I know it’s hard. You put all your emotional energy into something that left you feeling disillusioned. The trust you had is now gone, and thoughts race through your mind like a runaway train. And, you vow to never put yourself in that position ever again. The disappointment is just to much to bear, and there is no way you’ll subject yourself to that again.
It’s completely natural to feel disappointed when life doesn’t seem to go your way. And, it's especially hard to swallow when you have set the expectations high, and you’ve missed the mark by leaps and bounds.
We’ve all been there. And it hurts, bad. For years I had high expectations of people in my life, and when they were unmet, it felt like a personal assault on the relationship. I would internalize it as something I had done wrong, and pull it back out when another relationship seemed to be headed in the same direction. It was a terrible feeling. Like I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Waiting to be disappointed.
Whether you've experienced the disappointment of relationships, lost opportunity, or even in yourself, there is a way to navigate the feelings that accompany it.
What happens when you face disappointment? How do you bounce back?
First of all, it’s important to remember that what you are thinking and feeling is temporary. Most of the time we allow thoughts and emotions from the past dictate how we relate to those around us. This can trigger a domino effect of disappointment within our lives. If you've experienced rejection before, then it's likely something similar will trigger the emotions associated with rejection.
There are a few things that you can start to do so that disappointment does not get the best of you.
Adjust your expectations. If you expect that a relationship or a business opportunity will satisfy your needs, it will be pretty painful when things don’t work out. A good rule of thumb is that you should have high expectations, but be adaptable when change is needed.
Check your motives. Ask yourself what result you are hoping to achieve through this opportunity. If you're putting all your eggs in one basket, hoping that this is going to be the solution to all your problems, you may end up sorely disappointed.
Leave room to expect better things. This may sound like a no brainer, but really it’s key to forward momentum.
Bouncing back from disappointment has less to do with resolving an issue in a relationship or getting what we want. It has way more to do with our perspective on life. It’s important to hold everything we’ve been given with a loose grip. While we have it in our hands, we can take care of it, but when it’s time to let it go — then we can do so with ease.