this journey together and actually walking it out, you know, where we started, where you started? And where I started, is, you know, I don't think I'm showing up as the same person. I don't know if you'd say the same thing.

But we have both shifted, and I felt that big way. Okay, so let's kind of start there. Yeah. Can you remember what you were feeling like how you were showing up? When this started?

4:41
Terrible. I was feeling terrible about myself. I think you know, I was really at a point where I was so low energy. And I think I had said to you on one of our calls. We we do talk once a week and this is something we've been doing doing for a year. So those of you who don't know Stephanie as somebody who is really expanding in my life. And so when we have these conversations, we talk about anything from, you know, business to life to health and fitness to money, to dreams to manifestation.

We talk about, we seriously have all the conversations. Yeah. And so when when I was talking to you that day, I was, you know, just really telling you that I had been on a call in my Unblock Abundance group that I was a part of. And I was sharing with them how I had just really been feeling like, the next step for me was really to take my, my health and fitness seriously. And I was really low energy. And I was finding that it was really hard for me to put into practice the things that I really wanted to put into practice when it came to finances. Because I was always tired. And that's when you said to me, you're like, Well, you know, I've been thinking about, you know, doing 75 hard. Do you want to do it? And I was I literally jumped on it and said, Yes. Let's start today. Yes. And so that's why I love by the way, because you don't have to wait to start till Monday. Yeah, we start literally, we started on the Wednesday. We started on a Wednesday, just like done like let's No, no need to make a plan. No need to have any other decisions made. Like we're just diving in. Okay, love that. So for the person who's never heard of 75 heard, right. So like, Now, tell them to explain. Yeah, you go ahead. You explain what is it exactly.

6:39
So 75 Hard was, oh, I don't even remember his name. I'm sorry. It was created by a guy. And it's just here's your plan that you're going to follow for the next 75 days. No exceptions, no excuses, you're going to do it. So what is it that you're doing, you're going to drink a gallon of water every single day. So to hydrate, you're going to follow a meal plan and you get to choose what that is that you're going to stay committed to it for 75 days, you're going to work out twice a day, one of which must be outside, no exceptions. And it's for 45 minutes apiece, each workout, you're going to read a physical nonfiction book. And I say that because he says no audio books aloud.

And so we were opening up our minds to own different kinds of things by reading all these new books, at least 10 pages a day. And take a picture. And that's the one I always forget. Every single day to track your progress. Yeah. Oh, and no alcohol. Yeah. Yeah, I think. Yeah. And, you know, it's so funny.

7:41
Because at the beginning, I said, Okay, well, what are we going to do to stay accountable? Yeah. And you're like, I don't know. And I said, Well, we're gonna, why don't we send each other our our progress picture every day? And you were like, what?

7:55
That was not something I was excited about. Like, what do you mean?

8:01
And there's something even just starting there, that honestly has shifted for me. And because, you know, it's funny, like, there was like, maybe two or three places locations that I took that picture, every time. Yeah, and but I got to a point where I was able to stand in front of the mirror, full length mirror, and take a picture of myself every single day without

just wanting to berate myself, like wanting to be like, Oh, I hate this or this. And it wasn't about like, How good can I look? Or, you know, it wasn't about that it was about I'm doing this for me. And this is a, you know, this is for me, and this is to document it. And I would take the picture. And I stopped worrying about what I looked like, over the 75 days. Yes, definitely.

8:57
Yeah. I had to going back to because you called me out on it, but I did it feel that, like, I have to send Andrea this picture every day. And the reason I did that, in case for listeners, we live in different countries. So we have yet to meet in person, even though we talk every single week and have for over a year. We live in different countries. And so Andrew has seen me on Zoom and zoom is like you know, chest up, right? And she sees me on Instagram, but once again, I curate those pictures. I don't buy workout pictures on Instagram typically. So Andrea has necessarily no idea of what I look like chest down. And that really got in my head because like oh my goodness, now she's gonna see that I'm overweight. And as if like I was hiding that before because I don't but anyhow, it was just like Like, I had all this mind drama about it. And I remember Do you remember I said, Okay, I'll just send you had pictures. Yeah. Like, I was like,

Okay, I'm just gonna send this image of myself. And that's one of the biggest things that I've shifted, because she's now seeing all of me, I've sent her all kinds of pictures at all different points in the day and like hot, sweaty messes to, you know, makeup done, whatever. But like, I'm not hiding anymore in my pictures. And I feel that because I'm not hiding anymore in who I am. And it's because of the expansion that I had going through this journey.

And the shift that I felt and so I was like, it's okay to be fully present. And that means allowing myself to be fully seen. And so that was a big shift to for me is to be able to release my own stigma. And because that's all it is, it's my own judgment against myself about what I think I look like.

11:00
I totally agree with that. Like, I'm, I'm right there with you. I think there's oftentimes like, where I look back, even just on a picture that I came across the other day, wasn't this year, but it was a couple years ago. And I looked at and I was like wow, Andrea. Like what in the world and, and I think I stopped having compassion for myself, somewhere along the way. And this gave me this compassion, but also acceptance for myself in the change, you know, like, as I was working through,you know, how my body looks and how I feel in my body, right? As we go through the process, there's a lot of the aspects of 75 hard that felt easy to me. Yeah, like no alcohol. I was like, Well, I rarely drink anyways, not a big deal. So I found that was like, super easy. Where I know for some people, they would be like, Oh, that's really hard. And how can you do that for 75 days? And I want to know, from your perspective, like, what was the easy part of it for you? And what was the hard part of it for you?

12:20
Yeah. I'm leaning into that question. That's why I'm pausing for a second because it was still kind of thinking about the shift with taking the picture.

And the releasing the judgment, I think that was the hardest part. And so tying that back in it, because it's when we are seeing ourselves only in one way, and we can't see what others can see in us which, FYI, one of the reasons I've continued to have these amazing conversations with Andrea every week is because Andrea calls out and sees things in me that I limit myself, I don't allow myself to see all the time.And vice versa, like I feel like this is a gift that we give each other.

And so but going through 75 hard, because every day I had to show up, and do something to take care of my body, so that my body could also give that to me, what I was asking of it was I had to make that shift. And that's where the greater self love and the compassion like you were speaking to, started to evolve and started to come in as I was releasing the judgment, because I was like, wow, what are these new things called endorphins.

We don't doing these intense workouts in the morning that now I'm more awake. Now I feel more alive in my body. And my body certainly feel better throughout the day. So now I want to move my body more like and I started to, I talked about my body as if it's a separate entity, sometimes, so hang with me. But like, I get to this place where I'm like, I was not loving my body. I was so miserable with how I felt and how I looked, or the judgment I was putting on myself. So yeah, I felt like you know, just like exhausted and frumpy every day. And now it's like I'm getting up and I'm moving first thing in the morning and I'm having gratitude for how my body is working. And now how it's like lighting up and feeling better. And that's got easier and easier. The further I went that now it's like, I wake up at 5am I'm at the gym at six. I'm working out for an hour. Like that wasn't me that first week. I mean it was but I was dragging myself to do it. Whereas now it's like I want to go. You had a huge transformation when you started going and you shifted from doing your yoga classes in the morning to doing a rowing class and that is like probably I want to say after like, I don't know, four or five days.

As of rowing, I could notice a huge change in you when it came to like, how you were feeling about the journey and yourself. Yes. So tell us a little bit about what happened, then. Yes. And okay, so rowing, if you don't know, because I honestly had no idea what rowing was. It's like, based on the idea of like being in a boat rowing, and taking that sport, and they have these machines called ERGs, or rowing machines, and you're, you're moving your, like, 80% of your body is activated in this class, because it's your legs, your abs, your arms, all these different body parts. And it's like high impact aerobics without the stress in your body. So I say all it is because I was completely fascinated by it. But I was in my first week, my yoga class only met certain days of the week. And I was like, I really would like to have my workout done first thing in the morning, at least one of them. That was my intention. That was what I was wanting. And then I thought about it, I was like, okay, but where else could I go. And I really don't want to lift weights. And like I just had all these things are like, I don't want this. I don't want this. But I don't know what to do want besides an early morning workout class, that's going to be awesome. It's going to feel great. And just setting that intention of what I didn't want. And where I was being clear, even though I yet didn't know about rowing, I completely manifested a rowing class, it's only a 10 minute drive from my house. It's so easy it first thing in the morning, and is this awesome environment, so much energy in the class, I build off of that I have an amazing workout in the rest of the day, my tone is totally different. I manifested that out of nowhere, like, I didn't even know it existed is the point of what I'm trying to stress here. And it came into my world and I just trusted I was like, okay, and I just bought it immediately. And it has been the biggest transformation. I've been doing it for two months now. I go five times a week. It is it's life giving to me. And because it's activating my body in a different way that I had honestly gotten to a point where I was like, Okay, this isn't possible for me. I'm not a runner. I'm not a this guy was just like saying, I'm not all these things. And it taught me No, I am. I just had to find what lights me up that is jamming with my energy and it's it's brought out more energy from me. That's awesome. You know, it's funny, I did not go to the gym, except for once.

17:31
75 days. But what I did in the morning was I started doing a really early morning walk with the dog. And, you know, it's funny because you're like, Okay, well, big deal. But my dog at that point, when we started 75 hard, was not walking very well on the leash at all. So for me, you know, my my walks consisted of going out into the woods every day, and I had to drive out there and there was like a whole thing. It was just a whole thing. And I had made a an intention towards at a certain time in the summer, which we haven't even like reached technical summer yet that I would walk to a certain point in my work from my house with my dog and back. Well, within, I don't know, three days of me getting up early. I had already hit that marker. And it was the first time because there was no dogs out on the street. She was you know, easy to walk on the leash. And we did it every morning. And our ears just flickered as I said that.

And eventually what we were doing is we were taking walks. You know, in the morning, we were taking a walk in the afternoon, we were taking a walk in the evening. And it was you know, it was good for her. It was good for me. And I started to really see like the very thing that I I guess I was really struggling with which is you know, like, how am I gonna get this dog to do this was really honestly, Stephanie. My energy that had to shift? Yes, because I was showing up frustrated trying to do it with her all the time. And in the morning, you know, I was halfway be like crawling out of bed. And again, I'm in Canada, you're in Tennessee. So it was a little cooler when we first started here. Yeah, I you know, there was still like, you know, starting Oh, yeah, like I mean, we were not it wasn't like summertime here. And I was getting up and doing this walk and I noticed how I was showing up differently with her. Yeah, and that was my first indication to me that there was something happening, that this wasn't just about, you know, my fitness. It was about what am I capable of and what do I believe to be true for my life and for myself? Yes. And so, yeah, I like it.

20:00
It was the release of some resistance.

20:02
Absolutely. Because I have felt, yeah, I've had a lot of resistance around, you know, the way I did things, things had to be a certain way. And if I'm just really honest about it, like, there have been times in my life where I did better cardio than the past 75 days. Yeah, I have not been great to do the cardio I, I can run I do run. I didn't run except for once. I really just didn't do that. I think for me, this was a journey about expansion for me, and really leaning into the possibility and staying in things. When it when I didn't feel like I wanted to, or it didn't feel hard, or I was like, Oh, is this over yet? You know?

And for me, that's kind of where I felt like it was like, no, just keep going, just keep going. Because I think so often, we think all of the things that we have to do in life are going to be this Picture Perfect journey. And we don't really share like, oh, no, it actually wasn't that picture. Perfect. It you know, there were there were times where it was difficult.

So I wanted to ask you a couple questions. And I kind of divided them into little like, snippets, but how has your life changed? And I'm gonna go into different things. I'm gonna also go into your outlook, or start with a huge question, your outlook, your health and your business. Okay, so I want like, but just how would you say in general, like, and you don't have to, like say like, you know, all of your like, you know, gory secrets or anything, but your life in general has now changed? What changed? For sure. For sure. Yeah.

21:48
And yeah, like picking up what you were just talking about, like, it's the release of so much resistance. And for me, resistance shows up a lot of times it's judgment.

And so I resist moving into do things because I'm judging, like, for example, with the higher energy aerobics like, I didn't even know that rowing existed, but I didn't even think I could do that anymore, because of the knee pain that I had. So I resisted even trying, and moving my body in that way, because I was judging myself that I was too old, I was too fat, I was too all these things to be able to do that. And this 75 hard, I have been doing subconscious work as well throughout this process, which is something extra. But all of this has shifted my perspective to be like, Okay, there's my thought I found it. But is that really what is only possible for me? Or am I in resistance? Am I judging myself somehow? And that's huge, because I'm working on judging myself a lot less, judging others a lot less, like I catch it in random ways. judging somebody just for what they're wearing. I'm like, Why, why, why that's none of my business. Like, why am I doing and just being aware of this s come out of this process? So same thing, like putting that back at you like, how has this like, outside of just the activity of moving our bodies and taking care of our bodies? How has it opened up?

23:23
So much more for you, you know, I have always had this like thought in my mind where I had to compartmentalize what I was doing. So if I was going to focus on one thing it was, could only be the one thing, but it just so happened that I was working on my finances and my abundance mindset. Yeah, it was, you know, just so happened to coincide of the fact that we were doing 75 hard at the same time, you and I, we were talking about the expansion we are experiencing. And then you and I also, you know, kind of really got, you know, dialed into some teachings on the subconscious, you know, more from Bob Proctor, Proctor Gallagher. And we talked about that at some serious length. And then, you know, just crazy things started opening up for me, like, for example, a friend of mine was posting about a coach that needed to get some hours for her

ICF credentials. And she's doing coaching, so I jumped in on it. And now she's coaching me in relationships. And that was something I was like thinking there's no way that I could focus on abundance, relationships, health, and also do the subconscious work at the same time. Not a chance. And I think I've started to see how much more capacity I have. Huh? Because 75 Hard was like, you know, did you do the two walks was one outside. Did you drink all the water? I mean, those things seem a lot easier now.

And then they did at the beginning. But it was like, there was a list of things I had to do besides the fact of working besides the fact of like actually being present in life, and doing all, you know, working with clients, all those things, you know, I started to realize, yes, I have capacity, greater capacity for these things in my life. And I don't have to, like, defer them continue to defer what it is that I desire for another time in my life. So that, to me was the biggest, the biggest one. Now. How about your outlook? Like, your outlook on? What, what you want moving forward? Now, like, how is that shifted?

25:44
A lot, the shift is remarkable, because my outlook is much more positive. Because my energy is much more positive. I'm carrying with me. So and like, it's, it's like a charge is the best way to describe it, because I was so negatively charged before. And you didn't even think I was a negative person. It was once again, the judgments and the own doubt that I had in myself, and I was carrying the shame about my body, to lighting myself up with this energy, both naturally, that's coming from the endorphins I'm releasing every day. And also from the mental work that I'm doing. And it's, I feel so much better.

Because I've activated, cleaner,more conscious, more empowering energy every single day.

26:38
Do you find like, you know, talking about vibrational frequency that that shifted for you. And your outlook was able to change because, like, I even found as I was, like, starting to eat more healthy and less sugar, I was, you know, like, Oh, I feel so much better. And all the sudden you're just even there, it's like your outlook is better, because it's like, I felt less foggy, I felt clearer.

And that was a huge thing for me was thinking like, wow, like, it's amazing how we want so many things in life. And yet when it comes to, you know, the vibrational frequency or physical body is on that we're clogging it up and jumping.

And, you know, it hasn't been a perfect go for me, you know, like I've had, you know, ebbs and flows in it. But for the most part, I have really done pretty well. And so I'm very end even like this morning getting up and I again, I feel clearer, I feel, you know, capable of making decisions.

Your health, How's your health changed

27:54
a lot. Like bringing it back to what you were just saying about the food. It didn't realize, I thought it was a pretty healthy eater.

But I chose my meal plan to eliminate two ingredients out of my diet. And that was it. That was my only change name as I was going to remove these two ingredients. And just by doing that, I've been able to regulate my blood sugar. And

at least that's what I call it. But it's like, because I'm not having these ups and downs in these crashes and not having them like you said the brain fog. I also already drank a lot of water. But now I'm drinking a gallon of water, which does make a difference. Yep. And it's that has like cleared up

my brain as well. And I can't even until you are there in your experience it you can't fully understand how much better you are going to feel on the other side of it. Because it's not just one thing. It's your whole body opening up. And to give you an example of this, like I've been on a couple I was just on a call last week.

Nobody on that group had seen me since I started 75 hard in hearing I'm now at the end of it. So I've had plenty of time for my body to be fully hydrated and nourished and all the ways like a and people were like 70 You look like you're glowing about me on zoom.

No makeup is different. No anything is different. Like it's just I am different yet and I'm literally glowing from the inside out. Yeah. Because my body feels better. And my energy is that Yeah.

29:37
Same thing. I would I 100% agree with that. I would say like people have noticed it and they said stuff like you just showing up differently. Yeah, and I'm like I am and it's funny because I'm like I don't you know I don't know I'm not doing anything different. You know, I'm just but I do feel a difference. There has been times where

I've had, you know, some frustrations around like, oh, things are still not fitting the way I want to fit, you know. And that kind of went into my old mindset of like, you know, this is just about weight. And this is just about how I look.

But really, for me, one of the things that just like, like recently shifted for me was, I really started to understand that when it comes to love, when it comes to self love, that if I can't love myself as I am, then how can I expect that someone would love me and accept me the way I am? And I don't necessarily think that I want to stay the same. You know, I think that, you know, as we're talking about this, there's so many areas of our lives that are expanding, and shifting right. And I will continue to do that in every way. But in the same way, I was starting to see that okay, well, you know, full disclosure, at this point, I only lost five pounds. Okay. I wanted it to be 20. That did not happen. So, you know, they're the old program running is like, well see, you only lost five pounds. And I've started to really see like, No, this was more about learning to love myself, and love my body. And, and be in this place of like, just radical self acceptance. Yes. And, and feel like for me, that that's how I feel about myself. And so when I see myself or show up for things, people are saying, well, you're glowing, or you've shifted like, Wow, I feel like that's what I'm showing. Yes, I'm honoring myself in a way that I haven't. And it's not just by what I'm doing. But how I perceive myself, which I think is a big shift.

32:01
I think that's been a big theme for you throughout this process. We've had that conversation a good bit diving into that is, how are you going to honor yourself?

Yeah, in all different kinds of ways that's come up for you. And yes, because it's de restated, again, for anybody who's interested in trying a journey like this. It is not just about what you are getting up, or what you are doing physically to move your body. Yeah, it is all the other shifts that are going to come out of this. Yes. Because when I tell people about it, they're like, Oh, that's not for me. I could never work out that much. You're gonna do a whole gallon of water a day.

32:42
Let's say like, oh, you lost me. I can't have alcohol. Or you lost me. I have to read. I'm like, I have to read. Yeah. That's why last year, I was like, wow, I was like, you know? Yeah, once again, no judge yet from where you're at. And it's just so interesting how immediately, we are noticing, because to us now, it's become a way of living? Yeah.

33:06
And we're just like, No, it is freed up more time, we have more energy, like, you're gonna just feel so much better. But once again, you have to be in the right space to accept it into your life and be ready to experience a change. Because it's a commitment you've got to buy into. Yeah, and if you're not sold on that, we can, you don't have the accountability. I mean, we were lucky to have each other every single day. And we were encouraging each other to keep going in, you know, now, it's like, we just post our pictures. We don't even have to say anything back and forth. But in the beginning, we were like, how are you doing? It's okay, yeah, this is really hard. Like we were Yeah, we were really encouraging and holding each other in that space as we needed it.

33:47
And I noticed that even like, you know, coming towards the end of like, putting push putting the pictures in, it was more for me. It was It wasn't like, you know, I need her to see this. It's like, no, I need to do it so that I did it. You know, and that was what it became because like, there was never any point in time where I was like, seeing your pictures that I even was like, okay, like, you know, I didn't it was like there was if it was there or not there. It didn't matter when it was there or not there. The point wasn't, it was whether or not we were showing up for ourselves. Yes, that ended up being the biggest thing. Now, I have experienced and I know you have experienced too, but I'd love to hear how has your business transformed because of this? Yes. And this is fun, because I went into this feeling. I think wonky is a good word.

34:47
So I'm down with that. And just like chaotic in my mind about what I was going to do, and once again because there's always I'm I fight the judgment and

See how I wanted to present myself. And I just at the same time that we started this, I also went off social, I cleansed myself from that. I only just came back on last week. Because I was like, Oh, I feel like I have all these mixed signals. And I'm putting out mixed signals. And it just wasn't, I wasn't in a good space. And this process of growing through 75 hard, going through this journey experience has brought me to a better once again, belief in myself more energy, more focus, that I can make the commitment, because I could see what I was doing every single day.

Keeping this commitment to myself to do these workouts to eat this way, all these things. And it's like, wow, Stephanie, you're really disciplined. And wow, like, you can really do that like this. There's this kind of conversations, because I was deepening the gratitude that I had for myself, in my blog, you said the capacity for what we could hold. And it was like, I bet I could do this in my business. Like I bet I could, you know, because my business is me. Right? Like, it was like, I bet I could do it like this. And it just like, everything just started to get more clear, because I was shifting the belief I was having for myself. How about you? That's good.

36:21
That that's good. Yeah. Cuz shifting the belief about what's possible, right. And about what you have to offer, I think that stands out to me the most is just this unwavering belief that what I'm putting out into the world is needed and is valuable. And that don't have to second guess it. And there's going to be ebbs and flows within it.

I started a new program while we were doing this, yes, I launched and I'm about to launch another one. And so there were definitely things where I was, you know, showing up differently for myself and for for my clients. And I felt like in the process, like in this whole encompassing process that I elevated, where I'm going, yes, when it comes to my business, so the things that were important to me before or where I perceive I was no longer serving me. Yes. So I feel like I've been able to release a few things to let go and say, No, I don't want to do that anymore. That's not where I want to go. That's not who I want to work with. And I've kind of you know, just put it out into the universe and energetically and been like, okay, and I understand here's the thing. I'm totally get a rabbit trail here. But I'm with somebody who I've heard there's action that has to be taken, like, yes, so we both know that anybody's done. It was like, yes, that is so true. But when it comes to energy work, there, the marriage between action and energy is so important, because it's like allowing ourselves to believe energetically and hold space energetically for what we truly desire. Yes, also requires action. Yes. And I feel like there were times where I would slip back and forth between the two, I would go just in action mode, action, action, action, action, action. And then I would go into like, Oh, I'm just gonna meditate and hold space, and you know, all these lovely fun things. And then I was finding that with just the action, I was exhausted. With just the meditation, I was like, nothing's happening.

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And I didn't realize that there was a part that I needed to marry the two. And realize, as I elevated that I could continue to take these action steps and they didn't have to be huge all the time. Yes. Sometimes there were just little steps. Yeah, yes. You use two very powerful words to describe your energy. And I want to call it out so that the listeners grab this, you said unwavering and elevate it. We elevated our energy. So that means like before, where we were having struggles or disbelief, not holding space, like for what was really possible for us in what we were doing in our lives and our business and for our bodies. Like we've elevated that because our energy has risen. Our belief has shaped gotten stronger. And it's unwavering. Now, like before we would be so do you think about what unwavering is like solid? Yeah, definite firm. Make

And now we are energetic matches for things that we were not at the start of this. And that's what we're both feeling is because new things are coming into our lives. We're attracting different types of clients, because we are now energetic matches for them. Whereas before, we may have had an intention, but we weren't ready for it. No, no, and God's not going to give us what we're not ready for the key is going to match our energy like, and so now we're feeling it, we're stepping into that in a bigger way.That, to me, is the most profound thing I've gotten out of this.

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I totally agree. Like there was, there was something that happened the other day, and I literally just felt this huge, like, moment where it just like clicked, it all fell into place, in the sense of where I was, like, Oh, this is what this means. It just means that I am in a new space to really believe I deserve it, I'm worthy.

That this is a journey that I'm always gonna be shifting and changing. I'm always going to be growing. But I'm not at a deficit. I'm not in lack. i Not at you know, I'm not behind. I'm not you know, and now, you know, you were saying before, we were talking about working out and you're saying I'm not a runner, you know, like those are the things that used to go through your mind. Right? Right. And I remember what I used to identify not being a runner. And now I do even though I don't run all the time, I know I am capable of running, because there were years where I said I wasn't, and I legitimately did not run. And now I feel that I like I can identify as someone who is willing to be in this space to hold this space for myself. When it comes to, you know, eating well working out, growing my spirituality, my emotional bandwidth, my subconscious mind or programming, growing my business, you know, believing for, you know, relational things in my life, abundance, and really being able to say, yeah, like, I'm there.

I believe I'm not perfect. But on there. Yes.

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Yeah. That being like, going back to where we started a conversation open to more possibilities. Yeah, it's, I heard somebody say one time, they're like, Okay, possibility, like, I bet you can believe most things could be possible. But is it really probable, like the odds are in your favor that it could happen? As I Oh, that's an interesting word description. But I, I'm there now, like I see the probability of things actually taking place, because it has shifted for you. And for me, what we are you capable of holding?

Yeah, the energy thing is such a big thing. And we've we've been doing this work. But we've also been studying a lot, like you said, give him credit, like with Bob Proctor.

And just understanding more and more about the energy work. And I've read different books about energy, I've been to see an energy healer a couple of times. Now, I don't even know that I was. First of all, I wasn't even aware any of this existed prior to

like this energy work type stuff. And then to go and be open to seeing somebody to do energy healing on trapped emotions. I didn't know what that was prior to this. But I was in the space that I was ready that when that information came, and then I was like, I would love to have a person like that in my life, I completely out of nowhere and manifest somebody whose lives like 10 minutes away from me that's willing to meet with me to do this work. And I did it for me and my son, like, it was amazing.

How just so many different things have come out of this, that we could just go on and on about all the amazing abundance of things that have happened. Yeah. And it's because we made a commitment to ourselves. And we didn't waver on that we stuck with the commitment and raised our energy that now we can see things differently. Like that's the premise of why this works. Yeah.

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And, you know, if I was to go back and say, because my original goal, would love to lose 20 pounds. I did not last five. But what I trade that what I learned and what I experienced for 20 pounds. Heck now. Like, I can't even imagine now. Like just that being the goal. Like only loss of weight. Yes. You mean like I'm like, really? That's it? Like that's all I wanted, and I'm in the gift that I was given through showing up for myself every single day in this. Yeah. And by the end, I will reiterate again, not perfectly, because I did not do this perfectly was that I kept showing up? Yes. And even though I didn't do it perfectly, I wasn't like, well, you're gonna start over again. You know, it's just like, No, just keep going. Yes, that's it like it, there's no judgment of like, did you do this or not this. And I think that is probably one of the biggest lessons also, for me coming out of this is that, you know, I have judge myself so harshly in so many areas of my life for so long. That, you know, I wouldn't do things because unless it was going to be perfect. Or I could show up and just the exact way I wanted to, I would not do it, and get the exact result I'm looking for. Right, and the results that I have gotten. And I don't know if you'll say the same thing have far exceeded what I would have imagined if I would have just tried to be perfect in this journey.

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So yeah, and there's the big business lesson, right? Like, instead of waiting to think that it's perfect before you can release something, put it out there and like, just keep going, keep putting it, keep moving forward, keep taking that action, just like we were doing here with this challenge. And what we are opening ourselves up to is far exceeds what we think we needed, or what we set that intention for what we were going for. Yeah, yeah. This has been this has been amazing. So what are you?

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What are you going to do? How are you going to approach moving forward from here on out? Yes.

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It has become such an ingrained part of my life that I can't imagine giving it up. My oldest child has been a part of this a lot with me, because he's been homeschooling throughout this journey. So he goes on Xbox and whatnot with me. And he's tried at times, it's really interesting to catch me like doing something wrong, or are you going to make it today? Are you really going to get that extra workout? And like,that's kind of a spirit sometimes. And then sometimes he's like, wow, we're already done with our walk. Like, we've gotten it so fast. And he catches that or like, the other day, he saw me jog with my kid. He's like, wow, you were actually running fast.

It has just changed in so many ways. And when when you hear a kid to give you honest, raw feedback, Oh, yeah. Like it's present. It's there and the model that I've set for him, I wouldn't give that up either. But I cannot imagine going back to being somebody who wakes up and immediately feels achy versus somebody who wakes up and it's like, let's go get this done. Yeah. And I look forward to what, that's what I'm going to feel like because then when I get home, and I've showered, and I dive into my work, my brain is already awake.

And I'm like, I'm not going to give that up. I'm like, I have come to this place where I'm like, because it Andrea had asked me this before, and she's like, What are you gonna do after I give it off? Yeah, it's so ingrained to know who I am, I'm going to keep going. Because why would I release these kinds of results? Now I know people have done it. And they, you know, for whatever reason, they they don't stay with it. Yeah. For me, it feels like the right thing to do. And I'm going to keep going for. Yeah, I love that. You know, for me, the, I think the one adaptation that I'm going to do, which I don't know, we'll see how this works. But is I'm going to implement some rest days.

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I feel like that was maybe one of the hardest things for me was not feeling like on the days where I just my body really was saying like, You need to rest. Like, oh, I got to do these workouts. And I would just keep pushing through.

Because I have a dog. You know, there's a lot of the outside component of this that has to happen no matter what. Yeah. And so there's parts of it that are just going to stay with me, but I think what I've started to realize is like, you know, we had to do one one workout outside that was part of the deal as well. And so for me, I'm like, okay, that's easy. A 45 minute walk every single day with my dog is not a hard ask for me to do.

And also, I think for me, it'll be like, you know, on the days where I'm resting, it'll be just a walk and rest. Yeah, and that I think I will really try and implement I think otherwise I want to keep kind of the same thing going. I am

Not gonna lie looking forward to a nice glass of wine.As you know, a way to celebrate and also, you know, just you know, seeing how, but now it doesn't seem like this is something I do it just as a way I live. Yeah. So it kind of feels like after 75 days like this is very normal. I mean, I even to the amount of water and when I drink it, yeah. Like, I know how much water I need when I need to drink it. And if I drink it too late, I'll be up all night peeing. So yeah, so this is, this has been so amazing. And you know, at the end of the day, you ended up getting a puppy.

This week, you brought home a puppy, and, and so like, lots of lot of things have changed even for you, you know, when it comes to like how things are, are moving. So you're going to be doing some, some outdoor puppy walk, I definitely have more activities in my life. More on the horizon?

This is amazing. So what how can people connect with you what's kind of going on in your world that you can share with people I know, You've been so instrumental in my life helping me when it comes to really understanding who I am when it comes to how I show up, you know, with not only my messaging and marketing, and just really helping me kind of strategize things, but also really how I do it from a place of really understanding me. So what what are you doing right now that people can kind of jump in on?

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Yes, if this conversation is interesting to you, then I encourage you to check out what I'm doing next. Because I am adapting this with manifestation with like getting clear and making that commitment to yourself for what you want. And I'm putting that together into a six week program. Taking the best parts of what we've done in 75, hard like activating your body, getting yourself into movement, I'm going to give you a specific plan on what you're going to eat, what you're going to be reading how you're going to be act, just like taking the things off of your plate. As far as how to make that decision, you just make the one time decision to go in, I'm gonna give you the support. So you stay committed to yourself, you have the accountability and like it is happening for six weeks that you can open yourself up to really see what you're capable of manifesting and bringing into your life. Because everything that we're talking about, has remarkably shaped, shifted, and transformed us into new versions of ourselves. And we're just more powerful women because of it. And I know that this is something I want to continue this work, yes, I dedicated for myself. But now I want to pour this back into other people's lives. And that's what this six week journey is going to be about. And I'm really, really excited about that taking place and showing people what they're capable of amazing. Well, I will link to that in the shownotes for people and I highly, highly encourage people to go and check it out. And get into your world because honestly, I am so grateful that we got to do this together. Like

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I think I look back and go wow, like, you know, I mean, we're not done, we still have the rest of this week that we're we're on this journey together specifically. But I just feel like in this in this container that we held for one another in this space, that what a what a gift to learn and to grow and to manifest and to have expansion. You know, in so many ways, not just when it comes to our physical, you know, outcome, but when it comes to everything, so, thank you. Thank you for for pushing me, thank you for suggesting it. And I look forward to seeing how things kind of work out for you as they move forward. Yes, it's gonna be good for you and for me, amen. Over the past five days, I can honestly say that so much in my life has really shifted, and the one word that I really feel encompasses. My journey is expansion. And I am so grateful to Stephanie for being on this journey with me. It truly was really a catalyst for me to move forward. And that accountability that we all need when it comes to truly unlocking our potential and really moving forward in our lives, whether it's in our health, our business, our finances, really makes a difference in

So I think sometimes we have to get right back to the basics. And it seems simple. But in the same way it is so needed. And I love that Stephanie is stepping out and really offering something that is going to help you start moving forward in your own life with really actually opening up a six week program to do this work to have the same kind of expansion that we experienced when we were doing 75 hard. And so she is going to be launching unlocking your potential bootcamp. And during the six weeks, it's going to be amazing, because you're going to not only really start moving your physical body and release endorphins, but you're going to become more aware and connect with your subconscious programming, you're going to make decisions that are going to help you take action in your life and in your business. And really, you're going to put yourself in a position to manifest through guided meditations and becoming really aware of what you truly desire. And Stephanie is going to be offering some group calls during that time. And I'm also going to be there as well. So you'll have access to me during this process as well. I will leave all of the links in the show notes for you to connect with Stephanie, and jump into her program called unlocking your potential bootcamp. Friend, I'm so glad that I got to share this journey in my own life with you. I hope it inspired you. I hope it encouraged you that you can do so much more in your own life as well. And until next time, remember, you have everything you need to live bravely.

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133 | Living Out A Season Of Gratitude + Acceptance

WITH ANDREA CRISP

 
It’s going to take making a few mistakes here and there until you figure out how things need to go in your world right now.
— Andrea Crisp
 

About This Episode:

Life is so mysterious and just when you think you may have something figured out — it goes and changes. That has proven to be true time and time again throughout this entire year. And with every magical moment that is experienced, there is also grief and loss that tags right alongside. 

We get both. The beauty and pain. 

There has been one word that has stood out to me, one word to describe how I am experiencing life right now and that is spacious. 

Creating space to live in the unknown, experiencing the ups and downs of uncertainty without trying to control it.

Creating space for intimacy in relationships by speaking the truth and not holding back. By loving when I don’t feel like loving and extending myself in times where I feel alone and I want someone to extend love to me. 

Creating space for resistance by trying new things and leaning into the tension of the moment, and conversations that need to be had, and feelings that are begging to be felt. 

Making space for creativity and experiencing the moments of failure when things don’t go as planned. Creating space for fun and nothingness all at the same time. Doing and being and finding the space in between. 

And I’m allowing the expansiveness of the space to be in me and to move through me. But I didn’t always feel that way. 

I spent so much of my life pushing away the pain, trying to not to deal with it that it didn’t even dawn on me I was also pushing away the beautiful moments as well. When I was trying to avoid my feelings and numbing out my out the hurt and loss, even the sting of rejection I had essentially pushed all of the most amazing things to the side as well. And I was left with nothing but an empty hole.

Not sure what your life has looked like over the past few weeks and months (or even year) but I can almost be certain that you have probably experienced something similar. There have been moments so incredible that you’ve treasured them in your heart and you wouldn’t change them for the world, but perhaps there has also been devastating loss and your heart may be feeling very fragile at the moment. 

I get that. More than you know. 

Today on the podcast we’re doing something a bit different. I want to walk you through a few questions at the end of the episode so that you can reflect on your life and what has brought you joy and sorrow. And I hope that by doing so you’ll gain a little bit of clarity and perhaps even feel like you can take back the ownership of your beautiful and spectacular life. 

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107 | Accepting This Present Moment

WITH BRADY TOOPS

 
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We are in the space in which all of life happens and to hold on to any one moment or any one feeling or any one thought causes suffering but to try to learn how to be open to be the space to which all of life can be experienced is the goal, and how do we stay open.
— Brady Toops
 

About Episode:

Learning to accept the present moment becomes the only antidote to pain and loss. Maybe you find yourself questioning your own faith, understanding of God, the divine. Perhaps you’ve left a community of believers, or perhaps you’ve never even been to a church in your life but you consider yourself a very spiritual person. I’d like to invite you into this conversation with Brady Toops as we explore spirituality and faith means to us on an individual level. 

In this episode, we talk about Brady’s addiction to success, how his deconstruction of faith altered the way he views the world and spirituality. We talk about why we resist letting go, and why pain is inevitable. 

"The pain of deconstruction, the drying up of monetary means forces us into a new place, that is life helping us grow, evolve and change. God is too kind to let us stay in the small place that we were in.” Brady Toops. 

Brady Toops is a singer-songwriter based out of Nashville, TN. Brady’s distinct and soulful sound garnered national acclaim. He appeared on Season 11 of ABC’s hit reality TV show, ’The Bachelorette’. Brady is the host of The Unravel, a podcast designed to both challenge and help you live more inspired. The Unravel explores spirituality and examines the deep questions of life. 

 
 
 
 

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